When do you let your FWB go?
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When the fwb started getting feelings. Gets weird. It's a lose lose situation. This was a genuine "friends" situation, he was my best friend........now I think he maybe hates me.
That's the beauty of our relationship. We weren't like bff's or anything before we started sleeping together. I know him because he is my best friend's husband's brother. We would see each other at all of the events that their family would have and started sleeping together out of a mutual magnetic sexual attraction.
If he developed feelings and I wasn't seeing anyone, I wouldn't mind exploring more of a relationship. If he develops feelings and I am seeing someone, then no harm no foul because we were never bffs or anything.
If he never develops feelings for me, then we can just keep doing what we're doing when neither of us is in a relationship.
So what if you told FWB about new guy...... & FWB said "NOOOOOOO I couldn't stand to not see you/touch you anymore..... be with me!!!!" ........ then what?
I have a lil feeling you secretly really wanna be with your FWB but don't think he wants to be with you. Obviously if he doesn't want to be serious with you you're gonna try to find somebody who does. When possible serious guy comes along you don't wanna lose what you have with FWB but at the same time can't just have a play-pal relationship that isn't going anywhere & not look for anybody else. I think.... "perfect situation" would to be mutually in love with your FWB? Am i right? I know it's really hard to admit to yourself!
Nope. That isn't the case at all but thanks for playing.0 -
Just me, but if we went on two dates and there was a connection and I then found out you slept with someone else I would have trust issues with you
this. you said yourself there was a connection between you two. if I found out you were sleeping with someone even "only" 2 dates in, I'd drop you in a second. give the guy a fair chance. your priorities are all kinds of f*cked up, only thinking about getting laid when you have something budding with someone else.
Kind of judgemental don't you think? I am trying to take the high road because I might have feelings for this guy but I have been on a lot of dates with guys that I thought I had a connection with when they were just looking to hit it and quit it. They like to play the game long enough to make me establish an emotional connection and get me to sleep with them and then they're done. At least I know where I stand with my FWB. So, I hesitate to blow him off for a relationship that might not work out.
You're right. I see no need for you to drop something in your life over two dates. When you feel YOURSELF getting serious, then you'll know when to let go.0 -
How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? I know if I found out that someone I had an interest in and was attempting to date, even casually, had a piece of *kitten* on the side it would have been over. I would not be able to trust them. I know it's early, but I think that there is a level of respect that just goes unsaid in such situations. If you think it can go somewhere, keep opp away. If it doesn't work out with this new guy, I'm sure your other guy will still be around, or you can find yourself a new fwb.0
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Just me, but if we went on two dates and there was a connection and I then found out you slept with someone else I would have trust issues with you
this. you said yourself there was a connection between you two. if I found out you were sleeping with someone even "only" 2 dates in, I'd drop you in a second. give the guy a fair chance. your priorities are all kinds of f*cked up, only thinking about getting laid when you have something budding with someone else.
Kind of judgemental don't you think? I am trying to take the high road because I might have feelings for this guy but I have been on a lot of dates with guys that I thought I had a connection with when they were just looking to hit it and quit it. They like to play the game long enough to make me establish an emotional connection and get me to sleep with them and then they're done. At least I know where I stand with my FWB. So, I hesitate to blow him off for a relationship that might not work out.
You're right. I see no need for you to drop something in your life over two dates. When you feel YOURSELF getting serious, then you'll know when to let go.
All these people saying "break it off with the FWB once you start getting intimate with the new guy" are *kitten* backwards in their way of thinking. Why must your legs always be open for somebody? Can you not just STOP having sex with the FWB long enough to see if the new guy is worth pursuing a relationship with?0 -
All these people saying "break it off with the FWB once you start getting intimate with the new guy" are *kitten* backwards in their way of thinking. Why must your legs always be open for somebody? Can you not just STOP having sex with the FWB long enough to see if the new guy is worth pursuing a relationship with?
AMEN!0 -
All these people saying "break it off with the FWB once you start getting intimate with the new guy" are *kitten* backwards in their way of thinking. Why must your legs always be open for somebody? Can you not just STOP having sex with the FWB long enough to see if the new guy is worth pursuing a relationship with?
AMEN!
I agree.
Would you care if you found out down the line that your now current boyfriend was giving some other girl a ****ens up until the night before you have the "chat"? My bet is that you would...0 -
Just me, but if we went on two dates and there was a connection and I then found out you slept with someone else I would have trust issues with you
this. you said yourself there was a connection between you two. if I found out you were sleeping with someone even "only" 2 dates in, I'd drop you in a second. give the guy a fair chance. your priorities are all kinds of f*cked up, only thinking about getting laid when you have something budding with someone else.
Kind of judgemental don't you think? I am trying to take the high road because I might have feelings for this guy but I have been on a lot of dates with guys that I thought I had a connection with when they were just looking to hit it and quit it. They like to play the game long enough to make me establish an emotional connection and get me to sleep with them and then they're done. At least I know where I stand with my FWB. So, I hesitate to blow him off for a relationship that might not work out.
