Friend Requesters - Is it really that hard...

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  • aross001
    aross001 Posts: 237
    Let's be honest here... if the guy or gal is hot... you accept it no matter if there is message or not... so that's the real deal breaker

    Lol!! This is TRUE.

    so if someone accepts my friend request without a message then they think I'm attractive? Time to spam thousands of MFPer's with requests, I need an ego boost....
  • chubbygirl253
    chubbygirl253 Posts: 1,309 Member
    I don't usually decline them but I do wonder why they sent the request. Are we from the same area? Do we have similar goals? Did I say something intelligent in a thread?
  • Chapter3point6
    Chapter3point6 Posts: 1,233
    Yeah, it is usually pretty hard when I send a FR.

    Oh, sorry. I misread your question. :embarassed:
  • LuluProteinFueled
    LuluProteinFueled Posts: 261 Member
    Yeah, it is usually pretty hard when I send a FR.

    Oh, sorry. I misread your question. :embarassed:

    LOL. So what you're saying is, there's not enough blood in your brain to come up with a message. I understand.
  • IMMAPIMPBIOTCH
    IMMAPIMPBIOTCH Posts: 18
    To send a message when sending a friend request?

    80% of my FRs arrive without a message. I don't get why it's so hard for people. This is not facebook. We do not know each other, so unless you can give me a good reason that we have some sort of similar goals, or you've seen me post on a forum and agree, or ANYTHING really, I'm going to decline you.

    I want to hear from people that send these blank FRs... why do you do it? Give me some insight. Am I missing something?

    would you friend me?
  • ElizaRoche
    ElizaRoche Posts: 2,005 Member
    I like to get a little message attached to the request...... but doesnt really matter if they dont send one.
  • indigo_rose
    indigo_rose Posts: 250
    Let's be honest here... if the guy or gal is hot... you accept it no matter if there is message or not... so that's the real deal breaker

    Lol!! This is TRUE.

    so if someone accepts my friend request without a message then they think I'm attractive? Time to spam thousands of MFPer's with requests, I need an ego boost....

    That's the spirit!
  • Chapter3point6
    Chapter3point6 Posts: 1,233
    Yeah, it is usually pretty hard when I send a FR.

    Oh, sorry. I misread your question. :embarassed:

    LOL. So what you're saying is, there's not enough blood in your brain to come up with a message. I understand.

    Yep. Blood is rushing to the other end
  • IMMAPIMPBIOTCH
    IMMAPIMPBIOTCH Posts: 18
    Yeah, it is usually pretty hard when I send a FR.

    Oh, sorry. I misread your question. :embarassed:

    LOL. So what you're saying is, there's not enough blood in your brain to come up with a message. I understand.

    Yep. Blood is rushing to the other end

    not the way to address a lady brick
  • x_ItNeverEnds_x
    x_ItNeverEnds_x Posts: 134
    Annoys the hell out of me. I deny people who din't send a request or don't have there profile filled out.
  • Chapter3point6
    Chapter3point6 Posts: 1,233
    Yeah, it is usually pretty hard when I send a FR.

    Oh, sorry. I misread your question. :embarassed:

    LOL. So what you're saying is, there's not enough blood in your brain to come up with a message. I understand.

    Yep. Blood is rushing to the other end

    not the way to address a lady brick

    Um, yeah. Coming from someone with pimp and biotch in their username.
  • blakejohn
    blakejohn Posts: 1,129 Member
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  • IMMAPIMPBIOTCH
    IMMAPIMPBIOTCH Posts: 18
    Yeah, it is usually pretty hard when I send a FR.

    Oh, sorry. I misread your question. :embarassed:

    LOL. So what you're saying is, there's not enough blood in your brain to come up with a message. I understand.

    I can see I'm gonna love you!!!

    Yep. Blood is rushing to the other end

    not the way to address a lady brick

    Um, yeah. Coming from someone with pimp and biotch in their username.
  • djsupreme6
    djsupreme6 Posts: 1,210 Member
    messages are great to get...They're great to get but for the most part I normally don't get them with requests but thats ok as I will eventually know what I need to know...some have a preference though and I can see why...however I do find it comical when some go a little further and want to know where you seen them...why you think y'all would be a good fit...do you have similar goals...things like that...that my friends are interview questions and nobody should have to be interviewed to become a friend lol...but..preferences are preferences and I can respect it even if its not my own...those FR messages just show that you're a little more interested and if you can't take a little time for that...whats gonna happen over the days..months..years that you are on MFP...you guessed it...not much interaction

    profiles that talk about creepers is foolish...although i'm still trying to figure out what a creeper is...you don't know who this person is just cause they send a FR with a msg
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
    I've found, message attached or not, that pretty much no one comments on my goals or little successes anyway, so I add everyone and decide later whether or not they are a ****ty MFP friend!
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    messages are great to get...They're great to get but for the most part I normally don't get them with requests but thats ok as I will eventually know what I need to know...some have a preference though and I can see why...however I do find it comical when some go a little further and want to know where you seen them...why you think y'all would be a good fit...do you have similar goals...things like that...that my friends are interview questions and nobody should have to be interviewed to become a friend lol...but..preferences are preferences and I can respect it even if its not my own...those FR messages just show that you're a little more interested and if you can't take a little time for that...whats gonna happen over the days..months..years that you are on MFP...you guessed it...not much interaction

    profiles that talk about creepers is foolish...although i'm still trying to figure out what a creeper is...you don't know who this person is just cause they send a FR with a msg

