When did you know it was over?
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The first time, when I experienced a horrible miscarriage (7 months in) and he chose his family over helping me grieve. It was over long before this though, but we had become so comfortable together that neither of us really felt the urge to break it off despite there being no real love between us.
The second, when he hit me then almost strangled me.
But now I'm happily married. And it was worth going through hell to find happiness!0 -
If I told you you would have nightmares. I know I still do and it has been a year and a half. From the time I made the decision to the time the police were at the door he didn't have enough time to put on his shoes. :brokenheart:0
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I am happily married now. I knew it was over when I had enough of my ex boyfriend's verbal abuse. He always accused me of cheating on him. He didn't get along with my family either at all. We fought constantly from the beginning of our 5 year relationship. What broke the straw was the incident when i was at my best friend's house and he kept calling me calling me names and a cheater. Tyson (my husband now) was there. I just looked at him and saw how there are really nice people out there and I dont have to put up with this harrasment.! I never cheated on him, but for some reason he had something in his head. I told him it was over on the phone. Went back home, and began to change my life forever. I put in my four week notice at work (luckily i had 4 weeks of pto to cash out on to keep me ok financially for a while) I packed up my stuff and moved away. It was the biggest life challenge I have dealt with so far. I am so thankful now that I had the courage to get out. When I look back, I was scared to leave him because I was scared to be alone. Now I am happily married to my husband who is the sweetest guy ever!!!!0
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The last relationship I was in when she said she was sick and tired of us not moving forward in terms of our relationship, I knew about 2 months before she broke up with me that it was over between us and this was just physical now.
I was technically over it the next day but I did missed her and once snapped when I was a youtube clip where I saw an Asian girl and she just reminded me of her so I guess I wasn't "over her" for like a month or 2 after it was over0 -
Not bad Jimmy, not bad at all... but I'm sorry, you still don't win.
When I called her parents to tell her she was coming home and I couldn't take her drug/alcohol problem anymore, even if it did help her cope with the pain from cancer.
And they said, "What cancer?"
*keeps heavyweight belt right where it belongs*
I am still not sure that beats seeing a mexican third baseman giving her a liver massage with his fungo bat....
I love a good Jaws-style, you show me yours I'll show you mine, ex-off!
Ah you caught your woman cheating, happens ALLL the time! I had to continually try to get her to breathe again during her seizures (ok those were real I found out).
Plus I'm pretty sure she cheated on me too. But that was the least of my worries, what with all the vicodin I had to steal for her....
DON'T CHALLENGE THE CHAMP!!0 -
When I got home from 3 months at sea and found she'd received a thank you card from a Destroyer crew.0
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I knew it was over when we moved in together. I lost my own space, my own life, my own self. He had a daughter & almost instantly I was transformed into babysitter & housekeeper. It was his house, so I had to get enough money banked to move out. I still had a ways to go before I would have been comfortable, but he came home one night from a work happy hour & announced that he found me boring, that I had let myself go (same line of crap he told his wife when he left her!) that he no longer found me attractive & that someone else had expressed an interest, even though he had not yet acted upon it. I knew it was right to end - but I was crushed at the vicious way he told me. Using the same venom on me that he had used on his wife 5 years before & hitting me where he knew it would hurt most - the weight I have been battling against for months. Most of the time I think I am shouldnt be feeling as hurt as I do - after all, I knew it was done long before he did & had been saving my money in secret for months to prepare to go.0
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I knew it had ended with my boyfriend when he sold the flat and didnt give a s**t where I ended up. To put it mildly! LOL0
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With my ex-husband, I knew as soon as our daughter was born and I realized that he was never going to grow up and put anyone (even his own child) before his own selfish needs. I kicked him out shortly after that and filed for divorce. Best decision I ever made.
My goodness....our ex's must have been twins. :flowerforyou:0 -
When he would no longer allow me to even hang out with my own best friend because she may be trying to come on to me. Uh excuse me?
mine was like that too, always snooping my fb and phone,0 -
We always had our ups and downs, but I knew it was over the night that I tried to leave and he told me if I was going to leave he would give me a reason to, and he did.0
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I knew it was over when he drove me to having a nervous breakdown.0
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When her and I had different ideas of where we wanted to be in five years. My wife and I compliment each other, not compromise.0
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Back in the day I dated a girl and I knew it was over when I went to hold her hand and she pulled it away like she got electrocuted. She then said, "Look, I don't want to go out with you anymore and I can't even think of what made me go out with you in the first place."
I mean, I would have gladly taken, "It's not you. It's me."
Ha!0 -
When alcohol became more important than me?0
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My ex and I split up after eight years of marriage. I knew it was over when he sat on the end of our bed crying because he thought a supposed one night stand was pregnant with his child and he didn't know if he could handle not being a part of it's life. I told him, "Look you moron ... you have three kids IN THIS HOUSE to whom you aren't a father; why should another one be any different?" I told him to leave and never looked back. That was 13 years ago.
Remarried, wildly happy, and wouldn't change a thing.0 -
6 month relationship ended when his baby momma called me and informed me that she had recently given birth to their SECOND child I had no idea about........0
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When, after 3 years, I FINALLY got up the nerve to ask him if he was ever going to cut his hair (it was shaggy and thin and...just ick) and he got defensive and mad. We took yet another "break", and it was the first time I felt OK without him. A week later, he called me up to see if I wanted to come over, and I knew an ultimatum had to be given: basically, GET TO KNOW ME (seriously, after 3 years!) or I have to go. He admitted he couldn't change, and I summoned all my strength and walked out. I am now happily married to a man I am my complete self with and knows me inside and out and loves me still, flaws 'n all.0
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Now I'm in a happy relationship.
