Married Women-Your Thoughts?
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I'm married not dead, so yeh I look and so does my Husband. Hell we even point out hotties to each other. But thats as far as it goes.
But I never 'rate' people. I know I'm no oil painting, as as such I would hate to be judged on looks alone. It's just shallow.
That's kinda a neat idea-to do it together! That way it is more of a couple thing.0 -
Maybe someone should start a Be Real thread, and actually be honest on looks..Ya think people would really be honest?!
I tried to be honest and I rated some girl a 6.8 (which isnt too bad at all imo) and she PM'd me the next day telling me how she finished off a bottle of wine and stared at herself in the mirror all night crying because of what i rated her. So yea the honesty part is highly overated on those threads. No wonder people lie to eachother.
ARE YOU SERIOUS?! Please say it ain't so.....LOL I'm sorry to laugh but honestly who cares that much? This is exactly why I don't ever comment in those "rate the person above you" threads because honestly WHO CARES what some stranger on the internet thinks about the way you look? The only thing that matters to me is how I think I look!
I know right!! I mean it seems like a HUGE waste of time lol0 -
He wouldn't post in those. If he did, I wouldn't really care unless he was blatantly hitting on someone. Telling someone they look good is different than acting like you are interested in them.0
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II was wondering how the married women in this forum would feel about your husband posting in the "rate the person above you" threads?
I recently noticed my husband posting in one of these and I'm not sure how I feel about it. How would you feel? Do you think it is wrong? Do you think it is more in the gray area? Or do you think there is nothing wrong with it what so ever?
Maybe instead of a forum posting, you should take 5 min and ask him about it in person. If it makes you uncomfortable I'll bet he would stop.0 -
This has been an interesting read this morning, for the OP you get a "9" for the OP Hubby "8.3" (lost points for posting after discussion so your ranking is not looks alone. As a couple I give you a "10". just remember to remind the other how much you love them thru words and actions. For everyone else that posted, in no particular order, 10, 9, 9.5, 9.8, 8, 8.5,.....0
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Hell, I even take the pictures of my hubby hugging the hottie 'plants' at Sturgis MC Rally. I am just amazed at how insecure so many people (especially we women) can be. sheesh.0
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It would only bother me because I find that kind of thing incredibly juvenile and stupid. I don't care if he has an opinion about the physical appearance of other women though.0
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Words can hurt people. Judging them for that doesn't really help. I am glad it doesn't bother you, that's seriously great.
ARE YOU SERIOUS?! Please say it ain't so.....LOL I'm sorry to laugh but honestly who cares that much? This is exactly why I don't ever comment in those "rate the person above you" threads because honestly WHO CARES what some stranger on the internet thinks about the way you look? The only thing that matters to me is how I think I look!0 -
Hell, I even take the pictures of my hubby hugging the hottie 'plants' at Sturgis MC Rally. I am just amazed at how insecure so many people (especially we women) can be. sheesh.
I think it is ridicoulous to automatically assume that I am insecure. I am actually very secure in my marriage and in my relationship. Maybe alittle insecure when it comes to my weight, although isn't that the point we are all here? I am very conservative when it comes to my interactions with men. My husband loves that about me!! The whole point of this thread was to get honest feedback on whether or not I was being too senstive. What can I say? I love him and I am protective of him:)0 -
Sorry you thought I was insulting you I was speaking collectively to all the women who replied that it 'bothered them'. Feedback? I believe you are too sensitive. Hope that gives you the answer you were looking for.0
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He's not dead....
Now if he's trying to contact them and meet up, that's a whole different story.
He might post on there just so someone would pay him a compliment. Try stroking his ego a little more and he might decide he's getting all of the attention he needs at home.0 -
I was wondering how the married women in this forum would feel about your husband posting in the "rate the person above you" threads?
I recently noticed my husband posting in one of these and I'm not sure how I feel about it. How would you feel? Do you think it is wrong? Do you think it is more in the gray area? Or do you think there is nothing wrong with it what so ever?
