Married Women-Your Thoughts?

HelloSweetie4

I don't see a problem with it. Just because you're married doesn't mean you no longer find other people attractive. It doesn't have ot have a sexual undertone. I post on that thread sometimes, to men and women. I can appreciate a woman's beauty just as much as a man, that's not cheating and it certainly doesn't make me a lesbian.
Honestly I think, and feel free to disagree, but if your SO gets pissed about rating a person's picture, then there's bigger problems in that relationship. It's silly to get jealous over something like that.

LittleBallofFurr

I would equate getting upset over this to getting upset if he has fantasies about celebrities. He'll never meet these girls, it's all in good fun...

How could you be here for 4 months and 3000 posts and not hear about the hook ups that take place on this site? It seems like every day there is a deactivation from someone who is married/attached and they got caught misbehaving on here. I know of some that have took it offline and got caught.\




Not suggesting that the OP's husband is looking for a hook up by participating in a rating thread, BUT to equate it to fantasies about celebrities is just ridiculous.

I've been here two years and haven't heard about all these hookups that take place. But maybe that's because I'm not a gossipy hen and don't give a damn what other people are doing.

I'm not a fan of rating people in general, so I don't participate in those threads. But it's really just people looking for a little ego boost and validation. Harmless fun for those who enjoy it.

If a relationship is destroyed because someone gave someone a high rating, then that relationship was already nearly dead.

THIS!

momshorses

In my opinion, this type of behavior is unacceptable in a marriage. He needs to honor you and appreciate your beauty, he married you. He might not see it as a big deal, but we want our men to look at us as beautiful. When they turn their attention towards other women, on purpose because it's one thing to notice an attractive woman and another to tell her about it online, it is a betrayal.

I totally agree with this. It is so important to guard our marriages. My husband and I try our very best to make sure we do. We are married for life. I think it is important for each of us to know that we are the most important and special person in each others lives. Looks are fleeting. My hubby and I are forever.

shezzamess

I think this behavior opens doors........

zombilishious

Everyone gives a 9 or a 10 anyway. It's meaningless.

Dang it! I post in there when I need a self-esteem boost! There goes my good mood for the day :sad:

Seriously, I do it. I wouldn't have a problem with him doing it. I see those forums are harmless. They're public, and they're pretty funny.

JustJennie1

I think this behavior opens doors........

Opens doors to what?

ErinGBragh

First of all, to those who keep making the "You are clearly insecure" comments, ummm, she admitted that already. She DOES feel insecure because of her weight. How dare she be human! Must be nice being perfect and completely comfortable with your body.

She also stated multiple times that she TRUSTS him, so enough comments about trust. There is a difference between trust and feeling insecure due to your image. She was bothered because she feels insecure about her body and how it measures up to the women he was rating.

kenazfehu

It wouldn't bother me at all. What he does during his computer time is none of my business.

WendyTerry420

I was wondering how the married women in this forum would feel about your husband posting in the "rate the person above you" threads?

I recently noticed my husband posting in one of these and I'm not sure how I feel about it. How would you feel? Do you think it is wrong? Do you think it is more in the gray area? Or do you think there is nothing wrong with it what so ever?

It wouldn't bother me at all. In fact my husband and me often make a game of rating other persons, especially celebrities.

WendyTerry420

In my opinion, this type of behavior is unacceptable in a marriage. He needs to honor you and appreciate your beauty, he married you. He might not see it as a big deal, but we want our men to look at us as beautiful. When they turn their attention towards other women, on purpose because it's one thing to notice an attractive woman and another to tell her about it online, it is a betrayal.

How is chit-chat on the internet bringing dishonor?

ErinGBragh

From a semantics point of view, I don't think rating women's bodies qualifies as "chit-chat".

LadyOfOceanBreeze

From a semantics point of view, I don't think rating women's bodies qualifies as "chit-chat".

hhhmmmmm....food for thought:blushing:

Kathy_TheVampireSlayer

I don't think it is that big of a deal...just having fun. As long as it doesn't go any further than rating on a thread

Kathy_TheVampireSlayer

I was wondering how the married women in this forum would feel about your husband posting in the "rate the person above you" threads?

I recently noticed my husband posting in one of these and I'm not sure how I feel about it. How would you feel? Do you think it is wrong? Do you think it is more in the gray area? Or do you think there is nothing wrong with it what so ever?