But with my last boyfriend - we'd been together for almost a year (I broke up with him about a week before our first anniversary). I started feeling it wasn't getting anywhere about a month or so before - that was because he said he was going to move abroad at some point while I wasn't interested in doing that, and I knew I didn't love him so much anymore. It took me about one week or two since deciding I should break up with him until I finally did.
And I'm really glad I did, because really, I don't think he was all that great in retrospect, and if we didn't break up I wouldn't have met my love.
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Not bad Jimmy, not bad at all... but I'm sorry, you still don't win.
When I called her parents to tell her she was coming home and I couldn't take her drug/alcohol problem anymore, even if it did help her cope with the pain from cancer.
And they said, "What cancer?"
*keeps heavyweight belt right where it belongs*
I am still not sure that beats seeing a mexican third baseman giving her a liver massage with his fungo bat....
I love a good Jaws-style, you show me yours I'll show you mine, ex-off!
Ah you caught your woman cheating, happens ALLL the time! I had to continually try to get her to breathe again during her seizures (ok those were real I found out).
Plus I'm pretty sure she cheated on me too. But that was the least of my worries, what with all the vicodin I had to steal for her....
DON'T CHALLENGE THE CHAMP!!
You :"THINK" she was cheating huh? So you never actually saw his piston firing in her well-lubricated cylinder? No, sorry bro.....I had the pleasure of the drug induced bull****....and in actually catching her red handed, parked in a field behind the barn on my granddads farm. You lose.0 -
When I found a drawer full of makeup and lingerie that didn't belong to me and all kinds of women's clothing hidden in the back of his car.... But turned out the other woman was actually HIM - he had a whole cross-dressing thing going on and would be all over town doing the grocery shopping etc in drag... It took a bit for him to get all the way out of the closet but when he finally admitted to his actively bisexual transgender lifestyle, it was pretty much done....0
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I am filing for divorce this week. We've been together since 1999, married since 2007. *We* knew going in would be tricky as I was always into women, and men not so much. But we are best friends, great partners and an amazing team. He never minded me having a girlfriend "on the side" as it were and that worked for a few years.
A couple years ago we hit a real rut, I wanted to travel, he didn't. I want to be an activist, he doesn't. I want to do volunteer work, he's not interested. I wanted a baby, he didn't. As always he said, "go.. do.. don't do without just because I don't want". So for everything but the baby I did.... but that leads to a separation in lives, and the longer time went by I realized I just didn't love him the same anymore and my interest in men (any man) was completely gone.
We went to therapy, I came out to my family as gay, he and I cried and cried, and then we cried some more. Then we decided to file for divorce. We still share a home, and a life as we slowly, and very carefully separate. We have always been best friends, and are determined to stay that way. Despite the hurt, regret and sadness we both share.0 -
When I saw he had the entire collection of Twilight books. Should have hidden those before I came over!0
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When I saved up over $350 by selling off some of my favorite things to get a tattoo and he made me cancel the appt the day before it was supposed to happen, then didnt appreciate that I spent every cent of it on gifts for him instead.
When his ex he once left me for was suddenly his best friend after I'd known he'd been talking to her again for months and hiding it from me.
When he got jealous of every guy I associated with, and still expected me to be ok with him being best friends with his ex.
When we both started looking at each other's phones...and we both knew it was happening and still snuck around doing it.0 -
When I saw he had the entire collection of Twilight books. Should have hidden those before I came over!
Yea, that'd do it.0 -
When I started wondering if a) maybe sex isn't supposed to be a humiliating chore b) maybe I don't have to keep doing this for the rest of my life.
I was totally right.0 -
Well, I should have known after the first month when everything turned to ****, but then I wouldn't have my son, so it's not all bad. I remember being in the car with him and telling him I wanted to break up and then he cried and I don't even remember what he said, but I felt bad and we didn't break up. But I knew then it was never going to last. We stayed together for another miserable year, and after he basically abandoned my son but thought he could still have sex with me, that was enough. When he realized he couldn't worm his way back in, he started sleeping with one of our mutual friends. That was...about 8 years ago now. Only one serious relationship since then and he broke it off completely unexpectedly.I’m starting to find the “when did you know” relationship threads tedious, so just for balance I thought we’d address the opposite end of this issue. For those of you who are divorced (or have ended a “serious” relationship), when did you know it was time to end things? How long after that did you actually do it? How long has it been since you broke things off?
For the record, I'm happily married, although I did end my fair share of relationships before meeting my husband. I just have a realistic streak.0 -
With my ex-husband? Well, let's see...oh, wait, it's over?
We've been divorced for four years and he still haunts my daily existence.
GOOOOOO AWAYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!
I forgot to say that I am VERY happily remarried...and the ex still NEVER goes away.0 -
Good for you; I hope it works out well for you guys.I am filing for divorce this week. We've been together since 1999, married since 2007. *We* knew going in would be tricky as I was always into women, and men not so much. But we are best friends, great partners and an amazing team. He never minded me having a girlfriend "on the side" as it were and that worked for a few years.
A couple years ago we hit a real rut, I wanted to travel, he didn't. I want to be an activist, he doesn't. I want to do volunteer work, he's not interested. I wanted a baby, he didn't. As always he said, "go.. do.. don't do without just because I don't want". So for everything but the baby I did.... but that leads to a separation in lives, and the longer time went by I realized I just didn't love him the same anymore and my interest in men (any man) was completely gone.
We went to therapy, I came out to my family as gay, he and I cried and cried, and then we cried some more. Then we decided to file for divorce. We still share a home, and a life as we slowly, and very carefully separate. We have always been best friends, and are determined to stay that way. Despite the hurt, regret and sadness we both share.0 -
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