Christmas, porn & a nasty virus

sunsnstatheart

Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

That's no fun.

You. Now I like you.

NormalSaneFLGuy

Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

That's no fun.

You. Now I like you.

But you don't like me?
Sexist!

AntWrig

For some porn is okay, others find it demeaning to men AND women. I'm one of those who thinks porn is demeaning.

I would never watch porn with my husband. As your husband is a pastor this is doubly bad on his part.

You need to talk to him and perhaps some counseling is in order?

Demeaning to whom? To the people making tons of money and do this of their own free will, or to the couples who find it an alternative to taking drugs?

Exactly or swinging with other couples. Or kidnapping and ....

You see where I am going with this?

NotRailMeat

Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

That's no fun.

Great!!! Now I have Depeche Mode's "Master & Servant" stuck in my head.

sm1zzle

Not to be presumptuous.... But Is the reason for his porn watching due to lack of sex on your part ?

If not you need to sit him down and have a real world conversation with him and find out what the root cause is. The fact that he is the Pastor of a church means nothing. Just because someone is into the church thing does not mean they are not still human.

sunsnstatheart

Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

That's no fun.

You. Now I like you.

But you don't like me?
Sexist!

Sorry but those little duck feet creep me out. Maybe with a wig and some lipstick. . .

mwcarew

On a practical note, you'll probably want to restart that computer in safe mode and run a good malware removal program - something like http://www.malwarebytes.org/

NormalSaneFLGuy

Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

That's no fun.

You. Now I like you.

But you don't like me?
Sexist!

Sorry but those little duck feet creep me out. Maybe with a wig and some lipstick. . .

do you love me now?

AntWrig

Not to be presumptuous.... But Is the reason for his porn watching due to lack of sex on your part ?

If not you need to sit him down and have a real world conversation with him and find out what the root cause is. The fact that he is the Pastor of a church means nothing. Just because someone is into the church thing does not mean they are not still human.

Was thinking the same thing.

sm1zzle

Pray for him and still love him. Ask Good to remove his desire to view the porn. You may have to fast, also. Good luck, I am praying for you!

She can pray all she wants.... it's not going to help one bit.

sunsnstatheart

Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

That's no fun.

You. Now I like you.

But you don't like me?
Sexist!

Sorry but those little duck feet creep me out. Maybe with a wig and some lipstick. . .

do you love me now?

Yes. Yes I do.

BeachGingerOnTheRocks

Leave it alone, NO GODS, NO MASTERS

That's no fun.

Great!!! Now I have Depeche Mode's "Master & Servant" stuck in my head.

Glad to be of service.

andreanicole686

Watch the porn with him. Then at least, you're together, and maybe you'll learn something new. :flowerforyou:

^^ This.. It only becomes as big of an issue as you both allow it to become.

Seriously? There is a difference between a guy randomly looking at porn and waking up at 4a.m. on Christmas to look at porn. Are you ****ing kidding me? That's NOT normal. You all are making it seem like it's no big deal and some how HER fault and she should just join in. He's the one with the issue. There is a difference between someone who looks at porn occasionally and someone who is addicted to porn.

MrsBikiniBound

Alright- I'm going to be very careful with what I say here because obviously faith is something that it is important to you and your family.

This is all about a matter of preference. I would first look at him as your husband first, your pastor second. No one is perfect. If you have established that porn is unacceptable because you, as his wife, feel it is disrespectful to you. And your marriage, then this is what you need to focus on. If you are open to allowing it to be something that you can use to bring you closer (watching it together) then I would suggest this. If you are not and this is a black and white issue for you then tell him so.

I believe that this is something personal within your marriage- just because he is a pastor doesn't mean that his personal life has to be disseminated by his church. This is something that you should work through together. Humiliating him is not the answer- being honest with your feelings and where you stand and coming to an agreement within your personal relationship is. Regardless of what it is- your husband should never hide things from you- this is certainly something that is at the heart of this issue.

Full disclosure, I know my husband watches porn from time to time, so do I- and we watch it together from time to time. Personally- this works for us. Lying doesn't work for us- that is what would piss me off...