10+ :-)0 -
Even though he loves u and he knows you fancy and love him isant enough to boost his confidence that's just his way f other people telling him he looks good0
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Maybe someone should start a Be Real thread, and actually be honest on looks..Ya think people would really be honest?!
I tried to be honest and I rated some girl a 6.8 (which isnt too bad at all imo) and she PM'd me the next day telling me how she finished off a bottle of wine and stared at herself in the mirror all night crying because of what i rated her. So yea the honesty part is highly overated on those threads. No wonder people lie to eachother.
ARE YOU SERIOUS?! Please say it ain't so.....LOL I'm sorry to laugh but honestly who cares that much? This is exactly why I don't ever comment in those "rate the person above you" threads because honestly WHO CARES what some stranger on the internet thinks about the way you look? The only thing that matters to me is how I think I look!
^^THIS. That is all I have to say...0 -
For me, I would not be upset by it as long as he wasn't being flirtatious about it. For example, if he said something like "DA*N girl, you look good" or something like that then yeah i would be upset. But if he is just looking and posting a number then no that wouldn't upset me. My husband looks at other women (he tries to do it respectfully without me noticing but he fails every time lol) and sometimes i check out other men. We are all human, no need to get upset over it.
Yea thats all I did once or twice maybe is give a simple and honest rating. I never flirted. I mean hell I know shes gonna dig through everything I write, so why would I shoot myself in the foot on purpose?:)0 -
I mean hell I know shes gonna dig through everything I write, so why would I shoot myself in the foot on purpose?:)
Does this not seem bizzare to anyone else?? My husband knows all my passwords and I know all his, however if I KNEW he was going through everything I did, I would be seriously unhappy. Logging on to Facebook or email every once in a while out of curiousity and/or to see what's been going on? Ok. Cool. Going through EVERYTHING he does???? That's demonstrates a huge lack of trust, IMO. That in conjunction with getting upset over a rating on a message board? No way will I be convinced that you guys don't have marital problems....0 -
Seems pretty harmless to me.0
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I can't honestly say I'd even notice. I probably wouldn't even ever look at his profile, why would I need to, I live with the guy? I know my husband wouldn't be surfing for babes on the internet so it wouldn't really cross my mind to make sure he wasn't. He has a super hot wife that puts out all of the time anyway. ;-)
We know each other's passwords, have access to each other's phones, emails, computers whatever at any given time and neither of us have ever felt the need to check up on the other one. If we did, it'd be a huge problem because that's just not okay. We both know how to act.0 -
I don't play those games on MFP. However, I have no issue if my husband wanted to rate someone else. We do it in real life "Hey, look at her/him" I am secure enough in my relationship with him that it doesn't matter what he thinks of other women, because he comes home to me.0
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that question speaks volumes about your insecurities.
if i got worked up every time greg looked at another womans pictures, id have a stroke.
its harmless.
but if it bugs you and he doesnt care, just say, "OH CHANNING TATUM!" next time youre in bed. that shold do the trick.0 -
I mean hell I know shes gonna dig through everything I write, so why would I shoot myself in the foot on purpose?:)
Does this not seem bizzare to anyone else?? My husband knows all my passwords and I know all his, however if I KNEW he was going through everything I did, I would be seriously unhappy. Logging on to Facebook or email every once in a while out of curiousity and/or to see what's been going on? Ok. Cool. Going through EVERYTHING he does???? That's demonstrates a huge lack of trust, IMO. That in conjunction with getting upset over a rating on a message board? No way will I be convinced that you guys don't have marital problems....
I have wonderful wife, life, and family. I didnt mean to make her look like a nosey, or jealous wife that looks at EVERYTHING I do. She actually displays quite a lot of trust in me most of the time.
I dont have Fakebook or any other obscure accounts on other social networks. We rarely argue with eachother, or ever have any serious marrital issues at all for that matter. I consider myself to be a very lucky man who is blessed enough to have a woman that cares enough to be jealous. IMO i think you should start worrying when your significant other stops caring, or being jealous rather than when they do.
