What makes you unfriend somone?

sarahisme18

I know it's bad, but I really want to unfriend people who are constantly negative and won't take the encouragement to do better next time. I understand that it is hard, but I think when you're constantly complaining, it seems like more wanting attention than really wanting help....

redhousecat

I set my privacy settings where only my exercise is posted in news feeds and nothing else. I don't need a "way to go" because I ate some fish or something.

I debated on whether to do the same with exercise, but I have come to find that with the friends I have, exercise and types of exercise is the common ground we share and often discuss.

But like I said earlier, I am in no place to judge folks by the way the eat or exercise. Friends are the fun part. Only you can help you.

1ConcreteGirl

Going on and on about things that have nothing at all to do with fitness or weight loss. I really don't need to know about your personal sex life. REALLY, SERIOUSLY!

I do.

ETA: Okay, maybe not "going on and on"... but the rest of it is good with me.

twinketta

FROM ANOTHER POSTER:
Personally, if someone has not logged on in 4 or 5 days I go to their profile and see if there is a "vacation" or "hospital issue" or anything that explains why they may not be online, if there is nothing there then I click the 'ol Remove Friend button. I am certainly not perfect, and don't expect others to be, but if you can't be here for me when I need you (which is why we are friends on this site) then all you have done is proven I don't need you as a friend here. That may sound a bit cold, but I am here to get **** done and I refuse to be held back, or even associate with someone who is not dedicated to the same ending result: Being Healthier.

I truly do not know how I can be supportive of you, in this healthy journey, if you choose to have your Diary closed. I cannot speak for anyone else, I look to see if you have hit your goals, and to ensure you are not starving yourself; as so many seem to try to do these days. I really cannot, in good conscious, tell you “Good Job” or offer any other congratulatory remarks when you have only netted 200 calories for the day. It is your life, and you choose to do what you choose to do, I am not trying to tell anyone how to live there life. I am saying that I want to be able to support, encourage, and comment on my friends here at MFP and that with a closed Diary I simply do not feel that I can honestly do so. With that being the case, if you choose to keep your diary private then we need to part as friends. I have no hard feelings and hope that you do not either, and I wish you nothing but success in your endeavor.

After reading this thread it is proof that people are different, we have different goals, methods, and expectations from our friends. I do not think that unfriending someone is a big deal, chances are you did not know the person before you befriended them, and in the process of getting to know them you decided that you did not appreciate their methodology; we do it in real life all the time.

Have a Great Weekend :-)

FROM ME:
Totally agree with you. And this is not a place where the more friends you have, you win. No, I don't do that on Facebook either or in real life. I've learned through the months that I need to keep the most positive, dedicated and most similar to my issues rather than they type of people who have huge crisis, you are there for them and then they are never there for you. It's too lopsided as it would be in real life as well.
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totally agree with these replies!

I actually deleted my account on MFP after 2 years of being on here, due to the stress or whatever you want to call it of `friends` it got crazy.

I changed my name and started all over again, and would never add friends again!

I love the forum and will stick with that, I got lots of support only last week, for a bit of a personal situation,

But each to their own

hikeout470

Some people have their diary closed for legal reasons. Unfriended 2, only because they used foul language and or multiple posts in a row so I could not see my other friends.

crackdmirror

I frankly think it's stupid how many people are THAT nosey that they need their friends to have their diaries open. Mine is closed, even to my friends, because rather than being held accountable, I found that I was more likely to be dishonest with myself on how much I actually ate to try to look good. So I closed it because now no one is there to say what a "****ty" job I did that day because I went over by 50 cals. No thanks, mind your business. If I want it open, I will open it. If you don't want friends that have it closed, I'm probably better off anyway.

Word! It seems....vaguely voyeuristic to require THAT much access to a person's information. Not to mention, very, very few of you are registered dieticians. My credentials as a nurse probably make me more qualified than 90% of other MFPs to determine the right thing to eat (and I do eat well, always have aside from the murder that was nursing school). If I want advice on my diet, I will ask someone with the proper education to provide such information.

And how on earth do the "must have food diary open" folks have time to stalk their friends' pages and critique their food logging? I only have a handful of friends, and I don't look at the food diary unless there is recent comment asking for opinions. That would seriously take away from my gym time .

Also, I wanted to quote the person with a TARDIS in her progress tracker. Just because.

dlyeates

If they haven't logged in for 2 months (unless I'm friends with them IRL)!!! 1 month could be justified due to being sick/vacation/etc but after that I don't feel they are invested!!

emyjeter

So far, just inactivity.

Sharon009

Some of you are hardcore.

Looks at my friends list.

So and So hasnt logged on for 3 weeks, 2 months, etc.

What to do..........

