Guys say they want a Nice/Good girl but go for Sl*ts?

MsJulielicious

I find it offensive that you have divided girls up into good/nice and slut/skank.

I don't believe the terms slut and skank should be used for anyone. Women can find liberation covered up or revealing skin, in abstinence or many partners. It's an individual choice and no one else's business.

Well, now we all know which category YOU fall into, then.

You're joking right?

VelociMama

Maybe he likes her udders?

kdf017

I think women are just as guilty when they say they want a nice guy and then go for the douche bags.

xeanx

I want a nice girl not a trashy girl.

Rayman79

Infauna

I find it offensive that you have divided girls up into good/nice and slut/skank.

I don't believe the terms slut and skank should be used for anyone. Women can find liberation covered up or revealing skin, in abstinence or many partners. It's an individual choice and no one else's business.

The real problem here isn't the guy involved or the lady involved, but why you give a cr*p about them doing their thing.

Focus on you. Your life, your health, your mind. Let other people focus on themselves and whatever they want/need/etc.

This. ^^

keithmustloseweight

I'm sure not all guys but it's kind of upsetting.

Guys who claim to be God fearing, guys claiming to want a nice girl and etc
but then go after and flirt with skanks........
I mean women who take naked pictures and are rolling blunts....... come on.

Maybe these guys are not "men" but what the hell

Because "nice" people tend to be ****ing boring or too passive to actually let people know what they think. Seeing as you've decided these other girls are sluts/skanks I wouldn't even bother calling you nice, you're obviously judgemental but are these thoughts that you actually share with people or do you just keep your mouth shut and be "nice". If nice people were really interesting or adventurous or passionate they'd be described as those things, but they're not, so they're instead described as "nice". People want a bit of excitement. You can be exciting and nice, but people won't even bother calling you nice, they'll just say you're exciting and awesome. Nice is like beige pants.

crisanderson27

I'm sure not all guys but it's kind of upsetting.

Guys who claim to be God fearing, guys claiming to want a nice girl and etc
but then go after and flirt with skanks........
I mean women who take naked pictures and are rolling blunts....... come on.

Maybe these guys are not "men" but what the hell

Because "nice" people tend to be ****ing boring. If they were really interesting or adventurous or passionate they'd be described as those things, but they're not, so they're instead described as "nice". People want a bit of excitement. You can be exciting and nice, but people won't even bother calling you nice, they'll just say you're exciting and awesome. Nice is like beige pants.

I disagree to an extent.

As a matter of fact, I may post a poll on my MFP wall just to find out which category I fit in lol.

Mutant13

I agree with the you OP! You guys should stop dating sluts!!! You should be dating prudish, judgemental, mysoginists instead! It's way more fun!

WinnerVictorious

I'm sure not all guys but it's kind of upsetting.

Guys who claim to be God fearing, guys claiming to want a nice girl and etc
but then go after and flirt with skanks........
I mean women who take naked pictures and are rolling blunts....... come on.

Maybe these guys are not "men" but what the hell

Because "nice" people tend to be ****ing boring or too passive to actually let people know what they think. Seeing as you've decided these other girls are sluts/skanks I wouldn't even bother calling you nice, you're obviously judgemental but are these thoughts that you actually share with people or do you just keep your mouth shut and be "nice". If nice people were really interesting or adventurous or passionate they'd be described as those things, but they're not, so they're instead described as "nice". People want a bit of excitement. You can be exciting and nice, but people won't even bother calling you nice, they'll just say you're exciting and awesome. Nice is like beige pants.

ruh roh.

flatbellybella

Nice people are not boring

Easy come easy go

Nowplaying: Joe - Good Girls

Mutant13

As for the 'nice guys' thing

Yes, there are some nice guys who genuinely get a raw deal. But a hell of a lot of guys are actually in one of two situations

1. You are a nice guy who likes a girl, but she doesn't have those feelings for you. You can be as nice as you like, sometimes the chemistry just isn't there. So while you're stuck in the 'friend zone' every other guy she dates is an assh0le because he's NOT YOU.

2. You are trying to date a girl who has dated plenty of "nice guys" every guy is "nice" when they want to do the horizontal boogie with you. It isn't always easy to spot those who aren't so nice afterwards

BBehnke84

I agree with the you OP! You guys should stop dating sluts!!! You should be dating prudish, judgemental, mysoginists instead! It's way more fun!

Whoah...I've been going about this completely the wrong way!

BBehnke84

I'm sure not all guys but it's kind of upsetting.