You're right. I see no need for you to drop something in your life over two dates. When you feel YOURSELF getting serious, then you'll know when to let go.
All these people saying "break it off with the FWB once you start getting intimate with the new guy" are *kitten* backwards in their way of thinking. Why must your legs always be open for somebody? Can you not just STOP having sex with the FWB long enough to see if the new guy is worth pursuing a relationship with?
Once again, very judgemental. You have absolutely no idea how often "my legs are open" for somebody. Try reading my posts and not just the advice that others have given me and you would know that I don't think it is a good idea for me to sleep with my FWB tonight and that I plan on letting him know that things are on hold indefinitely. You must be very bitter about something to take out frustrations like that on a complete stranger. I hope whatever girl broke your sweet little heart, you learn to live happily again.0 -
Suspend the FWB for now. You can always reevaluate things with him if the new guy doesn't work out. I think confusing the issue will make it difficult to decide what you really want. Messy.0
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Just me, but if we went on two dates and there was a connection and I then found out you slept with someone else I would have trust issues with you
this. you said yourself there was a connection between you two. if I found out you were sleeping with someone even "only" 2 dates in, I'd drop you in a second. give the guy a fair chance. your priorities are all kinds of f*cked up, only thinking about getting laid when you have something budding with someone else.
Kind of judgemental don't you think? I am trying to take the high road because I might have feelings for this guy but I have been on a lot of dates with guys that I thought I had a connection with when they were just looking to hit it and quit it. They like to play the game long enough to make me establish an emotional connection and get me to sleep with them and then they're done. At least I know where I stand with my FWB. So, I hesitate to blow him off for a relationship that might not work out.
You're right. I see no need for you to drop something in your life over two dates. When you feel YOURSELF getting serious, then you'll know when to let go.
All these people saying "break it off with the FWB once you start getting intimate with the new guy" are *kitten* backwards in their way of thinking. Why must your legs always be open for somebody? Can you not just STOP having sex with the FWB long enough to see if the new guy is worth pursuing a relationship with?
Once again, very judgemental. You have absolutely no idea how often "my legs are open" for somebody. Try reading my posts and not just the advice that others have given me and you would know that I don't think it is a good idea for me to sleep with my FWB tonight and that I plan on letting him know that things are on hold indefinitely. You must be very bitter about something to take out frustrations like that on a complete stranger. I hope whatever girl broke your sweet little heart, you learn to live happily again.
Ummm you came to a public message board seeking advice about what do to with your vagina. Stop being *****y towards the people who gave you good solid advice.0 -
Before they want to cuddle0
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Before they want to cuddle
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Before they want to cuddle
so THATS where you went.:sad:0 -
Just me, but if we went on two dates and there was a connection and I then found out you slept with someone else I would have trust issues with you
this. you said yourself there was a connection between you two. if I found out you were sleeping with someone even "only" 2 dates in, I'd drop you in a second. give the guy a fair chance. your priorities are all kinds of f*cked up, only thinking about getting laid when you have something budding with someone else.
Kind of judgemental don't you think? I am trying to take the high road because I might have feelings for this guy but I have been on a lot of dates with guys that I thought I had a connection with when they were just looking to hit it and quit it. They like to play the game long enough to make me establish an emotional connection and get me to sleep with them and then they're done. At least I know where I stand with my FWB. So, I hesitate to blow him off for a relationship that might not work out.
You're right. I see no need for you to drop something in your life over two dates. When you feel YOURSELF getting serious, then you'll know when to let go.
All these people saying "break it off with the FWB once you start getting intimate with the new guy" are *kitten* backwards in their way of thinking. Why must your legs always be open for somebody? Can you not just STOP having sex with the FWB long enough to see if the new guy is worth pursuing a relationship with?
Once again, very judgemental. You have absolutely no idea how often "my legs are open" for somebody. Try reading my posts and not just the advice that others have given me and you would know that I don't think it is a good idea for me to sleep with my FWB tonight and that I plan on letting him know that things are on hold indefinitely. You must be very bitter about something to take out frustrations like that on a complete stranger. I hope whatever girl broke your sweet little heart, you learn to live happily again.
Ummm you came to a public message board seeking advice about what do to with your vagina. Stop being *****y towards the people who gave you good solid advice.
Awe. Bless your little heart.0 -
Hey I'm not the one putting my business out there for others, then getting mad when I get advice I didn't want to hear. If you wanted someone to just shake their head and agree with you, then you definitely came to the wrong place! There is no misunderstanding you... people just simply don't agree with you. It's not being judgemental when you asked for advice!Just me, but if we went on two dates and there was a connection and I then found out you slept with someone else I would have trust issues with you
this. you said yourself there was a connection between you two. if I found out you were sleeping with someone even "only" 2 dates in, I'd drop you in a second. give the guy a fair chance. your priorities are all kinds of f*cked up, only thinking about getting laid when you have something budding with someone else.