I totally agree. I'm faithfully on this website but I do it for me. I like having people on my friends list, but I'm not always going to comment of stuff. And I dont require them to do it at all. I also dont care if they dont log in, exercise or whatever.

barbaramitchell101

I like people who use this primarily as a 'fitness' website. I've only deleted one person because he posted sexually explicit pics. I'm also not a fan of seeing peoples personal drama that has nothing to do with fitness or 'growing' spewed out on my news feed.

when this happens you should report the post

oregonzoo

I'm rather selective so my friends are in most instances people I care about, and people I'd invite over for a meal. If I don't feel that way, I'll probably delete you.

hikeout470

When someone sends you a pm demanding an apology for something you posted but it was misinterpreted (she thought flame-baiting was a post against homosexuality) and then you search for all of her posts by name and find that she posts tons of judgmental attacks to people. "BLOCK"

msartishia

I unfriend when I see that they have not logged in for more than a month. I know I fell off at one time, but never more than a month. I may not log my food everyday, but I try to comment to my friends on here as much as possible.

EndlessSacrifice

Lack of communication/support and when people log stupid routine activities as exercise such as showering, sleeping, texting on the phone, etc. I've even had someone log drawing as an exercise once. /facepalm.

FirefitMike

Only reason I have is because they add me and never interact...at all. So they get the boot.

chubbygirl253

sometimes I delete those who never interract with me, but not always. if they are motivating by just seeing their progress I keep them around.

I deleted someone who I think was demonstrating some really bad behaviors indicative of an eating disorder. bingeing, fasting, bingeing, fasting, etc.

if people are rude to other people I would delete them. no bullying.

I deleted a girl who never exercised and just entered 30 mins of house work so she didn't go over her calories. she was sending the message that she wasn't even trying.

most commonly I delete people that don't log in. it isn't that hard to log in. if you are absent a week I usually delete.

i deleted someone who was critical of how much I work out. whatever. I'm being safe about it so she can suck it.

people who are constantly negative. I'm gonna be fat forever, I can't do it, I wanna quit, I can't exercise, I can't...

chubbygirl253

Eeyore Syndrome... woe is me, I can't loose weight, nothing will work, this is pointless, I'm going to give up (but I want you guys to talk me out of it)... ahhhhh Eeyores.

yes, this!^ So tired of it.

AngryDiet

I do what the voices command.

pucenavel

I've never unfriended anyone....


...not even people who have died.

Dawna954

I just deleted some people who haven't logged on for months. That being said, I haven't been here much in the last few months either. I got injured and it turned everything upside down for me. Surgery coming very soon.

The only time I deleted someone other than that was a female who had done very well on her journey and forgot where she came from. She trashed everyone and took great pleasure in it. That was it.... I hit the delete button and glad I did.

Always looking for motivated, energizing friends.

shoshi68

If they like Nickelback.

This.

JanaCanada

Usually, I just unfriend people that never interact with me. I'm pretty hard to offend, so the rest is just entertainment.

^This

kimosabe1

I unfriend if they leave a smart *kitten* comment about me going over on my calories or if they never comment because I have better friends than that.....

CinJay

Whiny, "me me me", unhealthy attitude towards food/exercise, etc., friend collectors who don't interact with you, nothing in common... those are usually the main reasons for me to un-friend someone or don't accept friend requests. It's easier to keep the friends list to a minimum, that way I can give my time and attention to those when I can, it's just better to be Pal's with others who are like-minded.

kdeaux1959

I have never actually unfriended any body on here; here are a few things that would make me do it

1. If you are on here for a business and keep harping about your product... I have friends that have a fitness-business on the side and I actually interact with them; but if they were to become pushy about their way being the best/only way I would not keep that going.

2. A particularly vulgar or nasty person.

3. Anybody I found out to be under age. As a high school teacher, I have signed a social responsibility pact with my district. I don't interact with children online at all.. I have colleagues in jail right now for this type of thing (of course their conversation transcended fitness)... I am 52 years old, I don't friend kids.

GetFitCarly

If they havent logged on in over 3 weeks

CynthiaT60

1. No interaction (I'm the only one posting anything).
2. Eating ridiculously (like, under 1000 calories, totally unbalanced).
3. Nastiness.

I've only done it once so far; it was someone I really wish well, but...the situation wasn't right for me.

donyellemoniquex3

1. Inactiveness for more than 17 days
2. Excessive swearing
3. Smart remarks (someone told me it was horrible that my mom got a car, when she hasn't been behind the wheel since her stroke in the early 2000's)
4. No / little communication. Friendship is a give and take situation.
5. Commenting on anything that goes against my religious, moral or personal beliefs. Someone told me I'm going to hell, because of the simple fact that I'm a CHRISTIAN.

arewethereyet

Nothing! I had one friend inactive for 2 years. When she came back she was delighted I was still on her friends list. Life ebbs and flows.

Honestly, 90% of my list are people I love, admire, encourage or who encourage or inspire me. Wouldn't trade them for the world

arewethereyet

I've never unfriended anyone....


...not even people who have died.

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