    I agree! I rarely send friend requests, and I definitely would not send one to someone with verbage on their profile page asking me all kinds of "interview-style" questions. Eff that! :laugh:

    I don't understand the whole "creepers" thing either. I always add people when they send me a request. I might be curious as to why they are sending it, but I don't really care either way. I have also removed people from my friend's list because I got annoyed by them after accepting their request. I don't message them either. it's just the internet anyway. :tongue:

    :smokin:
  • donyellemoniquex3
    donyellemoniquex3 Posts: 2,384 Member
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  • LuccyH
    LuccyH Posts: 266 Member
    Let's be honest here... if the guy or gal is hot... you accept it no matter if there is message or not... so that's the real deal breaker
    So thats how you do it? But you are absolutely right and thats why u have me. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • Chapter3point6
    Chapter3point6 Posts: 1,233
    Let's be honest here... if the guy or gal is hot... you accept it no matter if there is message or not... so that's the real deal breaker

    I deny requests from hot women all the time. I am not here to collect hot friends
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    It is also not that hard to click "Decline".

    .....like you said, you don't know these people. Why worry about it?

    Yeah, that's what I do. No message, no add.
  • GhostPack
    GhostPack Posts: 197 Member
    I deny most good looking women that don't send me a message first. Same reason I don't request people without a message.
  • donyellemoniquex3
    donyellemoniquex3 Posts: 2,384 Member
    I'm on the app more then the site itself, so if you ask for a message with the friend request, I wouldn't know.
  • chopzgurl05
    chopzgurl05 Posts: 84 Member
    I agree! I get random request without any explanation. If I mesasge them asking what their goals are or how they found my profile I never hear from them? Whats the point? :/
  • Jenny_Taylia
    Jenny_Taylia Posts: 540 Member
    I hear you. I just decline those who dont have a message along with the request.

    I also decline the requests that say nothing but how beautiful my eyes are. I get more of those than I do blank requests.
  • NaturallyOlivia
    NaturallyOlivia Posts: 496 Member
    I agree with the OP. I ask for messages with my friend requests and it's the first thing you see when you go to my profile. I just don't want to be friends with "friend collectors".
  • sweetchildomine
    sweetchildomine Posts: 872 Member
    I've never understood why some people require a message with a friend request lol. I really don't care WHERE someone found me on here or WHY they want to be on my list. I'm assuming they want moral support. Isn't that what this site is for? If they end up being a weirdo, I just delete them later. It's that simple. Besides, it's not like a message is going to tell me whether they are crazy or not. A crazy person can write "Hi, saw you on the chit-chat boards." just as easily as a sane person can. Honestly, it's not like I post any personal information on here anyway. I really don't care who knows what I look like and what I ate today lol. A random guy sitting next to me at Subway knows that much lol.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    I've never understood why some people require a message with a friend request lol. I really don't care WHERE someone found me on here or WHY they want to be on my list. I'm assuming they want moral support. Isn't that what this site is for? If they end up being a weirdo, I just delete them later. It's that simple. Besides, it's not like a message is going to tell me whether they are crazy or not. A crazy person can write "Hi, saw you on the chit-chat boards." just as easily as a sane person can. Honestly, it's not like I post any personal information on here anyway. I really don't care who knows what I look like and what I ate today lol. A random guy sitting next to me at Subway knows that much lol.

    i think the message requirement is there to keep the "friend collectors" away. if somebody requests you without a message and you accept and 2 months go by and you have ZERO interaction from them and they don't respond to your interaction attempts and you check their wall and see that they have 100 or 150 or 200 friends, then it's fairly apparent that they are a friend collector. if you are constantly deleting those out of frustration, i can see why you'd want a message on future friend requests.
  • TheDeletedAccount1000002
    TheDeletedAccount1000002 Posts: 245
    I agree all FR should have a message.!!! The END!! :)
  • msafunk
    msafunk Posts: 163 Member
    One time I posted a thread looking for new friends with similar goals, and at the bottom, I asked that if you DO send a request, please send a message along with it, so 1. I know we actually have the same goals, and 2. YOU ACTUALLY READ MY POST.

    I rejected about 20 friend requests that night because they didn't attach a message, or even respond to the thread.
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I get a lot of blanks and have just deleted all of them. I used to think it sounded snooty to list your friend requirements all over your profile, but now that I've been here a while I can see why people do it. It just seems sad to delete people when maybe they are adding you for the right reasons. So I gave in and added a little "please tell me why you're adding me in a msg" onto my profile :)

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