SunshineandRoses66

This has got to be a send up!:noway:

andreanicole686

honestly ( i hope i wont get attacked )

you guy needs to get laid more

Your an idiot. Way to blame it on her instead of thinking maybe he's the one with the problem. I dated a guy who had a porn addiction and it didn't matter how many times we had sex he still felt the need to look at porn ALL the time. It's an addiction.

sm1zzle

honestly ( i hope i wont get attacked )

you guy needs to get laid more

Your an idiot. Way to blame it on her instead of thinking maybe he's the one with the problem. I dated a guy who had a porn addiction and it didn't matter how many times we had sex he still felt the need to look at porn ALL the time. It's an addiction.

Only an idiot would condem someone for simply stating their opinion.

Grow up.

NormalSaneFLGuy

honestly ( i hope i wont get attacked )

you guy needs to get laid more

Your an idiot. Way to blame it on her instead of thinking maybe he's the one with the problem. I dated a guy who had a porn addiction and it didn't matter how many times we had sex he still felt the need to look at porn ALL the time. It's an addiction.

Only an idiot would condem someone for simply stating their opinion.

Grow up.

Isn't that what you just did?

SNAP!

EatClean_WashUrNuts

I'm here for the porn.
Where do I upload....








wait, what?

NeverGivesUp

I wonder why it is that the most religious people that get into trouble like this?. I don't watch porn and I am not in the slightest bit religious. What does this have to do with fitness anyway??? Oh right, calorie burn and sex. Wait, do you burn calories watching porn?

Christabelle79

Wait, do you burn calories watching porn?

If you do it right! :embarassed:

sm1zzle

honestly ( i hope i wont get attacked )

you guy needs to get laid more

Your an idiot. Way to blame it on her instead of thinking maybe he's the one with the problem. I dated a guy who had a porn addiction and it didn't matter how many times we had sex he still felt the need to look at porn ALL the time. It's an addiction.

Only an idiot would condem someone for simply stating their opinion.

Grow up.

Isn't that what you just did?

SNAP!

With all of the snapping you missed out on the underlying sarcasm created by the use of the word Idiot.

tsk, tsk.

WendyTerry420

For some porn is okay, others find it demeaning to men AND women. I'm one of those who thinks porn is demeaning.

I would never watch porn with my husband. As your husband is a pastor this is doubly bad on his part.

You need to talk to him and perhaps some counseling is in order?

Demeaning to whom? To the people making tons of money and do this of their own free will, or to the couples who find it an alternative to taking drugs?

Exactly or swinging with other couples. Or kidnapping and ....

You see where I am going with this?

Well now, kidnapping implies that someone initiated force. If it's not of your own free will, then that's a WHOLE other topic indeed.

quirkytizzy

Pray for him and still love him. Ask Good to remove his desire to view the porn. You may have to fast, also. Good luck, I am praying for you!

Say what???? What's that got to do with anything?

WendyTerry420

Watch the porn with him. Then at least, you're together, and maybe you'll learn something new. :flowerforyou:

^^ This.. It only becomes as big of an issue as you both allow it to become.

Seriously? There is a difference between a guy randomly looking at porn and waking up at 4a.m. on Christmas to look at porn. Are you ****ing kidding me? That's NOT normal. You all are making it seem like it's no big deal and some how HER fault and she should just join in. He's the one with the issue. There is a difference between someone who looks at porn occasionally and someone who is addicted to porn.

I guess it's a good thing that I'm not normal. Normal sounds VERY boring the way you just put it. :ohwell:

(And FTR, I never said it was OP's fault. And OP never said he was addicted to it. In fact, it sounds like she condoned it until he woke her up at 4am to tell her about the virus. It sounds like the virus is the real problem. And someone already pointed out to boot up in safe mode and run a good malware program.)

sm1zzle

Pray for him and still love him. Ask Good to remove his desire to view the porn. You may have to fast, also. Good luck, I am praying for you!

Say what???? What's that got to do with anything?

Eggzactly.

