What is with all the stipulations when friending someone?

Gurlyknockout
Gurlyknockout Posts: 115 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
What is with all the stipulations when friending someone on here?

I have read on many people bios that you…..A) Have to send them a message when friending them; of when and why your friending them. B) You can’t have too less of a calorie intake C)You have to log in all the time unless you have a excuse, D) Be a frequent commenter E)You have to engage with the person on a regular basis F)No people with a eating disorder.

WOW! That’s a lot of stipulations of being ones interwebs friend. I am new here but I guess there are many who have ed's that you have to put that in your bio? Are these stipulations common to being ones friend on here? Or are these people extreme?
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  • lizziebeth1028
    lizziebeth1028 Posts: 3,602 Member
    They may have had some bad experiences with mismatched interweb friendships. It has happened to me a few times. As much as we'd like to believe we're all here for the same reason....there are a lot of people out there with a way different approach and philosophy to weight loss and maintenance. I'm a 'eat more to weigh less' person and seeing constant posts in your news feed from a friends who eat less than a 1000 calories a day not positive, motivating or inspiring to me. I think people are just trying to cultivate a list of like minded friends. Although I admit when I was a newbie on here and saw people with restrictions to who their friends could be I thought it was kind of arrogant and pompous. Now i get it!
  • guapogringo
    guapogringo Posts: 201
    Too many creepers! Plus you are known by the company you keep.
  • lporter229
    lporter229 Posts: 4,907 Member
    I agree with lizziebeth. I am not in the business of "collecting" friends. I like to keep my friend list manageable because I like to remember who my friends are and why we connected in the first place. For me, having hundreds and hundreds of anonymous friends defeats the purpose.
  • juicy011
    juicy011 Posts: 200 Member
    yeah..... that's way too complicated. If you're hot it's motivation & a YES! :)

    edit : but..... I usually don't accept if their profile's not OPEN to read about them
  • Colonel_Brandon
    Colonel_Brandon Posts: 256 Member
    But all of you must admit - when you're new, you don't discriminate. It's the friendships you make initially that last the longest. And you didn't discriminate against them.... right? Just playing devil's advocate :)
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    My personal one is that you send a message with your FR. Especially if we've never talked or bantered on the board before. If you don' t, that's a red flag creeper.
  • Gurlyknockout
    Gurlyknockout Posts: 115 Member
    Yes I understand not wanting the ed around you but C, D, & E? Just seems a bit much. It’s almost a job in its self to be the person’s friend.
  • VTXJOCKEY
    VTXJOCKEY Posts: 362 Member
    It almost appears snobbish.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Would you walk up next to a person and not say a word and expect them to consider you a friend? Same thing here.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    As long as they are friends with Brett, they must be good people.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    As long as they are friends with Brett, they must be good people.
    Yes, that is referred to as the hero trump card \m/
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    It's called having high expectations? I suppose. I don't know.

    I'm easy. I just friend whoever friends me and if I see someone really interesting on the forums I'll friend them. :)
  • Gurlyknockout
    Gurlyknockout Posts: 115 Member
    But all of you must admit - when you're new, you don't discriminate. It's the friendships you make initially that last the longest. And you didn't discriminate against them.... right? Just playing devil's advocate :)

    My favorite play of them all :wink:
  • juicy011
    juicy011 Posts: 200 Member
    It almost appears snobbish.

    ^^^^^ this
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    As long as they are friends with Brett, they must be good people.
    Yes, that is referred to as the hero trump card \m/

    *slapfight* Stop this both of you! No one friend me! I won't accept, you hear me!
  • Chapter3point6
    Chapter3point6 Posts: 1,233
    yeah..... that's way too complicated. If you're hot it's motivation & a YES! :)

    edit : but..... I usually don't accept if their profile's not OPEN to read about them

    Right now is as good of time as any to OPEN my profile :bigsmile:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Would you walk up next to a person and not say a word and expect them to consider you a friend? Same thing here.

    If I just walked up to you and started touching your pecs, would you consider me a friend?
  • sweebum
    sweebum Posts: 1,060 Member
    I've been here 625 days. My only "stipulation" is I'd like a quick note. I get too many creepers otherwise. If you can't send one sentence, why do you want to be friends? I interact with all my friends we motivate and inspire each other, that requires more than 1 sentence. If not, why bother? This isn't facebook with friend collectors. We're here to be healthy.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    If I just walked up to you and started touching your pecs, would you consider me a friend?

    I'd touch yours back.
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,392 Member
    I don't have a lot of stipulations but this isn't Facebook, either, and I am not collecting friends. I want people who will support me as much as I do them. And if they have an eating disorder, I cant really help with that. I have tried and I just end up sad over it. That sort of person needs a special kind of interaction with someone who has been in their position and come out of it. I cant identify with that.
  • Girl_Bomb
    Girl_Bomb Posts: 195
    All I care about is that the person is eating enough to fuel their bodies properly
  • HelloSweetie4
    HelloSweetie4 Posts: 1,214 Member
    I'll accept anyone, but I do like to know why they friend me so we start off with something to talk about lol
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    There's no rule that says you have to be friends with everyone here.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    If I just walked up to you and started touching your pecs, would you consider me a friend?

    I'd touch yours back.

    I approve of this friendship.
  • juicy011
    juicy011 Posts: 200 Member
    yeah..... that's way too complicated. If you're hot it's motivation & a YES! :)

    edit : but..... I usually don't accept if their profile's not OPEN to read about them

    Right now is as good of time as any to OPEN my profile :bigsmile:

    lol, never too late
  • Colonel_Brandon
    Colonel_Brandon Posts: 256 Member
    There's no rule that says you have to be friends with everyone here.

    Dammit. ;)
  • ZombieChaser
    ZombieChaser Posts: 1,555 Member
    As long as they are friends with Brett, they must be good people.
    Yes, that is referred to as the hero trump card \m/

    *slapfight* Stop this both of you! No one friend me! I won't accept, you hear me!

    *whew* looks like I got on the Epic FL just in time then!


    Also - I do enjoy a good message during the friending process - Let me know why me, or where you've seen me to prompt such a request - it helps break they ice.

    Or junk pics, those work too...
  • legs_n_bacon
    legs_n_bacon Posts: 478 Member
    Because they can.
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    B is weird for me! One person has
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    who are you to tell me who i should and should not let into my life???? I think it's perfectly ok for people to set their own boundaries. It's healthy.
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