There is a such a thing as having healthy jealousy in a relationship/marriage.0 -
As a married woman I don't respond to them just because I'm married. My husband would never post on those thread, as he stays away from a lot of social networking as a married man. I think once someone is married they tend to separate their selves from stuff like that; I'm not sure why he would feel the need to comment on them.0
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I agree with some of the above posts that it really depends on the couple and the "rules" in the relationship. I do have a very good husband in many respects and I am very secure with our relationship. I guess the thoughts I have for my personal self posting in those type of threads is I really do not need to seek out another man's outlook on me because I have the best man in the world:) He is incredibly handsome and I am very protective of him regarding vixens
To me, and I could be wrong, it sounds like you have a subtle fear of losing him to what you think is a prettier woman than you.
He married -you. Do you feel it is encouraging possible "vixens" It sounds as if you feel like you "married out of your league" and just waiting for "that" woman in his league to come around and steal him. That's just me though, like I said, I could be wrong.
I wouldn't mind if my husband did, at the end of the day he's sleeping in our bed and isn't going to seek out any sort of relationship on a forum. Beauty is just that... not everyone brings lust into it.0 -
Not married but in a relationship.
I wouldn't care because what is wrong with rating a person well? I think that's good. My bf and I can talk about who is attractive together and we can appreciate other people and their attractiveness ...
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I wouldn't like it at all, and he wouldn't want me to do it either.0
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I agree with some of the above posts that it really depends on the couple and the "rules" in the relationship. I do have a very good husband in many respects and I am very secure with our relationship. I guess the thoughts I have for my personal self posting in those type of threads is I really do not need to seek out another man's outlook on me because I have the best man in the world:) He is incredibly handsome and I am very protective of him regarding vixens
To me, and I could be wrong, it sounds like you have a subtle fear of losing him to what you think is a prettier woman than you.
He married -you. Do you feel it is encouraging possible "vixens" It sounds as if you feel like you "married out of your league" and just waiting for "that" woman in his league to come around and steal him. That's just me though, like I said, I could be wrong.
I wouldn't mind if my husband did, at the end of the day he's sleeping in our bed and isn't going to seek out any sort of relationship on a forum. Beauty is just that... not everyone brings lust into it.
hahahhah ok this is the funniest comment I have seen so far! I can 100% assure you that I am not in fear of my husband being stolen by someone who doesn't even know him over the internet. To me it is simple. Respect. It is disrespectful to be flirtatious towards a married man. When I was single I would have not dreamed of behaving in this way. Now as a married women out of respect for my husband I would never behave in such a way. I guess I just have to come with grips that some women do not share the same standards as me. I never said that these "vixens" were in a higher "league" as me LOL some prob are some prob aren't. At any rate I do not base my marriage on "leagues" or "looks" and honestly have never thought of that. Although physical attraction is the main purpose of becoming interested in someone, the true concept of marriage is a lot more than how the other person looks at least it should be!0 -
I think OP should chill out0
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Words can hurt people. Judging them for that doesn't really help. I am glad it doesn't bother you, that's seriously great.
ARE YOU SERIOUS?! Please say it ain't so.....LOL I'm sorry to laugh but honestly who cares that much? This is exactly why I don't ever comment in those "rate the person above you" threads because honestly WHO CARES what some stranger on the internet thinks about the way you look? The only thing that matters to me is how I think I look!
I understand that words can hurt. BUT I think we all know that it is not a healthy reaction to drink yourself into a stupor and cry all night just because some internet stranger rated you a low number. I agree with the other person that said if someone is going to take it that seriously, then maybe its not healthy for them to post in those kinds of threads.0 -
If one of the people in the relationship doesn't like it, I think they have a right to ask the other person to stop. That said, other people don't stop being attractive just because you are in a relationship. To be jealous of something like that seems kind of immature to me, like the way a high school age person would behave.0
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I am sorry that some of you think that I am being immature for being concerned about this although I do know that there are a lot of people who agree with me and hold my same values. I understood when I posted this that I would have just as many people disagree with me that agreed. Thank you all for your inputs on this, what I was aiming for was different perspectives so that I could understand where my husband was coming from more in which all of you provided.0
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