Why are girls constantly creeped on at the gym?
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Yea Im confused why this man felt he could give you random hugs at the gym. He definitely crossed the line. I think he went beyond creepy and was straight up crossing the line. Weirdo0
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put on your ear plugs and zone out.
as much as I go to the gym I have never noticed any guys checking me out or anything but I never give them 2 sec. I know all the trainers and hug them cause we are all friends0 -
OP I'm with you on this one. I was just saying to my friends that I get hit on so much at the gym I didn't realize what a relief it would be to NOT get hit on. I go to the gym looking like I just rolled out of bed. I have tunnel vision. And yet I have had to change my workouts from morning to the afternoon lull. Granted your situation is really crappy because the Manager is here all day. But its funny how easy being polite gets out of control.
Right?? thank you!
Ok..I'm like really confused with this one. Are you talking to yourself or do you just honestly don't know how to hit the quote button.
I got confused by that too!
Okay..lets all the men be jerks now!0 -
Most men are just pervs and the girls that defend them obviously just want male attention because their desperate.
There are so many things wrong with that statement, I don't know where to start.0 -
OMG RIGHT?!I just joined a gym this week. And OMG!!!!! Why do guys act like they're never seen girls before?!?! I mean how hot is it to check a girl out that is making all sorts of **** faces while working out. Hell, I gross myself out. I usually have my eyes to the floor, but in a gym, there's equiptment everywhere & I sure as hell don't want to walk right into it. LOL.
Most men are just pervs and the girls that defend them obviously just want male attention because their desperate. Just leave us women alone! We go to the gym for one reason: TO WORKOUT!
It is SO hard being pretty. Gawd, like no one understands! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL0 -
In the 4 months that I've been attending LA Fitness, 2 men have spoken to me. The year before at another gym, not one man spoke to me. It doesn't happen to everyone. I keep my head phones in, and I work hard the time that I'm there - Allowing him to hug you was your first mistake.0
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Yea Im confused why this man felt he could give you random hugs at the gym. He definitely crossed the line. I think he went beyond creepy and was straight up crossing the line. Weirdo
Yeah he was!0 -
I don't care about age or attractiveness, it always creeps me out no matter what.0
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I think you should reconsider complaining that the guys in the gym are looking at you. As you get older, you'll appreciate it! I love it when the guys watch me lift.. sometimes they're watching because I'm showing them up!
Eh, not me, that ish gets old. I'm 40 and I have had it up to here with male attention. If I could be invisible to every man except my husband that would be delightful.0 -
In the 4 months that I've been attending LA Fitness, 2 men have spoken to me. The year before at another gym, not one man spoke to me. It doesn't happen to everyone. I keep my head phones in, and I work hard the time that I'm there - Allowing him to hug you was your first mistake.
It sure was.0 -
You know I have all kinds of women hug me all the time. I don't really have a point except to say I like hugs!
I'd hug you.
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you need to tell him to back off or youn will report him on a sexural harrisment charge0
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Please don't generalize "most men" with your one week (if even that) experience in the gym. Women who defend men are not desperate for male attention; please don't categorize people in such a way, it makes you look awfully ignorant and isn't productive to any further meaningful discussion.I just joined a gym this week. And OMG!!!!! Why do guys act like they're never seen girls before?!?! I mean how hot is it to check a girl out that is making all sorts of **** faces while working out. Hell, I gross myself out. I usually have my eyes to the floor, but in a gym, there's equiptment everywhere & I sure as hell don't want to walk right into it. LOL.
Most men are just pervs and the girls that defend them obviously just want male attention because their desperate. Just leave us women alone! We go to the gym for one reason: TO WORKOUT!0 -
you need to tell him to back off or youn will report him on a sexural harrisment charge
lol what0 -
She was quoting me.
You are the OP.OP I'm with you on this one. I was just saying to my friends that I get hit on so much at the gym I didn't realize what a relief it would be to NOT get hit on. I go to the gym looking like I just rolled out of bed. I have tunnel vision. And yet I have had to change my workouts from morning to the afternoon lull. Granted your situation is really crappy because the Manager is here all day. But its funny how easy being polite gets out of control.
Right?? thank you!0 -
I honestly do not understand!! First I have to tell a story- the manager of the gym first started saying hi and so I felt it was my obligation to say hi back. Well..then he started I believe "taking advantage" of the situation. I thought that he wasn't creeping on me because he had a wife and daughter...he said "I never get any attention at home" and so when he hugged me I was like okay..but I honestly just did it out of pity. Then he started to come around when I was working out and he always wanted hugs from me. I could not stand his disgusting globs of cologne he put on but I just dealt with it because he is the manager! He then started saying things to my sister and she told me he was creepy and she was getting a weird vibe from him. I then decided it would be best if I ignored him and this is where it gets weird. He tried to give me a high five and I thought he was trying to hug me so I ignored him. When I left I heard him talking to the other employees about me. By the way, NOBODY LIKES HIM! He then proceedes to go up to me when I am working out and ask me what is wrong. WE ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP OLD MAN! I don't EVEN KNOW YOU! He seriously just creeped me out and now I don't know what to do. There are several guys also at the gym that creep on me everytime I go there. I dress modestly and yet when I turn around there you are staring at my butt. I DON'T LIKE YOU! Any other girls feel me? And what should I do about the gym manager? help?
