???? for the ladies in long term relationships.

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  • bulbadoof
    bulbadoof Posts: 1,058 Member
    If he's anything like any man I have ever had as a father figure, that's a budding case of alcoholism right there. Talk to him, try to help him work through his issues. Try to be a pillar of compassion and understanding, rather than nagging him about it. Giving him more **** might just push him to drinking more heavily. Find an al-anon family group and discuss the issues with people in the same situation.
  • JulesAtkinson1
    JulesAtkinson1 Posts: 219 Member
    As far as family goes I don't have any except my kids

    Child, I've been married for close to 30 years to the love of my life, and we have two now-grown wonderful children. The best piece of advice I can think to give you is this:
    I don't know what sex your children are, but that doesn't matter. What DOES matter is that children learn behavior. Unless you want a daughter who grows up thinking it's ok to have men treat her like this, or a son who grows up thinking it's ok to treat women like this, MAKE IT RIGHT, RIGHT NOW.
    GET. OUT. NOW.
    Your children will benefit greatly, you will benefit greatly, and I promise, you will find someone who loves and respects you AND your children.
    Don't wait until you think you have enough money. You never will. Don't wait until you've found the perfect job. You never will. I have a large family of functional alchoholics, and I'm here to tell you, IN EVERY CASE, the children are the ones that suffer the most. If you love them like I know you do, you will understand IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU, and you will make the hard choices you need to make.
    And that's my two cents.
  • gertudejekyl
    gertudejekyl Posts: 386 Member
    You need to start making your own money and then be free to live where you want. You know it is not right this way.
  • skinnywithin
    skinnywithin Posts: 1,392 Member
    NOPE my guy doesnt do this becasue if he did, He wouldnt be my guy ! Youare way to young to be in a relationship like this. I know its not easy to walk away but trust me YOU will thank yourself later !

    AND REMEMBER THIS: YOU teach people how to treat you ..so YOU have taught him that this behavior is OK by not doing anything about it.

    Life is to short not to be anything but Happy !
  • LivvyLinde
    LivvyLinde Posts: 82
    Nope. My bf does not do that. He actually likes to spend time with me. I think you deserve someone who can handle you when he's SOBER!!! :smile:
  • MikkLuhnRozzWhuh
    MikkLuhnRozzWhuh Posts: 240 Member
    I can understand guys like to have a beer or two after work each night . We just moved back to Washington from Arizona and are staying with my guys family til we find a place. We are low on money and I do not know his family that well not to mention it is a 45 minute drive from their house to his work ... He has been going to the bar after work and getting buzzed every night and this is a new thing. He also just informed me this will be an every night type of thing.... Just pisses me off. maybe I would like to get out of here for a few hours to go and do something. Not to mention leaves me here with his family and then when he comes home he eats and passes out and we dont get to talk... I just feel so frustrated right now.... not to mention he is risking getting in an accident or getting pulled over and getting a DUI . Yes we have talked and yes I have vented on a few other things about it. I am just curious do any of your guys do this???

    No.

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