Do you get a lot more attention after weight loss?

mitch356356

No from me. In fact, probably less.

jbutterflye

No from me. In fact, probably less.

Do you mean you don't give more attention to someone else after they lose weight?

mitch356356

Sorry, no i get less attention now. Not sure why, but that's how it's panned out.

Jennisin1

Yes... a lot

witchy_wife

I've lost around 40lbs and I do get a bit more attention but honestly I don't like it. I'm not used to it and it makes me feel awkward. Guess I have pretty low self esteem. If I guy checks me out in the street, I automatically think the worst and feel they are thinking "wow look at the size of her butt" and nothing nice.

So I'm not really looking forward to getting more attention (about 40 more lbs to target). I have lots of male friends and love them to bits, and happily married so I don't want guys checking me out. I guess I don't have any choice in it lol, but it does make me feel very self conscious.

MbiggsHFD319

Most definitely yes! Even the guys that I am still friends with from High School 20+ years ago are paying attention to me now. Not bragging but I get looks in traffic, hit on by much younger guys and seems everywhere I go a guy strikes up a conversation with me. I'm not really sure if it is the weight loss so much but rather the confidence I have gained from being more healthy. I love the attention tho. My ego feeds on it. Lol

calisunrise

no, i don't. it's exactly the same as it used to be. but more girls are nice to me now than they were before i just get more 'friendly' attention

Juliejustsaying

ah, yeah, I get a lot of attention...but I also know how to be invisible if I want. Problem is I like the attention and I don't want to be invisible...bwahahahahhahah...ooops my bad.

Marg3030

I read your post and relate to the point that being fat or thin doesn't change the person underneath. My husband has been constant through my shape changes - thin (rarely), fat (usually), pregnant x 2. He has never been critical of my shape, but has noticed whether I am happy, sad or angry. I've noticed that as I get older, I feel more invisible.

K_Serz

I'd like to hear from people who experience a noticeable increase in sexual/romantic attention from others after losing weight? How do you experience and/or handle this?

I ask too because sometimes people gain weight as a form of hiding from attention or feeling uncomfortable with it.

Not so much romantic attention. But every time I lose a significant amount of weight (yeah, this isnt the first time :ohwell: ) people in public definitely treat me in a more positive way. People are nicer to me and smile more when I weigh less then when im all frumpy and chubby looking.

placeboaddiction

I get more attention from random people. I'm in a band. Girls always were attracted to that even when i was almost 70 lbs bigger. So at shows i always get attention. When I'm a normal human being, thats where I see people doing double checks. Not trying to be arrogant or anything. It just is what I am right now.

deja_blu

yep.. I got hit on when I was heavier too, but it was mostly men that were much older than me. Nowadays its nice to be considered attractive by someone closer in age to me But the older men still love me, for whatever reason haha

^^^^ I know this all too well......

My biggest thing was I now find myself attractive...... to me. A super boost in my confidence because I feel good on the inside AND out!

jfrankic

Definitely. And i dont mean this to come out in a bragging way but yes, the guys seem very attracted now. Im very very happily married so i ignore them but yes, its definitely increased a lot. And my husband (who has always been attracted to me, no matter what weight) is also paying me a lot of (sexual) attention.

This is exactly my experience as well. I know it has to do with more to do with confidence than looks, but definitely more attention. Must be my swagger. :laugh:

lewcompton

Was married to my ex had just had a son, now 13, born prematurely and I had dropped over one hundred pounds... was in good shape and had a lesbian couple ask me to join them, no strings attached... I declined and promptly put back on the weight over the next two years only to find that she had begun cheating... I am now remarried to a wonderful woman and doing this to live... I also want to backpack with my new little son... Hayden is 3 and will be 4 in June.

bjs06

I get more attention but I think it doesn't necessarily have to do with the weight loss as much as it has to do with the confidence. We become more approachable when we are more confident and happy with ourselves. Looking better definitely helps.

bcattoes

Honestly I didn't notice much more attention from men in general, though my husband says there has been a lot. I do tend to be pretty stupid about things like that (men flirting with me), but I really think it's just my husband being a guy.

But the biggest thing I have noticed is the extra attention from my husband once I started doing squats. I can't even walk past him in the house without him touching my bum!

2Blackbirds

I do, too, and not all of it is wanted. Catcalls, weird people at work hitting on me....sometimes I get frustrated and think, "Maybe I'll just gain it all back so I don't have to deal with this anymore," but then I check myself. I lost weight for the health benefits and don't want to put myself back at risk for diabetes, cancer, etc.

KANGOOJUMPS

HELL YEAH!, cannot keep the guys off me.

cuinboston2014

I have lost about 100 lbs so far and have seen a HUGE increase in the amount of attention I get - both romantically from men when I'm out and strangers at the store. I've also changed how I accept compliments, etc. I used to kind of roll my eyes, and then when I started getting more and more compliments I didn't know what to say. Now I have learned to accept and appreciate how other people see me, even if I don't see myself that way.

When I was obese, people kind of looked "through" me. The more weight I started to lose, the more people went out of their way - even just things like holding doors, smiling, or being more courteous. It's extremely disappointing that society is that way, but it's true.

I was always obese growing up sot he new attention seems weird. I handle it like a teenager would sometimes which doesn't amuse my boyfriend too much but I usually love the attention.