Wouldn't think anything of it... My husband has eyes so he can see other women... It's not a crime as far as I am concerned!

THIS! (:

jamielovesjbs

i wouldn't want him doing it, because it seems immature and attention seeking to me.

MyChocolateDiet

Dude, I was told that once I was married I would no longer have to have thoughts. Or opinions. Or money. Or a job. What are you trying to do here?

MyChocolateDiet

I was wondering how the married women in this forum would feel about your husband posting in the "rate the person above you" threads?

I recently noticed my husband posting in one of these and I'm not sure how I feel about it. How would you feel? Do you think it is wrong? Do you think it is more in the gray area? Or do you think there is nothing wrong with it what so ever?

It's a flirt thread, no? What concerns me more is that you "don't know how" you feel about it. Whenever someone doesn't know how they feel or what they think about something it reminds me of a woman from a generation ahead of me who may or may not have given birth to me who lived her entire life for a man to the point of now not knowing what smells she even likes. This drives me insane and makes me want to say those three little immortal words. Just. Break. Up.

Go out and have exactly 3 margaritas then drunk dial him. leave a message. in the morning at least one of you will know exactly how you really feel. Call me in the morning. That's my prescription. En vino veritasse.

Katina3333

I see it as rating, flirting and judging another womans body. So if he's judging it, whats he comparing it to? No thanks, its a slippery slope. No need to even go there.

hellokittymaui

Hubby and I are both very happy, comfortable and secure in our relationship. A little online flirting like this (on this site or others) is fun and no problem for us. Maybe it is for some other couples that aren't quite as secure and open? This is one of those issues that totally depends on the couple; what works for one couple may not work for another.

Katina3333

To say what works for one couple may not for another but then to call that other couple "aren't quite as secure and open" seems contradictory and like you're making a huge assumption. Just because we don't flirt online doesn't make us insecure. Heck I'd go so far as to say that we're pretty darn secure that we don't need to step outside of our relationship to get the positive feedback that's needed. I believe that if you act like you're single, eventually you will be!

hellokittymaui

Well...I answered this question from a little bit "different" point of view than most married people on here. So, I think we all should agree to disagree.

Booksandbeaches

It seems like people nearly always give a 9 or 10 even when the person is clearly not, so I take these threads with a grain of salt. My husband wouldn't participate. Social media isn't his thing, but if he did...I think he'd show the threads and we'd both have some fun posting a number for whatever person posted above.

skinnyinnotime

In my opinion, this type of behavior is unacceptable in a marriage. He needs to honor you and appreciate your beauty, he married you. He might not see it as a big deal, but we want our men to look at us as beautiful. When they turn their attention towards other women, on purpose because it's one thing to notice an attractive woman and another to tell her about it online, it is a betrayal.

This is beyond ridiculous. :laugh:

Booksandbeaches

Just realized someone bumped an old thread...

NoExcuses79

IDK what to say or if there is anything to be said, but I feel like saying it anyway. My wife is lying here next to me right now asleep and I responded to a thread asking what is sexy about the person above you? I answered honestly and my wife would not be happy if she seen me participating in that type of discussion. At the same time we have been together for the better part of 20yrs and have even experimented sexually with people in the past. I love her very much and would not trade her for the most beautiful women on this site or anywhere. It would still make her uncomfortable so I can definately understand the mixed feelings here. Most people atleast in my experience are untrustworthy male and female married or not. You know if your partner is a cheating, disloyal, untrustworthy person or not. Maybe that is why your uncomfortable and should deal with that issue.

2stepscloser

I do it and don't see anything wrong with it. My hubby is on MFP too and hasn't said anything to me. It's natural to find other people attractive. We have a great marriage and he knows where I'm sleeping every night

With that being said, everyone is different and only you know your spouse. Is he the type to possibly take things further? Would this be temptation for him?

TavistockToad

With that being said, everyone is different and only you know your spouse. Is he the type to possibly take things further? Would this be temptation for him?

if women on the internet are a temptation, he will struggle with ever going ANYWHERE where there may be women...

CrazyAnne

I don't get the rate the person above you threads to begin with and assumed they were for young singles. However, it's just a thread I wouldn't be too concerned about it unless more of a conversation followed.

Well said

pinkraynedropjacki

If ANY married woman on here ever thought their husband NEVER looks at another woman in 'that' way then the woman has more problems than just a rating on a forum.

tq1977

I do it as well, we are married but still human.