For Big Women on the Edge When the Subway is Too Crowded
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I LOVE that you stood up for yourself!! It's the best to watch peoples' faces when you don't shrivel and cower at the "fat" jab.0
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Are you from NYC? Have you traveled in the heat of rush hour especially the 6 train its crammed like sardines! Let me tell you smething if you want space take your *kitten* and drive a car solo. In NYC space is valuable. You don't like it leave or get pushed out the way.
I am. Born in the Bronx. I've traveled on NYC subway and crowded subways around the world. I've never had to fight for a seat.
Take the 6 train uptown at 5:00pm today rush hour and let me know if you can get a seat. U get one save a seat for me. Most likely you would not get a seat and the homeless guy from across the way will run and lunge before you sit down.
:laugh: Clearly that badass homeless guy has earned his seat. The rest of us are just amateurs.0 -
So glad I live in a place where public transportation is not the norm.0
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As a fellow NYer, I applaud your standing your ground, literally. I do not however condone body shaming. In EITHER direction. You describing her as an underfed tiny person is just as bad as her calling you fat.
I go through what you go through every day and I feel your pain but please don't add insult to injury. If you're going to be the better person, which you just about were, be the better person all around.
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This. I absolutely would have had a negative reaction to this passenger as well...but turning the table and assuming anything about her is just as rude as her call you fat.
Lesson learned (hopefully) but I do think there is something to be said for standing up for yourself not just because you are overweight (or underweight, whatever the case may be) but because you are a human being and common decency towards others has been lost in this world.0 -
Take the 6 train uptown at 5:00pm today rush hour and let me know if you can get a seat. U get one save a seat for me. Most likely you would not get a seat and the homeless guy from across the way will run and lunge before you sit down.
First of all, I never said it's easy to get a seat. I've had to stand many times. BUT, if I saw that a lady was taking up a seat with her purse, I'd ask her to move it so I could sit down. That was my point.
Secondly, if someone ran and lunged at a seat (homeless or not), I'd let them have the seat before I'd start a shouting/cussing match with them on the subway.0 -
There is ALWAYS and I mean FREAKING ALWAYS some tiny, underfed chick with a HUGE purse that will start some ish with me. Seriously.
Wait a sec? Sorry but I am one of those 'underfed chicks' you just discriminated against.... thing is...I used to be one of those 'fat chicks that should know better' like you 12 months ago. I can see now why I walk everywhere.......perhaps you should start that as well rather than having a go at someone for being an 'underfed chick'
PS.... I'm hardly underfed, in fact I eat MORE now than when I was a fatty..... I just work had to stay here. But I'm far from rude, unless you complain. Have a go at me for being skinny or underfed & I'll have a go back. But I'll never start anything.
Did you read that the subway ride was an hour long?!? I don't think even YOU would want to walk that distance everyday - not to mention her injury...read a little deeper before you make your comments!0 -
HAAAA!!!! oh the things i would have said!!! lol people suck! good job though, good attitude
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Maybe she's carrying a big bag because she's sick of getting hit in the face with bellies, bags, backpacks and the like? Maybe she's a little irritated that people keep bumping into her and think they can just run over her because she's small? The bag gives her a little more room as if she were an "average" sized person.
It's her genetics. You can't get mad at someone's genetics that makes them small and tiny. We all come in different shapes and sizes. We should be respectful of all of them.0 -
What does everybody have against big purses?0
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Wow... this whole thread went off the tracks (see what I did there?!) all because people wanted to argue about who has the worst train ride. WTG!0
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Loved reading this! Then I read the replies of some people :huh:. Now I don't know which is more entertaining! The story or the fact that some of the responders, that weren't involved, and this story wasn't about, took it personally :laugh: .
ANYWAY, way to go! Glad you stood your ground and yet backed down so it didn't get out of hand :drinker:0 -
Wow... this whole thread went off the tracks (see what I did there?!) all because people wanted to argue about who has the worst train ride. WTG!
