(To the ladies) Is it really for us? C'mon man........

greyoutside

It's not for me, but when women dress up it's definitely not for men. It's for other women.

By guy friends were so disappointed when I told them this, haha

RandiLandCHANGED

Sometimes it is, but I agree that it is frequently for myself, and occasionally for other women.

Mhaney

I don't do all that even for myself under the cover of doing it for some one else. I never pay retail for ANYTHING. I sure as hell wouldn't spend $150 for ONE outfit.

fara180

maintaining a fresh appearance DOES cost money. it sounds like she goes a little overboard, but i totally get where she is coming from. i get my hair and nails done from time to time and i try to dress appropriately for work and still look young and hip. it's not "just," for a man. it's for myself. it's for my career. and it's for my future. don't hate. also, show me a man that truly wants to be with an unkept, sweat pants & tshirt all the time kind of girl who never does her nails or makeup- i'd love to meet him.

Txracy

I don't spend lots on myself, because there are so many nice clothes you can buy for much cheaper that do not look "cheap" (wait for sales, shop online, etc)

I dress up for everyone else. I like being my husband's "hot wife" as his friends say, and I like being considered attractive in general. I also enjoy fashion, and use it a way to express my personality.

But being dressed nicely doesn't mean I'm always in high heels and dresses though. I'll run to Target in yoga pants and tank top (that I look good in, by the way ), and at home I'll wear some well-fitting jeans that make my *kitten* look great, and a fitted t-shirt. Casual doesn't have to mean sloppy.

If my husband dictated what I wore, I would be naked. Always. He doesn't even notice clothes. Hell, he doesn't even notice lingerie. He thinks it's stupid to spend that much on underwear when it's going to just end up on the floor anyway :blushing:

pudadough

I only dress up out of obligation. I have to dress professionally for work. And usually even there I try to be as cheap as possible and buy one item in multiple colors that can be worn several ways. Outside of that, I'm a t-shirt and jeans kind of person. So yeah, definitely not concerned with impressing anyone.

Umeboshi

Women have a wide range of motivations for dressing the way they do, because we are all individuals with different mindsets and priorities.

awadm

I dress up for myself....if a guy chooses to enjoy it, then that's a perk :bigsmile:

triciab79

I do not spend much on hair makeup or clothing. I don't even do manicures at all. I will say when I dress up I am trying to get his attention. All girls want to be wanted. All attempts have failed to garner the desired reaction so far but I am stubborn.

ashesfromfire

When I say it's for Him, it's for Him. That being said, my day to day attire is not for Him. But if it's date night, or I feel like being extra appealing, there are certain dress or skirts that I know my man likes and I wear them.

MyChocolateDiet

Of course it's for her, but isn't it nice that she says what she says?

My wife says the same things with a wink. It's adorable and I love it, but I completely get it. Hell, it's fun to hear it even when I know it's not true.

This is a very cute answer from a male.

MyChocolateDiet

It's scary because we hear so many guys always complaining that once you get to a certain point, girls quit trying or give up or just dont think they need to be alluring anymore because they got their man.

I dont think this is right, it's like bait and switch. Here's what you think you are getting, here is what Im actually going to give you. No bueno. That's being a decepticon.

While I dont approve of giving up on how you look, I also don't think that your man should have to pay for all your beauty upkeepness. You handled your own style, hygiene, hair and nails before you met him, you should continue to do the same. Looking good for yourself happens in the gym, looking good for him means taking a little extra time to encourage his attraction to you - which is WIN WIN anyway.

But then it gets confusing again when the guys are like - why do you put so much into it when you could just make me a sandwich?? And we think... cause if we let ourselves go and waddle over to you with the world's greatest sandwich, you'll look us up and down and say... dang, where's the woman I fell in love with? This girl doesn't even care about my opinion.

I dont want to be in sweats and a t all the time, I love to wear dresses, but I also make sure that when Im loungey, Im still cute.

Yeah, it's all for yall and our own sense of prettiness, which makes me feel sexy, which makes me more confident, which makes me feel reallllly sexy.

So, please - pick one to complain about. Us trying to look good for you, or us refusing to try to look good. Either way you choose, we'll still make you a sandwich.

And open your beer.