You've brought this on to your self , Learn how to be a woman and set your Boundary . If you feel uncomfortable , Let him know.. If he doesn't get it and keeps harassing you, file a complaint with some one in the upper tier. ,0 -
Please don't generalize "most men" with your one week (if even that) experience in the gym. Women who defend men are not desperate for male attention; please don't categorize people in such a way, it makes you look awfully ignorant and isn't productive to any further meaningful discussion.I just joined a gym this week. And OMG!!!!! Why do guys act like they're never seen girls before?!?! I mean how hot is it to check a girl out that is making all sorts of **** faces while working out. Hell, I gross myself out. I usually have my eyes to the floor, but in a gym, there's equiptment everywhere & I sure as hell don't want to walk right into it. LOL.
Most men are just pervs and the girls that defend them obviously just want male attention because their desperate. Just leave us women alone! We go to the gym for one reason: TO WORKOUT!
First off, I've been at that gym a year now..you're smart.0 -
Lies, girls creep on guys way more, they are just more sly about it.0
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what Lea said -
Most men are just pervs and the girls that defend them obviously just want male attention because their desperate. Just leave us women alone! We go to the gym for one reason: TO WORKOUT!OMG RIGHT?!
It is SO hard being pretty. Gawd, like no one understands! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
and no, I don't need "male attention because I'm desperate".0 -
OP: As someone who works in a retail type position I think it's WILDLY inappropriate that he made a move to hug you. I don't care how much I adore my customers, I NEVER make a move to touch them. I've had customers hug ME (some I hugged back, others I dodged depending on the situation) but I make a point of not touching.
Why? Because it's unprofessional and inappropriate.
Yes, you shouldn't have hugged him. But I understand what it's like in the moment and how hard it is to just say NO. You're young and you're just learning. Let this be a very important lesson.
I do think you should talk to him. Just say; "I don't want to offend you but I'm not comfortable touching or hugging." And if he doesn't stop report him and/or find a new gym.
At this point I don't think it WOULD be fair to turn him in outright without first trying to talk to him. You already LET him cross boundaries so things are all muddied and confusing. Now you need to make boundaries clear with your words since your actions have confused the borderline.0 -
Lies, girls creep on guys way more, they are just more sly about it.
Damn right! I creep men all the time as do my female coworkers but we've got a whole 007 way of doing it. Most of the time the guy never knows he's being creeped. 0 -
Next time he comes near, fart and talk about your other gastrointestinal issues.0
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Most men are just pervs and the girls that defend them obviously just want male attention because their desperate. Just leave us women alone! We go to the gym for one reason: TO WORKOUT!
I find this really insulting to both men and women.
Pointing out hasty generalizations is logic, not desperation.
I'm sorry you are unlucky enough to know a man who hugged you when you weren't able to stand up for yourself, but that doesn't make most men pervs. The problem with women who think that is usually their own poor taste, or the specific men in question.0 -
First off, I've been at that gym a year now..you're smart.I just joined a gym this week.0
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OP: As someone who works in a retail type position I think it's WILDLY inappropriate that he made a move to hug you. I don't care how much I adore my customers, I NEVER make a move to touch them. I've had customers hug ME (some I hugged back, others I dodged depending on the situation) but I make a point of not touching.
Why? Because it's unprofessional and inappropriate.
Yes, you shouldn't have hugged him. But I understand what it's like in the moment and how hard it is to just say NO. You're young and you're just learning. Let this be a very important lesson.
I do think you should talk to him. Just say; "I don't want to offend you but I'm not comfortable touching or hugging." And if he doesn't stop report him and/or find a new gym.
At this point I don't think it WOULD be fair to turn him in outright without first trying to talk to him. You already LET him cross boundaries so things are all muddied and confusing. Now you need to make boundaries clear with your words since your actions have confused the borderline.
That is the best advice I've gotten on this board. Thank you.0 -
Same here. Maybe there is a range, above 19 and under 40 that appreciates attention all the time. There are just times when I want do my thing in peace.I think you should reconsider complaining that the guys in the gym are looking at you. As you get older, you'll appreciate it! I love it when the guys watch me lift.. sometimes they're watching because I'm showing them up!
Eh, not me, that ish gets old. I'm 40 and I have had it up to here with male attention. If I could be invisible to every man except my husband that would be delightful.0 -
HAHAHAHAHA!!!! I know...young, right!!??Is 30 the age you become old and creepy?? @#$%
Next month I'll be officially Old and Creepy. Wooooooooohoooooo! Do I get a bumper sticker and a old creeper card or something?0 -
I just joined a gym this week. And OMG!!!!! Why do guys act like they're never seen girls before?!?! I mean how hot is it to check a girl out that is making all sorts of **** faces while working out. Hell, I gross myself out. I usually have my eyes to the floor, but in a gym, there's equiptment everywhere & I sure as hell don't want to walk right into it. LOL.
Most men are just pervs and the girls that defend them obviously just want male attention because their desperate. Just leave us women alone! We go to the gym for one reason: TO WORKOUT!
You do realize women creep on guys at the gym too. Just pointing it out.
Edited to correct a typo0 -
OP I'm with you on this one. I was just saying to my friends that I get hit on so much at the gym I didn't realize what a relief it would be to NOT get hit on. I go to the gym looking like I just rolled out of bed. I have tunnel vision. And yet I have had to change my workouts from morning to the afternoon lull. Granted your situation is really crappy because the Manager is here all day. But its funny how easy being polite gets out of control.
Right?? thank you!
Ok..I'm like really confused with this one. Are you talking to yourself or do you just honestly don't know how to hit the quote button.
I got confused by that too!
Okay..lets all the men be jerks now!
Wait..I'm being a jerk because you don't know how to hit a quote button?? Seriously?? Ok..I'm beginning to see what the problem is.0 -
find a more respectable gym? Don't hug, talk or do anything "out of pity" then abruptly stop and not get why it could be offensive? I don't know this whole thing made me LOL0
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