What Do WOMEN want for Valentines Day?!?!?!?!

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  • fuzzieme
    fuzzieme Posts: 454 Member
    Depends on the woman. If my bf gave me a rose or a teddy, I'd never let him live it down. So, in my case, giving me anything is a big mistake. But, many women will also throw a fit if you don't spend at least a hundred euro on them. Just ask nicely "Tell me what you want so I don't hear about it" :laugh:

    OR

    Cry and walk out when they only give you a card, or worse, nothing at all.
  • adrian_indy
    adrian_indy Posts: 1,444 Member
    My wife is always cold so she likes it when I give her hot Diken's Cider. It's her favorite.
  • ashdred
    ashdred Posts: 95 Member
    I say show your wife you created this forum. It shows how much effort you put into V-Day. :-)
  • ashdred
    ashdred Posts: 95 Member
    But....
    I'm all for thoughtfullness and sentimental value type of things.
    Love letters. Something that reminded you of me...

    Hell...Give me a day off my feet because you've noticed I've been tired. #shrugs lol
  • lorib75
    lorib75 Posts: 490 Member
    My husband has been told... the card is where it's at for me! I just like to know he stood there in the card store and hand picked one just for me.
  • pinkstay
    pinkstay Posts: 61
    I agree completely!!!! as long as she knows its something you did for HER, she will love it! Not just something you did because you felt you had to
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    a last tango in Paris...
  • smtillman2
    smtillman2 Posts: 756 Member
    Just to spend time together but I'm not married so what in the hell do I know.
  • Drop_it_Like_Its_Hawt
    Drop_it_Like_Its_Hawt Posts: 226 Member
    Meh, I'm easy to please. Roses work, or if you really wanted to wow me, tickets to a live show (music or theater). Just don't try to get clothes or jewelry - because most women tend to be pretty particular about what they wear, and unless it's something they SPECIFICALLY hinted at, it would get awkward if you bought something that really wasn't their style at all - then they'd have to wear it just to give the appearance of liking it and not hurting your feelings (and God help you if you miss their dress size by more than a few sizes).

    All in all though, after 14 years of marriage, valentines day doesn't really mean that much to me. It seems like a holiday destined to make couples "prove" their love to each other with gifts/cards/etc, and if putting up with my snoring, moodiness and vampire romance obsession for that many years doesn't prove his love enough, no bunch of roses is going to make me any more convinced.
  • rubixcyoob
    rubixcyoob Posts: 395
    Last year me and h2b spent valentines day with my little one, had a lovely meal for lunch ... and then me and my sister were violently sick all night. My parents were away so I was looking after her and then over the course of the night he took charge, got me all cleaned up and put into bed, made sure me and her had buckets by the bed, calmed down the baby and got him into bed with us (he was 1.5 and terrified because I wasn't well).
    The next day he arranged for my aunt to get my son so I could rest, went to class, missed a night out and came back with heat rub and ran me a bath.

    That was pretty special. He never ran away, he never bummed that his night was ruined etc. he just looked after me and cared for me.

    This year I'm hoping it goes slightly better than the last. We're going to the cinema to see either Django Unchained or the new Die Hard movie. We'll be at his flat, as will his flatmates, so not too romantic for dinner, but I'll either cook something nice, or we will go somewhere before the movie, and then come back and have champagne and I'll give him a massage :)
    There will also be candles and movies back at the flat too.

    Me, I've not asked for anything. What I've always wanted is flowers delivered to me though. Never happened before :(
  • crimsoncat
    crimsoncat Posts: 457 Member
    I would like a single flower as I don't like bouquets. I'd be more than happy with jewelry (go by her birth stone if you don't know what she wants).

    I would LOVE it if you did that one chore that I hate doing for me before I got home from work.

    I don't want a teddy bear I have a million.

    A nice high quality slice of cake for dinner fro a local bakery would be awesome. Also, I would like going out for ice cream.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    dunno about women generally, but I want a power cage and barbell with lots of weights. And some new dumbbells, and a pull-up bar (that can be part of the power cage if you want) and a bench. And a thing where I can do triceps dips.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    Just don't get her TOOLS.....even if they are in a red box (YES, my husband did this for me when we were dating). :grumble:
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Dayum....a lot of people aren't getting sex very often, I guess..

