Why are you single?

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  • Espressocycle
    Espressocycle Posts: 2,245 Member
    All you single peeps - work at it! I went on probably 30 dates in the span of a few months via online dating before finally finding my other half, the love of my life.
  • playitagainsam
    playitagainsam Posts: 84 Member
    Right now, my life has no room for a "significant other". Work, responsibilities of taking care of a ill grandmother and my mother who has some health problems of her own, as well as my goal of getting fit and healthy leave practically no time left for anything else or anyone else. It's a bit lonely, I will admit, but when the time is right for me, that will all change. Until then, it's not fair for me to try to fit someone else into my life that I cannot devote my full attentions towards.

    Plus, I'm not the normal 32-year-old male living in the year 2012! I'm a bit "old-fashioned" with a hint of the 21st century! If I could have chosen when I would have lived my life at the ages of 20 through my 30s, it would have been during the 1950s and 1960s. I love that time period. Try finding a woman today who enjoys those styles, music, movies, etc. today!
  • Cyndi1
    Cyndi1 Posts: 484 Member
    I'm tall and come off with a strong personality which I have been told is intimidating to men. I have my own house and fix my own stuff, I've had a couple male friends tell me that I won't get a man because they won't feel like they have anything to offer me. Plus, I am shy and don't ever go out... so I guess my only chances is with the UPS or Fedex man :)


    your not aone... I think you describe me except I do go out, guys are afraid of me...
  • cindycrn40
    cindycrn40 Posts: 27
    Because I choose to be. I would love to find someone, but I've always believed that it is better to be alone than to settle. The right person will come along one day---that goes for everyone :)
  • Zomoniac
    Zomoniac Posts: 1,169 Member
    I love being single. Or at least, I love being single when I'm not completely hung up on an ex and can't enjoy the freedom because every second is consumed by continuous feelings of desperation, self-hate and mild obsession. Oh.
  • slyder432
    slyder432 Posts: 475 Member
    bump this is interesting to read
  • stephgreene
    stephgreene Posts: 143
    I always end up being just the friend and I make bad choices in regards to guys. Oh well. I only mind being single when I'm not being awesome. And I'm always awesome.

    And by make bad choices - I mean I talk to *kitten*, find out they're *kitten* and promptly stop talking to them.
  • All4Drakes
    All4Drakes Posts: 9 Member
    I am single because I am not really looking! I have become too independent and strong and focused on the future and getting/keeping my life on track!

    Also because I am a single mom to a little boy who I believe, deserves to have mommy be with someone that will care about him, too! I aim really high in my expectations of what I believe a man should be like for me and my son. I need a man who won't lie to me or my son, wants a ready-made family, doesn't ever expect more kids as I can't have anymore, goal oriented, stable with a job, independent, and much, much, much more... AKA I am Picky and have every right to be!
  • Seoul11
    Seoul11 Posts: 138 Member
    Because I was ruined by a man who treated me like no one ever has. He was so loving, so respectful, and so amazing that it completely changed my view on how people should treat each other. Being with him... everything was simple... happy... meaningful... At first it took a lot of time to get used to being treated like I was worth so much because I had never felt like I was... but now my entire view of what I should receive and, in turn, give in a relationship has completely changed. I felt for the first time what it meant to be loved completely by someone and give yourself completely to someone. And from the moment I met this absolute gentleman.. I could never again accept anything less from a relationship. I was ruined.

    I may be average in the looks category, but I'm decently intelligent, humorous and friendly so I don't have much problem dates if I want them. But now... I can't stand the way men look at me... I can't believe the lewd comments they make to me or things they have tried to do... and I am absolutely disgusted by the vast majority of them.

    For those of you who refuse to settle, keep holding on. I know there are good ones out there because I had one. You just have to sift through until you find them, and never lose sight of what you're worth and what's important to you. :)

    So as for why I'm single...

    The timing just wasn't right.

    ...and I think I'm in love.
  • rlmiller73190
    rlmiller73190 Posts: 342 Member
    I'm very recently single. My ex cheated on me after 3 years. Turns out it is the best thing that could have happened, I am having the best time of my life being single and having fun!

    This is exactly my situation! Live it up, girly!
  • citygirl04
    citygirl04 Posts: 286 Member
    I need some me time.....
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    because prince charming is a myth

    It's actually because women's idea of prince charming is a myth.

    I have 2 friends that are single, well educated, have great jobs and are constantly told by women "you're not my type"....

