Married Women-Your Thoughts?

1…678911

Replies

  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    7
  • 294Rich
    294Rich Posts: 171 Member
    6.5
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    If ANY married woman on here ever thought their husband NEVER looks at another woman in 'that' way then the woman has more problems than just a rating on a forum.

    agreed!
  • QuinceyBethx3
    QuinceyBethx3 Posts: 47
    If it makes you uncomfortable he shouldn't do it. Let him know that it bothers you and he should respect your feelings!
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
    Anybody that doesn't think we internally answer "would I hit it" to damn near each and every woman we look at (and we're talking full room scans with hundreds of people answered in fractions of a second) is fooling themselves...
  • NoExcuses79
    NoExcuses79 Posts: 233
    We're all on here because we want to look better and support each other.......it makes sense to have a rating thread or to compliment one another when it is due, if it were to go further than that or if something innappropriate were said then "HOUSTON we have a problem". If you have a problem with your spouse complimenting someone of the opposite sex or the same then you have some personal issues that need to be dealt with. At one point we were just as the animals and did everything we come across, only becoming civilized made us begin to set boundaries for one another. When we persue someone you don't care if their seeing someone else or complimenting people on a website, you just want them and once you have them you want them all to yourself so we begin with the rules/boundaries. We all do it some more than others...............if you don't trust him, tell him cause that's what it comes down to not a silly post on a website. If he doesnt compromise then............IDK what to tell you, say goodbye and try your luck elswhere it could be alot worse!!! Just 1 man's point of view ,not trying to step on toes or hurt feelings. You are entitled to feel the way you do! Now go work this out before it causes you any more stress.
  • NutellaAddict
    NutellaAddict Posts: 1,258 Member
    Did someone give you a low score?
  • Horsezee
    Horsezee Posts: 22
    Nah, doesn't bother me at all. If he was trying to get numbers and set up dates then I'd be angry, but if it's an innocent glance, or a compliment on a forum, that's fine. :)
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    Dude, I was told that once I was married I would no longer have to have thoughts. Or opinions. Or money. Or a job. What are you trying to do here?

    Hmm. Previous post was from Nov 2012.


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cmw67vdsB2Q
  • tigerblood78
    tigerblood78 Posts: 416 Member
    I wouldn't care that she posted in those threads...I would however feel bad that her self esteem was so low that she would participate in that nonsense
  • frommetobetterme
    frommetobetterme Posts: 124 Member
    If you're uncomfortable with it, then it's wrong for your relationship. You need to nicely bring it up and tell him how it makes you feel.

    Personally, it would depend on how if was done. If he just goes in for fun and puts up a rating... whatever. If however, he puts comments and flirts, then it's an issue. Giving a number to someone isn't anywhere close to having a conversation and leading to cheating.

    Although note, that we have one of those relationships where the rule is 'look but don't touch). Afterall, it's human nature to look at others and find the best possible mate. I personally feel that if I got upset each time he looked at another woman, we would both be miserable for no good reason.
  • JenAndSome
    JenAndSome Posts: 1,893 Member
    When I was married I wouldn't have cared. I wouldn't care now with my bf either. I see nothing wrong with looking at other people. Besides, it's all fun and games. However, if he consistently rated me, or others similar to me, a 5 or under I might be a little upset.
  • brower47
    brower47 Posts: 16,356 Member
    ROFL, my husband and I were doing it together the other night. Using my account but we'd come to a consensus on the folks before posting. He also laughs when I get messages from guys. If he was doing it by himself, I wouldn't be concerned in the least but then again, he gets back from work trips and tells me all his wacky bar (and the occasional strip club) stories. Unless your husband has done something in the past to cause concern, you probably shouldn't make a big deal about it. But then again, you're the only one in this thread that really knows the guy and are ultimately the only one who can respond properly despite all the 'advice' you're getting.
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    It's the Internet .... Half the pics are fake, photoshopped anyways. Who cares. Everyone lies about the person above you. I could care less. My self esteem is not affected whatsoever. I think it would be a huge turn on to see how they rate my husband. To remind me of what I got lol , I take no offense
  • 81meg1L
    81meg1L Posts: 44 Member
    Don't worry- Be happy.