    I want some new running or spinning shoes...THAT'S a gift (I can get sex any day)

    No, we have lots of sex. We just aren't into gifts. We get what we need/want when we need/want. On special occasions I want sex, just like any other time.
  • MikeyD1280
    MikeyD1280 Posts: 5,257
    what I am going to do.. I am going to put a poem under her pillow, then have that poem lead her to secrets around the house, such as guiding her to a hidden flower, that will have a poem to the next gift and so on... the last present will be..special.. :bigsmile:
  • FeministJaz
    FeministJaz Posts: 16 Member
    I want the same thing for Vday that I want every day: to end all forms (implicit, explicit, subtle, discursive, physical, symbolic, direct, indirect) of violence against women.....AND all individuals and communities who's genders, sexualities, ages, dis/abilities, racializations, classed/economic locations, languages, ethnicities and religions are made marginal by dominant social ideologies and practices.
  • Drop_it_Like_Its_Hawt
    Drop_it_Like_Its_Hawt Posts: 226 Member
    what I am going to do.. I am going to put a poem under her pillow, then have that poem lead her to secrets around the house, such as guiding her to a hidden flower, that will have a poem to the next gift and so on... the last present will be..special.. :bigsmile:

    Just please tell me it's not going to be your d**k in a box, because unless you're Justin Timberlake or the previous five gifts were margaritas, that finale might not go over well.
  • zenchild
    zenchild Posts: 680 Member
    We're having a late dinner at a local restaurant where he knows the chef/owner because he just did a photo essay there. We both took the next day off so we're having lunch at another local restaurant (to talk to the chef about another photo essay). We'll just wander and be lazy all day.
    He probably will give me flowers. And they will probably end up on fire. It's one of the hazards of being married to a photographer. He's been experimenting with fire lately so the phrase "Honey, why are there charred tulips in the sink?" has become pretty common in our house.
  • fuzzieme
    fuzzieme Posts: 454 Member
    what I am going to do.. I am going to put a poem under her pillow, then have that poem lead her to secrets around the house, such as guiding her to a hidden flower, that will have a poem to the next gift and so on... the last present will be..special.. :bigsmile:



    Ha, I did that, minus the romance, for my brother one christmas
  • olDave
    olDave Posts: 557 Member
    If I haven't shown her how much I love her the other 364 days of the year, one day that florists made up won't help.
  • smtillman2
    smtillman2 Posts: 756 Member
    If I haven't shown her how much I love her the other 364 days of the year, one day that florists made up won't help.

    I feel sorry for your wife.
  • scythswife
    scythswife Posts: 1,100 Member
    For me it would just be alone time with him. no kids, phones, tvs etc. Flowers r nice but not necessary. He doesn't get chocolates cause I don't really eat them. One year he bought me a new dish set in the style that I had said I liked. I get affection and attention daily when he is home so just some alone time would work.

    above was my original answer, now I just want hubby to be home but thats not happening. :sad:
  • liliumkain
    liliumkain Posts: 5
    What I want for Valentine's Day is to not be alone
  • sed1217
    sed1217 Posts: 228 Member
    I asked DH for Wii Zumba, but one should NOT take this as a suggestion unless explicitly instructed to by your SO :bigsmile:
  • geonbaeLeilee
    geonbaeLeilee Posts: 606 Member
    A trip to my favorite coffee shop and a day off from work. :)
  • 5ftnFun
    5ftnFun Posts: 948 Member
    If I haven't shown her how much I love her the other 364 days of the year, one day that florists made up won't help.

    I feel sorry for your wife.

    I don't. I think he means that we should treat our sweeties well throughout the year, not just on the one day.
  • iWaffle
    iWaffle Posts: 2,208 Member
    They want you to give them messages of affection.

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  • swoods516
    swoods516 Posts: 22 Member
    A foot rub goes a long way!!! To be treated special.
  • smtillman2
    smtillman2 Posts: 756 Member
    If I haven't shown her how much I love her the other 364 days of the year, one day that florists made up won't help.

    I feel sorry for your wife.

    I don't. I think he means that we should treat our sweeties well throughout the year, not just on the one day.

    I read it as he doesn't show her how much he cares ever so he's not gonna do it then either.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    If I haven't shown her how much I love her the other 364 days of the year, one day that florists made up won't help.

    I feel sorry for your wife.

    I don't. I think he means that we should treat our sweeties well throughout the year, not just on the one day.

    I read it as he doesn't show her how much he cares ever so he's not gonna do it then either.

    You read it wrong.

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