Show off.0 -
Wow... this whole thread went off the tracks (see what I did there?!) all because people wanted to argue about who has the worst train ride. WTG!
What about the discrimination against big purses? What about that??!!!! The social unjustice!0 -
Lesson learned: don't ask anyone to move - even if you were there first.
Just kick 'em and be done with it.0 -
If I feel to stand and the woman has a problem of me standing in front of her that's her problem not mine. I stand wherever I feel like as long im not coughing or sneezing in their face. In the Subway there's no personal space. It's a free country and I don't think thats not courteous if someone stands over someone. She doesn't like it GET UP FROM THE SEAT AND MOVE!
There are other methods of getting around walking etc.
If you been walking from midtown to the flat iron district then downtown you have been walking all day. Now going home you are going to take the train back home and someone grabbed the seat while you are going to sit you would be pissed! If not you are lying.0 -
Wow... this whole thread went off the tracks (see what I did there?!) all because people wanted to argue about who has the worst train ride. WTG!
What about the discrimination against big purses? What about that??!!!! The social unjustice!
Seriously! I'm going to write a letter.0 -
Well weight seems to come and go but ugly on the inside can be forever.0
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Discrimination against big purses is like the holocaust! People are trying to get rid of all big purses on the subway because they're not as good as small purses... Oh, the humanity!0
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Discrimination against big purses is like the holocaust! People are trying to get rid of all big purses on the subway because they're not as good as small purses... Oh, the humanity!
We should make purses, and the people who wear them, a protected class.0 -
1) OP - Good for you for standing up for yourself! I never have the nerve to do things like that :laugh: I hated riding the bus in Pittsburgh, because of the sighs and dirty looks you get for just existing.
2) People, people, people. She was using "pedigree" in a sarcastic manner. She followed it up with "she claimed to be a hood rat". Ok, just had to point that out :happy:0 -
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Discrimination against big purses is like the holocaust! People are trying to get rid of all big purses on the subway because they're not as good as small purses... Oh, the humanity!
^^^ This! Yes, and anyone who disagrees should read up on the history of it. Sweeping general statements FTW!0 -
Good for you for standing your ground!! You should write a blog, you are quite entertaining and very intelligent. Keep up the good work and for making you and better you!! 0
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I would have played my 'bigness' against her. So like when she said 'I'll kick your *kitten*' I would have said 'You could TRY to kick my *kitten*, but be careful because my *kitten* will kick you back' hee hee always better answers after the fact0
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Awesome, way to stand your ground!! You deserve to be proud of who you are, I applaud you :drinker:0
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Wow... this whole thread went off the tracks (see what I did there?!) all because people wanted to argue about who has the worst train ride. WTG!
What about the discrimination against big purses? What about that??!!!! The social unjustice!
Seriously! I'm going to write a letter.
Since this thread derailed big time anyway, I have to ask: just what in the hell are women carrying in bags this big? I carry a bag for work that has all my work stuff, wallet, phone, Day Runner, checkbook, you name it, and it is still one fifth this size:
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Still doesn't change the fact that people treat obese people differently. Do you think its right?
Differently does not automatically mean disrespectfully. I'm sorry, but if you are too large to fit in the clothes in a particular store, then you don't get to shop in that particular store. It's not disrespectful - there are plenty of stores that serve the overweight community. You are different when you are obese, and that's not bad or wrong, that's just the way it is. This idea that everyone should be equal all the time no matter what is not helping the obesity epidemic, either.
I don't think that the original question was talking about clothing, but more likely referring to the fact that people tend to make snap judgments about others who are overweight or obese.0 -
Wow... this whole thread went off the tracks (see what I did there?!) all because people wanted to argue about who has the worst train ride. WTG!
I win, btw. I live on the Green Line, the B at that :laughs:0 -
Love this!!0
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Can we be friends? I like your attitude!0
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