    WTF more do you want? The guys are smart, decent looking, can provide financial and emotional support but do not have 6 pack abs. They would love nothing more than to partner with someone and travel, buy a big house and have the dream...but women are always looking for "something else".


    and they probably don't live anywhere near ME. lol :grumble:
  • djsupreme6
    djsupreme6 Posts: 1,210 Member
    from personal experience and from reading this there are a lot of people who say that right person will come along. I don't believe this at all, mostly because people change and everybody has their own set of personal experiences as well. What exactly is the right person anyway? I do however know many who have 'settled' only to figure out they were compatible with somebody after all
  • Joethebull
    Joethebull Posts: 54
    no idea how to date and 30, not attractive or smart, not good at video games despite playing them a lot, hate going to bars, and I am an extremely boring person.
  • NormalSaneFLGuy
    NormalSaneFLGuy Posts: 1,344 Member
    Because I'm too much to handle.

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  • pudadough
    pudadough Posts: 1,271 Member
    I also have no confidence around the opposite sex. I assume outright that guys won't find me attractive because of my size. Sometimes I'm right about that (I decided to call it "White Boy Skinny Syndrome.") Sometimes I'm not, though.

    I'm pretty clueless when someone is sending me signals that they are interested. Whoosh. Over my head.
  • mommycordillia
    mommycordillia Posts: 259
    I also have no confidence around the opposite sex. I assume outright that guys won't find me attractive because of my size. Sometimes I'm right about that (I decided to call it "White Boy Skinny Syndrome.") Sometimes I'm not, though.

    I'm pretty clueless when someone is sending me signals that they are interested. Whoosh. Over my head.

    same here :/
  • mattwlj
    mattwlj Posts: 36 Member
    I wish i knew, i guess girl's don't find me that attractive, or maybe I'm just getting all the bad ones
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Because I don't have the time or desire to date.
  • maqsmj
    maqsmj Posts: 697
    im not single so i dont know
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I'm not sure, but I'd like to blame my boobs. Or pickles....
  • maqsmj
    maqsmj Posts: 697
    I'm not sure, but I'd like to blame my boobs. Or pickles....

    serioudly whats wrong with ur boobs?! i hope u dont have a pickle down there, just saying
  • Sublog
    Sublog Posts: 1,296 Member
    I am single because I can't find a non bat chit crazy woman! LOL
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I'm not sure, but I'd like to blame my boobs. Or pickles....

    serioudly whats wrong with ur boobs?! i hope u dont have a pickle down there, just saying

    They're HYSTERICAL! Seriously... they should have their own stand up show on HBO.

    And Sublog, you shut your face and just marry me already.
  • RodSuarez
    RodSuarez Posts: 6,309 Member
    I am single because I won't give someone a label as boyfriend/girlfriend unless they have way too many qualities that I like [Being able to act/dance/sing or play the piano like a virtuoso is just one of them]

    And I have some people interested in me, but they aren't talented enough or they lack something.
  • Sublog
    Sublog Posts: 1,296 Member
    I'm not sure, but I'd like to blame my boobs. Or pickles....

    serioudly whats wrong with ur boobs?! i hope u dont have a pickle down there, just saying

    And Sublog, you shut your face and just marry me already.

    Judging by the way you're handling that pickle... I'd say YES!

    Where's my ring? :bigsmile:
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    from personal experience and from reading this there are a lot of people who say that right person will come along. I don't believe this at all, mostly because people change and everybody has their own set of personal experiences as well. What exactly is the right person anyway? I do however know many who have 'settled' only to figure out they were compatible with somebody after all

    i think the 'right person' is one whose particular style of feeling/living makes you feel loved/safe/supported, and appropriately challenged, and brings out the best in you. And you do the same for them.*

    And that could happen with probably a whole lot of people, it's just accident that brings x & y together.

    * ASSUMING everything else makes sense (they have the same goals & you are at similar stages in life [not nec age]; not too much difference in earnings; they/you aren't already married, or didn't just take a job in another country)
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I'm not sure, but I'd like to blame my boobs. Or pickles....

    serioudly whats wrong with ur boobs?! i hope u dont have a pickle down there, just saying

    And Sublog, you shut your face and just marry me already.

    Judging by the way you're handling that pickle... I'd say YES!

    Where's my ring? :bigsmile:

    What about an engagement squat rack or something :tongue:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I am single because I won't give someone a label as boyfriend/girlfriend unless they have way too many qualities that I like [Being able to act/dance/sing or play the piano like a virtuoso is just one of them]

    And I have some people interested in me, but they aren't talented enough or they lack something.

    You used the word "weighted" in your profile. Time to lower your standards.
  • Sublog
    Sublog Posts: 1,296 Member
    I'm not sure, but I'd like to blame my boobs. Or pickles....

    serioudly whats wrong with ur boobs?! i hope u dont have a pickle down there, just saying

    And Sublog, you shut your face and just marry me already.

    Judging by the way you're handling that pickle... I'd say YES!

    Where's my ring? :bigsmile:

    What about an engagement squat rack or something :tongue:

    Only if it has a nice soft mat in it so I can lay down. :)

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