Married Women-Your Thoughts?
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It would not bother me at all. He is married, not dead
Even though I know I am not the best looking person out there, I know he is with me.
This
It isn't disrespectful for one or the other to appreciate beauty in another person. It's only disrespectful if they treat you poorly while complimenting others.0 -
I don't really have a problem with those threads as posting is just for fun, but often they're an advertisement for the interested parties to send PMs and flirt more privately. THAT I would take issue with.0
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I wouldn't care.0
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Maybe you guys should talk to each other instead of battling it out in front of internet strangers to try and get people to take sides. Are you 13 or adults?0
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If you don't like it, you need to tell him. A mature response on his part would be to stop participating.
^^^ Yup, I agree with this statement. If you are uncomfortable with his participating, then you need to discuss it with him immediately.0 -
Since you told him how you feel about it and he continues to do it, he is not respecting your feelings at all. I'm gonna go all out and call dbag.0
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Yes..I can see this thread, yes she has all of my passwords including this one. And I did it a total of like 3 times purely because I was bored and find it entertaining. And admittedly like to see how others perceive me. Nothing wrong with that is there?
OMG! I'm embarrassed. You saw what I wrote to her?? :blushing:
Just kidding, I don't give a crap..LOL!!0 -
I don't really have a problem with those threads as posting is just for fun, but often they're an advertisement for the interested parties to send PMs and flirt more privately. THAT I would take issue with.
I agree that it does invite others to try to talk privetly/befriend you. Thankfully he is respectful enough to deny those friend requests. I think in his head it is all just for fun.0 -
Haaa!I was wondering how the married women in this forum would feel about your husband posting in the "rate the person above you" threads?
I recently noticed my husband posting in one of these and I'm not sure how I feel about it. How would you feel? Do you think it is wrong? Do you think it is more in the gray area? Or do you think there is nothing wrong with it what so ever?
Men and women BOTH have a strong sex drive.
They just approach sex differently.
Women, as I believe, like to look attractive. They want the attraction of another man, stated simply.
As a married woman, I want to be attractive, but not attracting, if you can understand what I mean
It's just being responsible to my husband and family.
Men, are very attracted by sight.
A married man must be careful in this area IMO. It's between that couple.0 -
I think of that happened with me, I would have gone to the thread, as well, and rated my husband.
Yes, it may bother me a bit to see him rating other females, but joining in along with him would make me get over it, I bet.0 -
I might be a little jealous, but then I would ask him about it and we would laugh about it or we would silently judge people together.0
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Well, I think you two are a cute couple!
But I do think one should consider the others feelings. Assuming that one does not play that card too often I mean. Some gals can use emotions a bit much. But I do believe in being a gentleman, character, honor, etiquette, civilized and respectful of others feeling. Esp in regards to ones spouse.
My hubby def has eyes that see pretty women. Heck, so do I! I notice women before men. They kinda have themselves set up that way. Like male birds do. But he corrects himself quickly, as a gentleman should. Never oggles. Never says anything. Would never flirt, cheat, or even openly admit (though he can't not smile when I pick on him about it) that he found another chick pretty.
Men are men. Now, thats no reason to be a pig or act single. But it is a fact that men are visual creatures.
Also... If you feel attractive, sometimes ppl like more than one person to notice. Sometimes you want to feel like a "catch".0 -
Oh Please!
harmless fun.0 -
I can't watch.. :noway:0
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I don't do that, don't even see the point................refocus to why we are here0
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If you have already talked to him, why are you here talking to us Online strangers?Eventually he will although this is something I have already talked to him.0 -
If your husband has time to waste in those threads, clearly he needs a few more chores. Just my thought!0
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It would not bother me at all. He is married, not dead Even though I know I am not the best looking person out there, I know he is with me.
Ditto! If this kind of thing makes you jealous or whatever, then there are other issues going on in your marriage that you need to address. If you truly don't have any marital problems, then you need to work on your OWN self confidence. I'm confident enough in myself that I couldn't care less if my husband posted something like that. I know he loves me and he's not going anywhere. You think he doesn't ever see a girl and think she's good looking? Please. Just like I'm sure you have seen guys before and though - oh! That's a pretty good looking guy. Like the girl above me said - he's married, not dead.0 -
If your husband has time to waste in those threads, clearly he needs a few more chores. Just my thought!
hahaha! good suggestion
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No wouldnt bother me, allthough I would probably snoop to see what scores he gives and ask him to rate me too lol0
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I don't know how I'd feel if I was a woman and my husband did that. What I do know is that the OP is kinda hot. Let's be friends. Creeper PM and friend request sent.0
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I go in them, because, to me, it's more of a motivational thing and not a "You're a 9. Let's ****". For me, anyway. And besides, if I'm in there, why should I get angry if my husband is too.