Guys who claim to be God fearing, guys claiming to want a nice girl and etc
but then go after and flirt with skanks........
I mean women who take naked pictures and are rolling blunts....... come on.

Maybe these guys are not "men" but what the hell

Yeah like the women who say they want nice and sweet guys, but when you're all nice and sweet they're not interested and go for a *kitten*. this is 90% of women.

THIS^^^^^^^^

I'd venture to say 95% of women

If 95% of all women go for *kitten* then does that mean that most guys are *kitten*?

Haha damn, you got me...but honestly I know alot of ones that are...haha...so yeah that could be true

crisanderson27

As for the 'nice guys' thing

Yes, there are some nice guys who genuinely get a raw deal. But a hell of a lot of guys are actually in one of two situations

1. You are a nice guy who likes a girl, but she doesn't have those feelings for you. You can be as nice as you like, sometimes the chemistry just isn't there. So while you're stuck in the 'friend zone' every other guy she dates is an assh0le because he's NOT YOU.

2. You are trying to date a girl who has dated plenty of "nice guys" every guy is "nice" when they want to do the horizontal boogie with you. It isn't always easy to spot those who aren't so nice afterwards

I think there's a few more situations than that lol...but your two situations definitely cover some of the nice guys.

BusyRaeNOTBusty

Story time:

I like sex. I had casual sex in college. I had sex with a guy once the first night I met him (actually I did that 3 times with 3 different guys, but I'm only talking about the last one now). He kind of comes off as an *kitten* to those who don't know him well. There was never any chemistry with the "nice" guys I dated. I like assertive men.

We've been together almost 11 years, married 8.5, and have 3 children.

We also still have awesome sex.

Then end.

PikaKnight

Wow..jaded and bitter much? Why is it the girl's fault that whatever guy you liked decided NOT to choose you.

And why does this make her a slut? Why does taking naked pictures make you a slut? Are actresses who do a semi- or full nude scene sluts too? And how the hell does smoking weed automatically make you a slut? (which btw - I have NEVER heard this one...made me laugh).

And what about Girls who say they want a nice guy but go after the douches/man-*kitten*?

Could it possibly be it isn't a gender thing but rather an INDIVIDUAL/personal thing/preference?

I think you need to stop trying to hate and trying to put people into "roles" because you are angry. Instead, focus on bettering yourself and move on.

Cespuglio

I'm sure not all guys but it's kind of upsetting.

Guys who claim to be God fearing, guys claiming to want a nice girl and etc
but then go after and flirt with skanks........
I mean women who take naked pictures and are rolling blunts....... come on.

Maybe these guys are not "men" but what the hell

Yeah like the women who say they want nice and sweet guys, but when you're all nice and sweet they're not interested and go for a *kitten*. this is 90% of women.

THIS^^^^^^^^

I'd venture to say 95% of women

If 95% of all women go for *kitten* then does that mean that most guys are *kitten*?

^^^^ My heroine!!

PikaKnight

Men are visual creatures. They go for the aesthetically appealing. Its just in their DNA. I know plenty of great guys who still drool at an awesome pair of bewbz. Just cause a guy is paying attention to a female because of how she looks doesn't make him a bad guy. Men have defects. So do femalez. Being overly sensitive and jealous of the attention that other women get is one of them.

I think women can be visual creatures too. And to say that it is in men's DNA to go for the aesthetically appealing is kind of messed up. And what about women that drool at men? How about lesbians that drool at boobs? So what. Doesn't mean they are sluts or the people they are admiring are sluts. And who the hell are we to judge anything..really?

Serenstar75

It goes both ways. I think age does a lot to cure this problem, and experience. When they've dealt with enough jerks, male or female, then they start to look for something else. They're also attracted to confidence. We all are. Personally, I want a man who is a blend of a good guy who won't be a jerk to me and mess around, and a little bit of an alpha too so that I'm not dealing with a puppy dog following me or a man who won't be his own man. My man also wants a woman who isn't a clinging, insecure, gossipy, dramatic mess. But he does, like all men, want someone he considers attractive and fun to be around.

sm1zzle

Hey now.... dirty sluts need love too.

trying2findmyway

Men are visual creatures. They go for the aesthetically appealing. Its just in their DNA. I know plenty of great guys who still drool at an awesome pair of bewbz. Just cause a guy is paying attention to a female because of how she looks doesn't make him a bad guy. Men have defects. So do femalez. Being overly sensitive and jealous of the attention that other women get is one of them.