    :-)
  • 81meg1L
    81meg1L Posts: 44 Member
    Yes, You're right. Its much more advantageous to focus on your own actions, and increasing your self-esteem.

    Losing weight, toning-up, becoming healthier is all about increasing your self esteem!

    When working out, its not simply the burn that feels good- its the rush of improvement- Ever Upward!
  • 81meg1L
    81meg1L Posts: 44 Member
    I think so too.

    I'm married, and we go back and forth about "sexiness"...Yeah...we judge ;-)

    But we enjoy each other. I know my husband wants a 'hot' wife, just like I want a 'hot' husband. So while we're improving together, its a total turn-on.

    Its just part of life.

    Reference:
    National Geographic's: The Nature Channel
  • gracielynn1011
    gracielynn1011 Posts: 726 Member
    I don't participate in those types of threads because I feel like it is disrespectful to my husband. And he would give me the same respect of not participating also. It is human nature to admire a beautiful form, and neither of us gets upset at the other acknowledging that, but we do agree that anything other than a simple look is not appropriate.
  • soontobemomma
    soontobemomma Posts: 57
    This is an old thread guys!
  • NoExcuses79
    NoExcuses79 Posts: 233
    Obviously alot to be said on the subject..........regardless how old it is................and its good to hear how others feel about and would deal with the situation. It helps you determine if your being rational or irrational, because we tend to be irrational when it comes to personal issues, its always different from the inside!!!
  • CassandraBurgos83
    CassandraBurgos83 Posts: 544 Member
    I would be hurt too. I feel out of respect knowing how it makes me feel that it is a slap in the face. I don't do things to him that I know bother him and I expect the same. People will say they are fine with it until their partner thinks hey she's okay with this why not kick it up a notch and then it's the level after that and next thing you know it could be an emotional affair.... All i know is in most cases it doesn't lead to anything positive or beneficial to a marriage.
  • etoiles_argentees
    etoiles_argentees Posts: 2,827 Member
    human or not... I would not like it.
  • AmberB519
    AmberB519 Posts: 336 Member
    Everyone gives a 9 or a 10 anyway. It's meaningless.

    Exactly. However, it is also harmless.
  • LMT2012
    LMT2012 Posts: 697 Member
    Whatever each couple decides between them is the correct answer. Personally, I would find it stifling to have my visits to a fitness website micro-managed. There are other sites like this one. Blow his mind and find your own maybe?
  • TheWiseCat
    TheWiseCat Posts: 297
    lol mine wouldn't care. We even rate people and their clothes around us. If we go to a restaurant and a cute girl is there, she will go "omg, that girl is so beautiful" and complement her ____. She even does it at work with her coworkers where they will rate their clients looks lol. Who gives a ****, seriously? It's not like "you're a 9" means "lets meet at the gas station and bang." Some people are just insecure and get pissy about that kind of stuff.
  • TheWiseCat
    TheWiseCat Posts: 297
    6.5

    7.5
  • TheWiseCat
    TheWiseCat Posts: 297
    Hubby and I are both very happy, comfortable and secure in our relationship. A little online flirting like this (on this site or others) is fun and no problem for us. Maybe it is for some other couples that aren't quite as secure and open? This is one of those issues that totally depends on the couple; what works for one couple may not work for another.
    9!
  • Lisa1971
    Lisa1971 Posts: 3,069 Member
    Everyone gives a 9 or a 10 anyway. It's meaningless.

    Yes, this!
  • Katina3333
    Katina3333 Posts: 259 Member
    Everyone gives a 9 or a 10 anyway. It's meaningless.

    Exactly. However, it is also harmless.

    You can't really blanket call it harmless. What one person considers okay for a relationship doesn't mean anything if the people in the relationship don't agree to that. So it may be harmless to you in your relationship and as long as hubby feels the same, then so be it. But that doesn't make it harmless for other people relationships.

    I think of those threads the same as Hot or Not... would I put my pic up there now that I'm married... nope. Would I put it up there when I was single... only when I needed some reassurance, now I get that from my hubby.
  • RushBabe214
    RushBabe214 Posts: 469 Member
    If my husband were on this site and posted on those threads, I wouldn't care. They are meaningless and harmless.

    Oh, and stupid.

    No one is ever below an 8, it's always the same people participating...blah, blah, blah....

    :yawn:

Categories