Why are girls constantly creeped on at the gym?
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OP I'm with you on this one. I was just saying to my friends that I get hit on so much at the gym I didn't realize what a relief it would be to NOT get hit on. I go to the gym looking like I just rolled out of bed. I have tunnel vision. And yet I have had to change my workouts from morning to the afternoon lull. Granted your situation is really crappy because the Manager is here all day. But its funny how easy being polite gets out of control.
Right?? thank you!
Ok..I'm like really confused with this one. Are you talking to yourself or do you just honestly don't know how to hit the quote button.
I got confused by that too!
Okay..lets all the men be jerks now!
Okay, the quotes messed up on the quote He didn't know what you were trying to say. He wasn't being a jerk. Daaammmmnnnn. Calm down a little..lol.0 -
ok I'm kind of seeing a pattern here so let me try to summarize. English isn't my first language and you literally went on and on so I might have missed something, please let me know if I did
1) He said hi, you said hi (even though you didn't really wanted to. Next time, skip it if the guy looks creeper)
2) He started talking to you, you talked back thinking its the cool thing do (again, something you can skip if you don't like the guy or are getting creeper vibe from him)
3) While you guys are talking, he hugs you. Maybe because he's a horny pervert, maybe because theres problems at home. Only him and god knows I guess (again, next time, tell them to stop or step back when they get into your personal space)
4) he talked to your sister, who I assume is a member at the gym too (I hate it when people talk to their customers. How rude)
5) You decided to just start ignoring him after you have talked to him and even hugged him (NOT a smart move. Seriously, all joking aside, dunno if THIS guy is really a creeper or not but for your safety in future, donot do that in case you find somebody crazy)
I have yet to read anywhere where you told the manager "hey, let me workout please and try not to disturb me and my sister while we are working out" or just plugged an mp3 player.
You're basically willing to report and throw this guy out of a job just because he looks like a creeper? Are you serious? Please, tell him to back off like a normal and mature person. If he doesn't listen, THEN you go and report him. The reason I am telling you this is because in the offchance, god forbid, you DO find yourself a real creeper, your wrong actions can cause troubles in future
Good luck and stay safe0 -
That is the best advice I've gotten on this board. Thank you.
No prob. Don't let the jokers bother you. They're just having a laugh. Best thing you can do is join in. :P0 -
I felt really bad for this lady at my gym getting creeped on one day. There's this older guy that stinks like major BO and you can literally smell him from 20-feet away. He was right up in her face talking to him for at least 15-minutes. I want to die when he's working one or two racks over, let alone in my face.0
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Was he wearing your Dad's cologne? No?? Then he is not a creeper.0
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OP is clearly narcissistic and immature.
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You should seriously report him or go at him and say "Does your wife know you're at work harrasing women?!!". It's hard sometime though because you ladies look so good!!0
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Was he wearing your Dad's cologne? No?? Then he is not a creeper.
And trust me, HE knows creepers..
P.S. He also has candy.0 -
Wait..I'm being a jerk because you don't know how to hit a quote button?? Seriously?? Ok..I'm beginning to see what the problem is.
Yes, actually, you are. Not everyone is 100% forum literate. Some of us learn as we go and make quoting mistakes. The way you handled the quoting mistake wasn't polite or genial, it was just jerky. Because you're a jerk.
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I don't care if guys look at me. They can stare all they want. It's never bothered me. But no guy better even think of touching me without invitation or there will be a massive scene and major awkwardness. I'm good with hello and basic stuff, but if I'm getting the creeper vibes I shut that down fast. I didn't learn how to do that until I was older (it's kind of a body language skill), and I endured many unwanted flirtations, so I know how you feel.
Don't let guys you aren't intimate with hug you - especially if you feel pressured because you think they somehow have a position of authority (gym manager). He has no authority over you and he has no right to touch and/or act overly familiar with you.
If he approaches you again tell him you feel uncomfortable with the attention he's been giving you and then if he gives you any crap or keeps it up, you should report him. Or, if you are more timid (like I was at your age) you can find another gym. Sucks, but it's an option. You don't have to be exposed to this guy's creeping. Good luck! :flowerforyou:0 -
^^Totally agree. And another thing, why are all the women getting up in arms and hating on the dude? Sure it was unprofessional of him to go up and hug her, or was it? My gym manager, and most of the trainers, always walk up to me and shake my hand when I walk in, unless he grabbed her butt when he hugged her, it couldn't have been that bad, ntm she hugged him too. But to report him, seriously? She hasn't done anything to stop it yet, so why go above his head, if she didn't even give him a chance to rectify the situation.I bet if he exhibited the same behavior, but was attractive he wouldn't be a "creep"0 -
First off, I've been at that gym a year now..you're smart.I just joined a gym this week.
I'm not really sure that she know's how to quote. I was the one that posted I just joined the gym. She kinda confused me, I'm like wait, I just posted that. Just wanted to clear things up. 0 -
Wait..I'm being a jerk because you don't know how to hit a quote button?? Seriously?? Ok..I'm beginning to see what the problem is.
Yes, actually, you are. Not everyone is 100% forum literate. Some of us learn as we go and make quoting mistakes. The way you handled the quoting mistake wasn't polite or genial, it was just jerky. Because you're a jerk.
I really don't see how he was being a jerk. He ASKED for clarification. Just because he didn't fill the page with smiley faces didn't mean he was being snarky or mean.
And no, I'm not defending him or any other guy here because I'm desperate. Just wanted to put it out there because I don't like to be "generalized".0 -
Lies, girls creep on guys way more, they are just more sly about it.
