No Children - Lifestyle Choice

mustacheU2Lift

newmeadow wrote: »

Clever_User_Name wrote: »

newmeadow wrote: »

147Me wrote: »

I'm 43 and have never had children. It was my choice not to - a choice I gave an abundant amount of thought to.

Like many of the other stories in this thread, I've experienced my fair share of prejudice from people who have kids.

It is sometimes difficult to find a place within female groups because the conversation always seems to revolve around their experience as mothers.

Sure, I get it. Parents talk about their kids because their children are the most important part of their lives. The world is pro-family place.

For me, the most difficult part of my choice is finding other childfree middle-aged adults to make friends with.

So, if you're childfree and reading this, add me as a friend. I promise, I won't go on and on about my kids.

Child free folk are better conversationalists by far, that's for sure.

I disagree with that.

There are always exceptions. There are some true intellectuals who are parents and they are able to discuss ideas or events. Parents tend to discuss people and only people.

Lol lots of assumptions and judgements in this statement

bootyrubsandtacos

I decided when I was like 17 that I didn’t want to be a mother. I’m almost 33 and I still have no desire to have kids. I would be an awful mother. I have absolutely no patience and I’ve been a caregiver for more then half my life. I physically and mentally could not handle taking care of child. I also wouldn’t want my child to struggle with depression or an addiction like I did or have them suffer through the hell that is HS. NOPE! The guilt would eat me alive. Plus the world is just a sh*#%ty place. I would be CONSUMED with worry.

jaycanchu

I had kids very young, and I love them to pieces. But if I had to do it all over again...I can’t guarantee I’d follow the same path.
Good for you not bowing to society’s “norms”

PaperDoll_

bootyrubsandtacos wrote: »

I decided when I was like 17 that I didn’t want to be a mother. I’m almost 33 and I still have no desire to have kids. I would be an awful mother. I have absolutely no patience and I’ve been a caregiver for more then half my life. I physically and mentally could not handle taking care of child. I also wouldn’t my child to struggle with depression or an addiction like I did or have them suffer through the hell that is HS. NOPE! The guilt would eat me alive. Plus the world is just a sh*#%ty place. I would be CONSUMED with worry.

I can relate to a lot of this.

fjellrev

4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »

cee134 wrote: »

fjellrev wrote: »

I never understood why it's regarded as selfish for not doing something you simply don't want to do, especially given the fact that this decision doesn't even affect the lives of these narrow-minded people. Oh but wait, I'm going to change my mind. My biological clock is ticking. Insert whatever other endlessly regurgitated empty thought because we are all cookie cutter citizens, after all.

It's not selfish. I don't even know why that word was brought up with not wanting kids.

In my experience it is brought up by a. religous people- you are supposed to want to procreate and grow the human race and stuff b. people struggling with infertiliy- I understand is a difficult situation, but still not a good reason to push someone else to have kids who does not want them.