They have chosen...they want us to look good, without it costing them money. Didn't you read the OP? And there are plenty of women chiming in here about paying for their own upkeep so it seems they could easily have one of these. Problem solved. Dump the wives you are with in favor of one of these free upkeep types if the love of your life has become such a nuisance and a drain.

triciab79

BTW I make awesome sandwiches and bring them to him on the weekends when he wakes up just before noon. I have been up for hours running to the grocery store, doing laundry, fixing stuff, and watching the babies, and then I bring him his sammich. You think that is all you want but when a girl does it do you really notice?

elenathegreat

When a man is taking me out, and I dress up, it's for him. I want people that see us to think that he has a hot chick, not that he's dating down.

But at home, I'm a total "sweats and t-shirt" kind of girl.

^^This, exactly. Plus, after almost twenty-five years, my husband still looks sooo hot...I want other women to look at him and then me and think, "Real Nice, but no way can I beat that chick..."

Iron_Duchess

My husband always says that the way a woman looks reflects on her man, who he is, and how he treats her (I know he has very weird opinions, but oh well, my bed is already made…).

I don't know about that. I've met narcissistic guys at the gym that demand that their SO look and be a certain way.

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So, like a said, the way she “looks” reflects on what kind of man he is and the ways he treats her. If a man treats his SO like a porcelain doll, I’m pretty sure she looks like one. If a man is always nagging and complaining about not wanting her to spend money doing her hair or buying clothes, she is going to stop taking care of herself so she doesn't have to hear him complain. It’s sad, but many just take the path of less resistance. All guys complain about the money wives and SO expend taking care of themselves, but inside they hit their chests (insert some gorilla grunts here) every time another man looks at his woman and says, “Wow, she is hot!” It’s all about infusing the male ego too.

Lt_Starbuck

It's scary because we hear so many guys always complaining that once you get to a certain point, girls quit trying or give up or just dont think they need to be alluring anymore because they got their man.

I dont think this is right, it's like bait and switch. Here's what you think you are getting, here is what Im actually going to give you. No bueno. That's being a decepticon.

While I dont approve of giving up on how you look, I also don't think that your man should have to pay for all your beauty upkeepness. You handled your own style, hygiene, hair and nails before you met him, you should continue to do the same. Looking good for yourself happens in the gym, looking good for him means taking a little extra time to encourage his attraction to you - which is WIN WIN anyway.

But then it gets confusing again when the guys are like - why do you put so much into it when you could just make me a sandwich?? And we think... cause if we let ourselves go and waddle over to you with the world's greatest sandwich, you'll look us up and down and say... dang, where's the woman I fell in love with? This girl doesn't even care about my opinion.

I dont want to be in sweats and a t all the time, I love to wear dresses, but I also make sure that when Im loungey, Im still cute.

Yeah, it's all for yall and our own sense of prettiness, which makes me feel sexy, which makes me more confident, which makes me feel reallllly sexy.

So, please - pick one to complain about. Us trying to look good for you, or us refusing to try to look good. Either way you choose, we'll still make you a sandwich.

And open your beer.

They have chosen...they want us to look good, without it costing them money. Didn't you read the OP? And there are plenty of women chiming in here about paying for their own upkeep so it seems they could easily have one of these. Problem solved. Dump the wives you are with in favor of one of these free upkeep types if the love of your life has become such a nuisance and a drain.

no one was talking to you. I read the OP cause he's on my friends list and I was responding to him. scootch.

00sarah

I do it for him, which in essence is doing it for me, because when he notices, I get all warm and fuzzy inside.

^^ This is true. I put far more effort into my appearance when I'm going to be with my husband (even if it's just staying at home) than I do when I'm going to be by myself. I want HIM to think I look good. Couldn't care less what the rest of the world thinks.

Yup.

gr8pillock

I'll be honest, I DO LOVE putting on a nice dress and doing myself up to let my honey flaunt me on his arm, but the truth is, I worked my *kitten* off when he wasn't even in my life to get down to this size, and I buy he dresses because I CAN fit into them. So no... it isn't for him. When I put it all together and do my hair and get all gussied up, then yes it is for him, but when I'm buying the clothes, I buy for myself, for how I feel in them. He and his reaction (which I love endlessly) is secondary.

Unless it's lingerie. Whole other story.

karenyg

I dress for myself I don't leave the house until I have everything right. Believe me women can be the worst critic for other women.

carrieliz81

I do actually think about what my boyfriend will think about my outfits, and try to plan things that I think he will like, or approve of, or think I look good in..... but, I'm pretty sure that I worry about what he is thinking, and what he is actually thinking is:






...nothing, because men are lucky and don't over-analyze everything all the time.