I'm guessing it may be a Catholic thing though ?

corn63

Watch the porn with him. Then at least, you're together, and maybe you'll learn something new. :flowerforyou:

^^ This.. It only becomes as big of an issue as you both allow it to become.

Seriously? There is a difference between a guy randomly looking at porn and waking up at 4a.m. on Christmas to look at porn. Are you ****ing kidding me? That's NOT normal. You all are making it seem like it's no big deal and some how HER fault and she should just join in. He's the one with the issue. There is a difference between someone who looks at porn occasionally and someone who is addicted to porn.

I guess it's a good thing that I'm not normal. Normal sounds VERY boring the way you just put it. :ohwell:

(And FTR, I never said it was OP's fault. And OP never said he was addicted to it. In fact, it sounds like she condoned it until he woke her up at 4am to tell her about the virus. It sounds like the virus is the real problem. And someone already pointed out to boot up in safe mode and run a good malware program.)

She already stated that she's upset that they had the agreement that he'd come to her if he wanted to watch -- he didn't. And he snuck out of bed at 4am to look at it. He probably never would've told her about it had he never got a virus on the computer.

WendyTerry420

Watch the porn with him. Then at least, you're together, and maybe you'll learn something new. :flowerforyou:

^^ This.. It only becomes as big of an issue as you both allow it to become.

Seriously? There is a difference between a guy randomly looking at porn and waking up at 4a.m. on Christmas to look at porn. Are you ****ing kidding me? That's NOT normal. You all are making it seem like it's no big deal and some how HER fault and she should just join in. He's the one with the issue. There is a difference between someone who looks at porn occasionally and someone who is addicted to porn.

I guess it's a good thing that I'm not normal. Normal sounds VERY boring the way you just put it. :ohwell:

(And FTR, I never said it was OP's fault. And OP never said he was addicted to it. In fact, it sounds like she condoned it until he woke her up at 4am to tell her about the virus. It sounds like the virus is the real problem. And someone already pointed out to boot up in safe mode and run a good malware program.)

She already stated that she's upset that they had the agreement that he'd come to her if he wanted to watch -- he didn't. And he snuck out of bed at 4am to look at it. He probably never would've told her about it had he never got a virus on the computer.

Right. So it sounds like this was an out of the ordinary thing, not an addiction, per se.

But honestly, who hasn't found themselves feeling a little randy at 4am, just out of nowhere, amirite?

WendyTerry420

Pray for him and still love him. Ask Good to remove his desire to view the porn. You may have to fast, also. Good luck, I am praying for you!

Say what???? What's that got to do with anything?

Eggzactly.

I'm guessing it may be a Catholic thing though ?

I'm still wondering who "Good" is. *shrugs*

sm1zzle

Watch the porn with him. Then at least, you're together, and maybe you'll learn something new. :flowerforyou:

^^ This.. It only becomes as big of an issue as you both allow it to become.

Seriously? There is a difference between a guy randomly looking at porn and waking up at 4a.m. on Christmas to look at porn. Are you ****ing kidding me? That's NOT normal. You all are making it seem like it's no big deal and some how HER fault and she should just join in. He's the one with the issue. There is a difference between someone who looks at porn occasionally and someone who is addicted to porn.

I guess it's a good thing that I'm not normal. Normal sounds VERY boring the way you just put it. :ohwell:

(And FTR, I never said it was OP's fault. And OP never said he was addicted to it. In fact, it sounds like she condoned it until he woke her up at 4am to tell her about the virus. It sounds like the virus is the real problem. And someone already pointed out to boot up in safe mode and run a good malware program.)

She already stated that she's upset that they had the agreement that he'd come to her if he wanted to watch -- he didn't. And he snuck out of bed at 4am to look at it. He probably never would've told her about it had he never got a virus on the computer.

Right. So it sounds like this was an out of the ordinary thing, not an addiction, per se.

But honestly, who hasn't found themselves feeling a little randy at 4am, just out of nowhere, amirite?

As if there's some kind of time that is considered Porn Free. Silly prudes