Kind of judgemental don't you think? I am trying to take the high road because I might have feelings for this guy but I have been on a lot of dates with guys that I thought I had a connection with when they were just looking to hit it and quit it. They like to play the game long enough to make me establish an emotional connection and get me to sleep with them and then they're done. At least I know where I stand with my FWB. So, I hesitate to blow him off for a relationship that might not work out.
You're right. I see no need for you to drop something in your life over two dates. When you feel YOURSELF getting serious, then you'll know when to let go.
All these people saying "break it off with the FWB once you start getting intimate with the new guy" are *kitten* backwards in their way of thinking. Why must your legs always be open for somebody? Can you not just STOP having sex with the FWB long enough to see if the new guy is worth pursuing a relationship with?
Once again, very judgemental. You have absolutely no idea how often "my legs are open" for somebody. Try reading my posts and not just the advice that others have given me and you would know that I don't think it is a good idea for me to sleep with my FWB tonight and that I plan on letting him know that things are on hold indefinitely. You must be very bitter about something to take out frustrations like that on a complete stranger. I hope whatever girl broke your sweet little heart, you learn to live happily again.
Ummm you came to a public message board seeking advice about what do to with your vagina. Stop being *****y towards the people who gave you good solid advice.
Awe. Bless your little heart.0 -
Two dates doesn't count as a relationship to me. Have you slept with the guy you are interested in?0
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Hey I'm not the one putting my business out there for others, then getting mad when I get advice I didn't want to hear. If you wanted someone to just shake their head and agree with you, then you definitely came to the wrong place! There is no misunderstanding you... people just simply don't agree with you. It's not being judgemental when you asked for advice!Just me, but if we went on two dates and there was a connection and I then found out you slept with someone else I would have trust issues with you
this. you said yourself there was a connection between you two. if I found out you were sleeping with someone even "only" 2 dates in, I'd drop you in a second. give the guy a fair chance. your priorities are all kinds of f*cked up, only thinking about getting laid when you have something budding with someone else.
Kind of judgemental don't you think? I am trying to take the high road because I might have feelings for this guy but I have been on a lot of dates with guys that I thought I had a connection with when they were just looking to hit it and quit it. They like to play the game long enough to make me establish an emotional connection and get me to sleep with them and then they're done. At least I know where I stand with my FWB. So, I hesitate to blow him off for a relationship that might not work out.
You're right. I see no need for you to drop something in your life over two dates. When you feel YOURSELF getting serious, then you'll know when to let go.
All these people saying "break it off with the FWB once you start getting intimate with the new guy" are *kitten* backwards in their way of thinking. Why must your legs always be open for somebody? Can you not just STOP having sex with the FWB long enough to see if the new guy is worth pursuing a relationship with?
Once again, very judgemental. You have absolutely no idea how often "my legs are open" for somebody. Try reading my posts and not just the advice that others have given me and you would know that I don't think it is a good idea for me to sleep with my FWB tonight and that I plan on letting him know that things are on hold indefinitely. You must be very bitter about something to take out frustrations like that on a complete stranger. I hope whatever girl broke your sweet little heart, you learn to live happily again.
Ummm you came to a public message board seeking advice about what do to with your vagina. Stop being *****y towards the people who gave you good solid advice.
Awe. Bless your little heart.
Who's mad? You seem like you have a lot of anger issues you may need to work on. I'm sorry that the life of a complete stranger can get your panties in such a bunch. I wish you a lot of luck with that.0 -
I don't wear any so no bunching. Thanks anyway for trying to insult me.0
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I don't wear any so no bunching. Thanks anyway for trying to insult me.
Awe, figurative panties sweetie, but thanks for showing up.0 -
How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? I know if I found out that someone I had an interest in and was attempting to date, even casually, had a piece of *kitten* on the side it would have been over. I would not be able to trust them. I know it's early, but I think that there is a level of respect that just goes unsaid in such situations. If you think it can go somewhere, keep opp away. If it doesn't work out with this new guy, I'm sure your other guy will still be around, or you can find yourself a new fwb.
When I am in the OP's situation, it's a Don't Ask, Don't Tell situation. I've felt a connection with people after a couple dates, but until I am sure (and they are too, and it's explicitly discussed), there is no way in heck I am giving up on my really-good-in-bed FWB. And even if those two dates turn into a relationship down the line, I would never tell that person I was still sleeping with someone on our first X-amount of dates. Why would it matter at that point? Everything before you're in a relationship with someone is the past, and there was no obligation or discussion about monogamy. Most people, once they are sexually active with someone new, will drop the other person... but it doesn't sound like OP is even touching the Sex subject with the new guy, and until she does, (if I was her) I'd just let things live as is.0 -
I just told my FWB that I would bring his hat to his brother next time I'm in town. I just want to give myself the opportunity to see where it goes with the new guy.0
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