But if it bothers you, the only thing that you can do is talk to him about it. It really doesn't matter what ANY of us feel and how it works for us. What matters is how YOU feel and how he feels about it.
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Cool:)....but....are you married? With children?It would not bother me at all. He is married, not dead Even though I know I am not the best looking person out there, I know he is with me.
Ditto! If this kind of thing makes you jealous or whatever, then there are other issues going on in your marriage that you need to address. If you truly don't have any marital problems, then you need to work on your OWN self confidence. I'm confident enough in myself that I couldn't care less if my husband posted something like that. I know he loves me and he's not going anywhere. You think he doesn't ever see a girl and think she's good looking? Please. Just like I'm sure you have seen guys before and though - oh! That's a pretty good looking guy. Like the girl above me said - he's married, not dead.
The standards and expectations between couples can be individual, but....a husband's wandering eyes can really wipe out a wife!
Our standards are....we just look at eachother.
Not that other women are not attractive to my husband, just that, he does not want to do that. And, it hurts me.:)0 -
Maybe you guys should talk to each other instead of battling it out in front of internet strangers to try and get people to take sides. Are you 13 or adults?
Firstly were not "battling it out". She noticed I had participated in one of those threads and I told her she was over reacting because it was completely innocent. To take it to another level and insult us by calling us 13 yr olds is just in and of itself juvenile.
I told her if you dont believe me... post a thread asking for opinions about it and you will see that I am right. Well I have not gotten as much support as I had initially hoped for lol. But I assure you it was purely out of boredom.
Honey were going to have angry sex tonight I can tell already.0 -
In my opinion, this type of behavior is unacceptable in a marriage. He needs to honor you and appreciate your beauty, he married you. He might not see it as a big deal, but we want our men to look at us as beautiful. When they turn their attention towards other women, on purpose because it's one thing to notice an attractive woman and another to tell her about it online, it is a betrayal.
Honestly, this is how I feel. It might sound uptight, but I hope my future husband feels this way.0 -
Being old andcomputor dumb, I've seen those threads and wondered how in the world to you check the one above you???0
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I think it would depend on what he said. Like some of the others have said most people give a 9 or 10 all the time and lets be honest ... were not all 9s or 10s (me included) but I dont think id be upset if he rated ... but if he said something like yummm or sexy id be a little hurt.0
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Maybe you guys should talk to each other instead of battling it out in front of internet strangers to try and get people to take sides. Are you 13 or adults?
Firstly were not "battling it out". She noticed I had participated in one of those threads and I told her she was over reacting because it was completely innocent. To take it to another level and insult us by calling us 13 yr olds is just in and of itself juvenile.
I told her if you dont believe me... post a thread asking for opinions about it and you will see that I am right. Well I have not gotten as much support as I had initially hoped for lol. But I assure you it was purely out of boredom.
Honey were going to have angry sex tonight I can tell already.
film at 11?0 -
I do not think it is okay, but my husband and I are clear on this issue. If he were to do something I was uncomfortable with I would approach him in private though...0
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I guess I get to be the voice of reason here.Yes..I can see this thread, yes she has all of my passwords including this one. And I did it a total of like 3 times purely because I was bored and find it entertaining. And admittedly like to see how others perceive me. Nothing wrong with that is there?
Allow me to enlighten you. This bothers your wife in a bad way regardless of what YOU think. Talk about it and ask yourself why you feel the need to publicly comment on other women's attractiveness. Nothing wrong with acknowledging someone has worked hard on their arms and legs, or trimmed down their waist but there's no need to to tell these women if you think they're sexually attractive. I know guys are visual creatures and no one is saying you can't think that but it doesn't hurt to not say every single thing you think. So you run into someone who is attractive and you mention it. Again no big deal but do you really need to hunt down opportunities to do this? Just asking, not judging.
Props to you two for openly discussing it though. That's a bigger deal than anything. Just be honest about what you're doing and don't hide it. That never works.0
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