Carolyn_79

I get a lot more attention but I was discussing this with a male friend and he pointed out that it may not necessarily be the weight loss. He said I'm a lot more confident now and almost glow which is appealing to others.

sweetpea129

Definitely. And i dont mean this to come out in a bragging way but yes, the guys seem very attracted now. Im very very happily married so i ignore them but yes, its definitely increased a lot. And my husband (who has always been attracted to me, no matter what weight) is also paying me a lot of (sexual) attention.

This is exactly my experience as well. I know it has to do with more to do with confidence than looks, but definitely more attention. Must be my swagger. :laugh:

LOL! We got the swag!

trophywife24

Um....... yes. lol. A lot more... like tons more. Piles of it. Mountains of it.

I also came out of a 25 year awkward phase at the same time I lost the weight so.....

P05T5CRIPT

Way more attention from the opposite sex, I've had more guys ask me out on dates in the past 3 months than in the past 8 years! Not sure i'll ever get used to it, and still find it a little awkward but it is very flattering, and I'm enjoying it as it's not something I've experienced in so long. Besides I'm single so I'm allowed to enjoy it a little

I agree with others in that it has a lot to do with confidence, I just feel so much more 'sexy', fit and attractive, I take pride in my appearance and other people notice that. Heck I even get better service when I'm out shopping, no longer am I invisible and no longer do I want to be invisible!

alycat1990

Hey there! So far I've lost about 45lbs - halfway to where I'd like to be. I have a boyfriend of 3.5 years, when we met I was the size I am now, and he has always thought I was beautiful, even at my biggest. But lately I have def noticed an increase in his attraction and desire - also a huge difference when it comes to those intimate moments, a differene in myself too.

We talked about it together, and he said he hadnt really noticed a change in the way he acts... I am thinking obviouisly we look different - but I think we carry ourselves different too. Maybe there is a glow about us, or we are more noticably confident - and just look happier, which may attract more people to us.

Lets face it... noone wants to be around a negative nancy, and when you dont feel good about yourself, it shows.

hollyday11

I definitely notice the difference! I have fluctuated about 50 pounds (I am somewhere in the middle now). I definitely get more attention when I am thinner. I am curvy eaither way :-).

I also think I am just more confident as I've gotten older. I am more comfortable in my own skin. At 43 I am far more confident than I was in my 20's and early 30's. That makes a huge difference in how people treat you. I definitely notice more attention from men. I am happily married, but a little extra attention from men isn't a bad thing. Great for the ego.

I had a male friend tell me I was a 'triple threat' at work - smart, professional and hot. I thought that was pretty awesome!

hemlock2010

This.

Not any more romantic attention, but there has been a dramatic increase in people saying hi to me when I'm out walking some where or shopping. People seem to want to talk to me more.

My colleagues didn't even notice I'd lost weight until I'd lost 50 lbs, and they haven't changed toward me at all (which I like--I'd hate it if they acted differently around me just because I'd lost weight!), but strangers definitely treat me differently.

Except . . . last night on the dog walk I got one of those random hostile yells from a passing car that fat girls are depressingly accustomed to. As a former fat girl, I recognized it right away, but as a no longer fat girl, I was completely confused by it. Apparently just being female is enough for the haters. I wish I had known that when I was fat. I would have spent a lot less time blaming myself for the haters hating.

DonnaNCgirl

People are initially attracted by sight. You either catch their attention or you don't. That attention can be positive or negative. After weight loss, I definitely get more positive attention. Initial attraction is based on looks.

Ladies and gentlemen, don't deny your lustful hearts.

WeekndOVOXO

Yup, that's how shallow women are though so go figure.


(sarcasm)

BaristaX

I have lost about 100 lbs so far and have seen a HUGE increase in the amount of attention I get - both romantically from men when I'm out and strangers at the store. I've also changed how I accept compliments, etc. I used to kind of roll my eyes, and then when I started getting more and more compliments I didn't know what to say. Now I have learned to accept and appreciate how other people see me, even if I don't see myself that way.

When I was obese, people kind of looked "through" me. The more weight I started to lose, the more people went out of their way - even just things like holding doors, smiling, or being more courteous. It's extremely disappointing that society is that way, but it's true.

I was always obese growing up sot he new attention seems weird. I handle it like a teenager would sometimes which doesn't amuse my boyfriend too much but I usually love the attention.

this is exactly what I went through,

I was pretty much obese most of my life, and noticed most of times that people would go out of their way, just to get out of my way, if that makes sense, and even when I would shop at a store, the employees that would walk around asking if you need help would always go to the slimmer, healthier looking person first.

now, after losing130+ lbs, I have noticed that I would get way more attention than I was accustomed to, currently I am getting used to it, and just smile and communicate back, but this whole transformation has made it somewhat harder to meet or make new friends, but I think that it is my problem, that I automatically assume the same person wouldn't have even tried to get to know me if I had not decided to get healthier.

gpizzy

For myself, I felt MUCH more confident when I was lower on the scales, and I think that energy was dripping off of me. So yes, I did get more attention because people want to feel apart of something great. I have friends that have lost tons of weight and look phenomenal, and feel phenomenal, again this transcends to others and they want a piece of that. So yes, definitely more attention. Yes, better than the attention you get when you can't keep up or have extra fat on you.