I think women can be visual creatures too. And to say that it is in men's DNA to go for the aesthetically appealing is kind of messed up. And what about women that drool at men? How about lesbians that drool at boobs? So what. Doesn't mean they are sluts or the people they are admiring are sluts. And who the hell are we to judge anything..really?

gahhhhhh Shut up! :sick:

whierd

Girls are always looking for a reason to demean other women.

PikaKnight

Men are visual creatures. They go for the aesthetically appealing. Its just in their DNA. I know plenty of great guys who still drool at an awesome pair of bewbz. Just cause a guy is paying attention to a female because of how she looks doesn't make him a bad guy. Men have defects. So do femalez. Being overly sensitive and jealous of the attention that other women get is one of them.

I think women can be visual creatures too. And to say that it is in men's DNA to go for the aesthetically appealing is kind of messed up. And what about women that drool at men? How about lesbians that drool at boobs? So what. Doesn't mean they are sluts or the people they are admiring are sluts. And who the hell are we to judge anything..really?

gahhhhhh Shut up! :sick:

If you can't handle opinions that are not in accord with you...don't come on a forum and ask these questions..Derp derp!

crisanderson27

It goes both ways. I think age does a lot to cure this problem, and experience. When they've dealt with enough jerks, male or female, then they start to look for something else. They're also attracted to confidence. We all are. Personally, I want a man who is a blend of a good guy who won't be a jerk to me and mess around, and a little bit of an alpha too so that I'm not dealing with a puppy dog following me or a man who won't be his own man. My man also wants a woman who isn't a clinging, insecure, gossipy, dramatic mess. But he does, like all men, want someone he considers attractive and fun to be around.

I tend to disagree (with the first part) here as well...I'm 38yrs old. Unless the age at which you feel this trait tends to go away is higher than that, I can tell you that the problem hasn't lessened as my average dating pool age has increased lol.

As for the type of guy you prefer, that's what I'd assume most women want. About the only differences in me personally, is that I don't mind what most people consider 'clinging' women. I happen to like spending a lot of time with the person I love...and don't need the typical amount of 'space' that most guys I know require.

crisanderson27

Girls are always looking for a reason to demean other women.

Careful! The feminazi's will put a burning cross in your front yard if you go much further with that line of dialogue lol.

maqsmj

hmmmm, well...........guess what, if u want to make a guy die to come next to you ith all the up nose attitude then yea they will go for the easy one

relationship based on 2 persons putting efforts into it.

not a guy running behind a girl, not a girl running behind a guy

mdyorston

I'm not mad at anyone


2. I have seen with a number of my male friends.... they quote bible verses... all over their FB, Instagram and etc but then next minute they're flirting with a girl taking half naked pictures. and Ya I'd say a girl taking a pic of her rolling a blunt is trashy....

chances are they're losers that's why they like trash

and taking a picture naked and posting it on instagram does make you a slut.........

Your male friends are simply shady...why blame the woman?

Taking naked or semi nake pictures and posting it on Instagram makes them a slut IN YOUR OPINION. My opinion might be different, or might not...but they point is, they're opinions.

Now, I think most of my friends would agree I'm a nice guy. I am also a guy who happens to like sex (a lot). I need a woman who likes sex as well. I would prefer that she keep her sexuality confined to our relationship of course, but this is why you date...to find out if your views on these things are compatible.

To clarify...this does NOT mean I run around having sex with everyone, or that I specifically target half naked women on Instagram or anywhere else as my 'dating pool'. What it DOES mean, is that her pictures on Instagram don't necessarily reflect on who she is as a person (I have women friends with half naked pictures, who've been dating one guy since their teens...do pictures make her a slut?). What it also means is that I'd give a girl with half naked pictures just as much of a chance as I would a girl who maintained a more typically demure online profile...assuming I was attracted to either.

Unfortunately however, it seems I'm meant to be forever single. Go figure.

Oh...wait, that's right...it's because I'm a nice guy.

^^^ this and btw you look awesome for being 100 lol

maqsmj

Girls are always looking for a reason to demean other women.

Careful! The feminazi's will put a burning cross in your front yard if you go much further with that line of dialogue lol.

hahahahahahahaha that made me lol dude

imchicbad

I take alot of naked and sexy pictures and send them to my husband. Im not a slut. I dont roll joints though- but I thought that makes you a pot head-not a slut...

you should becareful who you lable a slut. That "slut" might be you, your husband-sister-daughter-brother-son- father. dont be so quick to judge, cause you never know.