Fact. You gentlemen need to learn the ways of the "ninja creep" o_O.0 -
Just keep lifting weights and do intense workouts. Make those guys look like *kitten* compared to you. When the managaer creeps on you, ask him, "Do you even lift?"0
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Wait..I'm being a jerk because you don't know how to hit a quote button?? Seriously?? Ok..I'm beginning to see what the problem is.
Yes, actually, you are. Not everyone is 100% forum literate. Some of us learn as we go and make quoting mistakes. The way you handled the quoting mistake wasn't polite or genial, it was just jerky. Because you're a jerk.
I really don't see how he was being a jerk. He ASKED for clarification. Just because he didn't fill the page with smiley faces didn't mean he was being snarky or mean.
And no, I'm not defending him or any other guy here because I'm desperate. Just wanted to put it out there because I don't like to be "generalized".
That's the thing about the internet, you gotta be careful how you word things. Honestly when I first read his comment all I saw was a jerk poking fun at some kid who can't use quotes properly.0 -
This is harrassment. Report him. He has no right to treat you that way.
Any time I've ever been harrassed or mistreated in a gym situation I always reported it.
If the gym does not fire this guy, immediately, demand your money back.
No gym is going to fire anyone immediately unless they have proof of misconduct. To accuse someone of harrassment is a big deal- they will have to investigate it.
Not in a big gym, or a corporate run chain of gyms. There will be an investagation, and even then a possible write up. I'd report it, the guy will get the message, but getting someone fired is not as easy as it sounds. Also, I wouldn't be willing to quit a gym I am happy with just because of one person- and you go to another gym- its could easily happen again0 -
Yeah I figured that out shortly after posting, it's been confusing a lot of posters in this thread. Thank you for the extra clarification though!I'm not really sure that she know's how to quote. I was the one that posted I just joined the gym. She kinda confused me, I'm like wait, I just posted that. Just wanted to clear things up.
It's certainly ironic that someone would take a jab at someone else's intelligence when they themselves don't know how to quote others properly...0 -
Most men are just pervs and the girls that defend them obviously just want male attention because their desperate. Just leave us women alone! We go to the gym for one reason: TO WORKOUT!
I find this really insulting to both men and women. Pointing out hasty generalizations is logic, not desperation.
There was a thread this morning where the OP got tarred and feathered for saying something that sounded like she was only condoning one type of body. Everyone got butthurt because she was generalizing. This comment of yours should be getting more attention, because it shows that you are starting out ASSUMING that men are going to be pervs. The manager was wrong, but your perspective isn't helping.0 -
Most men are just pervs and the girls that defend them obviously just want male attention because their desperate. Just leave us women alone! We go to the gym for one reason: TO WORKOUT!
Woah ok some perspective needed here. Not defending the male race but I think your age is showing here. MOST men are not pervs, a lot are but not most. This guy obviously has issues but you didn't help yourself by hugging some random stranger. Just saying...0 -
Cuz we're Hawt!!! Seriously, just leave those headphones on & don't make eye contact!!0
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You're young and cute. Guys like that. Being older and plain would solve that problem for you in a heartbeat.
If a guy is being creepy level attentive you have the right to tell him so, in no uncertain terms. Do so.0 -
OP I'm with you on this one. I was just saying to my friends that I get hit on so much at the gym I didn't realize what a relief it would be to NOT get hit on. I go to the gym looking like I just rolled out of bed. I have tunnel vision. And yet I have had to change my workouts from morning to the afternoon lull. Granted your situation is really crappy because the Manager is here all day. But its funny how easy being polite gets out of control.
Right?? thank you!
Ok..I'm like really confused with this one. Are you talking to yourself or do you just honestly don't know how to hit the quote button.
I got confused by that too!
Okay..lets all the men be jerks now!
I wasnt trying to be a jerk. It honestly confused me.0 -
i just read this whole thread and this is what made sense to me. hahaha she thinks she's the **** :laugh:OP is clearly narcissistic and immature.
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Acting like i go to the gym to see girls
***** please.
and girls creep on big time too so don't be sexist, everyone creeps.0 -
Guys are idiots. I'm one so I know. Some of us just can seem to help but get a little stupid on others...
What's wrong? I am not your next meal and the cologne isn't doing you any favors either.0 -
Lies, girls creep on guys way more, they are just more sly about it.
Fact. You gentlemen need to learn the ways of the "ninja creep" o_O.
Ahh so. The secret ways of the ninja creep. Please teach us oh dragon warrior.
Oh wait, never mind. I'm an old married dude with daughters. All I'm working on these days is teaching defense. That, and working on my bat swing . . .0 -
Wait..I'm being a jerk because you don't know how to hit a quote button?? Seriously?? Ok..I'm beginning to see what the problem is.
Yes, actually, you are. Not everyone is 100% forum literate. Some of us learn as we go and make quoting mistakes. The way you handled the quoting mistake wasn't polite or genial, it was just jerky. Because you're a jerk.
I know you are but what am I?0 -
I think I will join a gym just to get hit on... Since I'm pushing 40 and all :huh:0
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Just for the record, I still have not read anywhere that she made any attempt to discourage him outside of ignoring him AFTER they've been talking and have even hugged, which would obviously make any PERSON (guy or girl) wonder whats going on.0
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Just for the record, I still have not read anywhere that she made any attempt to discourage him outside of ignoring him AFTER they've been talking and have even hugged, which would obviously make any PERSON (guy or girl) wonder whats going on.
yes! And I am wondering why we're still talking about it! lol0
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