The "ugly" friend...
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ummm, gawd I hope I've never hung out with anyone who gives two sh*ts about this..but yeah, I think it is real...I have never been svelt, so maybe I'm the fat friend...but I base my friendships on humor...you could look like Christie Brinkley..if you aren't funny, you aren't going to be fun to hang with...My own bestie can make me laugh so hard I sound like a chimp in heat...and it certainly isn't pretty.
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*must google the sound of a chimp in heat...0 -
all my friends are good looking..... am the fat/ ugly friend .....
but am friends with people for who they are not what they look like0 -
I would never, in my life, think of ever being friends or not friends with a person based on looks. To me, it's incredibly shallow, and Karma will come back in the end.
As for me, in high school and middle school, I was always the fat, ugly (in my mind at least) friend. All my friends were skinnier, and had one constantly tell me everything she deemed wrong with me. This went from weight, skin, clothes, hair..whatever she could think of. Constantly. I developed and still have a terrible confidence and horrid self picture of myself from years of hearing this.
Then senior year of high school I went temporary hyperthyroid. Dropped 40 lbs in a month and a half changing nothing. My best friend of 13 years starting telling everyone I was bulimic (never approached me saying she was worried, just decided I was and EVERYONE had to hear, and for the record I was NOT nor never).
Looking back now I laugh. It's hilarious how all my "friends" stopped talking to me when I lost weight and started dating my bf (soon-to-be husband now). I suppose, sadly, some do. But as with all things, just because some do it does not mean all do.0 -
All my friends that are girls always talk **** behind my back to my guy friends, they are pretty two faced i only really have one true friend and he is male. My other friends are my MFPers
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Well I can see that I've been completely wrong about women being shallow LOL
if you read my post, I said it was NOTHING I agree with, but have heard of. I would NEVER choose my friends on how they make me look, but rather how good of people they are, are they fun, etc....
Yea, I may not be friends with Puffy on here but see enough of her posts to know she's a doll and not that type.
You sir have posted many women-bashing posts and I'm sorry you had a rough time but it's time to get over it. Seek therapy if need be however blaming ALL for the actions of a few is ignorant to say the least.
You've taken the steps to improve yourself physically now how about taking the steps to improve yourself mentally and emotionally. The victim card is old and overused.
I think I puffy heart you, because you are awesome!0 -
Your greAt looking as well sweetie! It's just about the confidence you have !all my friends are good looking..... am the fat/ ugly friend ..... do t let anyone tell you that your fat or ugly! 0 -
I've never heard this.0
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Everyone is ugly compared to someone else, it's all relative.
I choose to think everyone is good looking to someone. :bigsmile:0 -
I once dated a girl who legitimately practiced this. She said she had an "ugly friend" she'd take out with her so she would look better.
All I could think was, given the attractiveness of said girl I was dating, that other girl had to be reeeeeeal ugly!0 -
I don't think this is something my friends and I have every discussed. Hopefully I choose my friends and they choose me because we like each others' company.
When I was single, the group was pretty evenly mixed men and women and we had a blast together. Now we're all paired off and parents.0 -
All of my friends are guys.... Literally. All of them. So I don't do this. I can't stand hanging out with girls... they annoy me.
This is NOT, repeat NOT a personal attack but a general pet peeve of mine when I see/hear women say this. I USE to say this a lot when I was younger and felt threatened or insecure around other females. I got over my issues and now I can't imagine now having my girl friends. There are few that I'm really close with but their friendships bring so much more to the table than my friendships with my guy friends.
I don't feel threatened or insecure around other females. I just can't relate to them as well as I can with guys. The stuff most girls talk about, I just don't like. I know that yes, there probably is a girl out there like me who hates shopping, talking about hair and stuff, likes video games and obscure asian horror movies... but for now, guys do that. So it's not an "insecure" thing at all, for me at least.
Also, about 7/10 of my friends are gay males. So I even get the only real girl talk I like with them... about other hot guys. Ha.
Some women like shopping, makeup, video games AND obscure asian horror flicks. It's not either/or, and it's really not helping you out any to rule out an entire sex of humans just because you don't think they're as unique and different as you.
I'm not sure what from my post made you think that I'm ruling out an entire sex - it just so happens that so far in my life all my friends are males. I don't see a girl and go "oh hell no gtfo". Just the people that I've gotten along with best and want to spend my time with happen to be guys.0 -
I'm a bass player...
I am the "ugly friend"... :frown:0 -
We all have had friends that we knew were better looking or more successful with the ladies than ourselves. So we made sure, we hung back and picked off his leftovers....0
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Well I can see that I've been completely wrong about women being shallow LOL
I must've missed the part where she was being shallow0 -
I never thought about it until my ex-husband said my two best friends were way hotter than I was. Then I was super paranoid, but came to the conclusion that my friends were true friends. Ex-husband, as shown by the 'ex' was the 'ugly' person in that equation!0
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Every group has a Karen and she is always a bag of douche.
Whether Karen is ugly is a different story.0 -
Growing up my dad always told me, "Son, you always want to hang out with people that are uglier and dumber than you. Comparatively speaking you'll like like a superstar."
Given the amount of dates I got growing up, my friends apparently got the same speech and paid better heed to it than I did. I was the ugly/dumb one.0 -
I once dated a girl who legitimately practiced this. She said she had an "ugly friend" she'd take out with her so she would look better.
All I could think was, given the attractiveness of said girl I was dating, that other girl had to be reeeeeeal ugly!
she TOLD you this? How long did you date her?0 -
If it is really a thing, I believe I'm the ugly friend... or, should I say, the "fat" friend.
I am also the fat friend.0 -
uhhh no...i have not heard of that, noticed it, or done it myself.
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Hey what's up Karen? Kaaaaren, what's up Karen?Every group has a Karen and she is always a bag of douche.
Whether Karen is ugly is a different story.
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I never thought about it until my ex-husband said my two best friends were way hotter than I was. Then I was super paranoid, but came to the conclusion that my friends were true friends. Ex-husband, as shown by the 'ex' was the 'ugly' person in that equation!
I'm glad he's an EX if he's going to tell you that your friends are hotter. *kitten*! (him)0 -
If it is a real thing I don't think it's that common. I have heard of people doing it but haven't ever met anyone who has said she likes having an ugly friend for that reason. But it doesn't surprise me that there are women shallow or insecure enough to purposely befriend some one they think s less attractive than they are for the purpose getting more attention when going out.0
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My friends are amazing people - smart, funny, active, adventurous, sarcastic. Its these qualities that made them my friends. That being said, they're all very attractive, the men and women.
A person should never keep someone around because they feel like they look better next to that person. At the same token, a person should never put up with being treated like that.0 -
All of my friends are guys.... Literally. All of them. So I don't do this. I can't stand hanging out with girls... they annoy me.
This is NOT, repeat NOT a personal attack but a general pet peeve of mine when I see/hear women say this. I USE to say this a lot when I was younger and felt threatened or insecure around other females. I got over my issues and now I can't imagine now having my girl friends. There are few that I'm really close with but their friendships bring so much more to the table than my friendships with my guy friends.
I don't feel threatened or insecure around other females. I just can't relate to them as well as I can with guys. The stuff most girls talk about, I just don't like. I know that yes, there probably is a girl out there like me who hates shopping, talking about hair and stuff, likes video games and obscure asian horror movies... but for now, guys do that. So it's not an "insecure" thing at all, for me at least.
Also, about 7/10 of my friends are gay males. So I even get the only real girl talk I like with them... about other hot guys. Ha.
Some women like shopping, makeup, video games AND obscure asian horror flicks. It's not either/or, and it's really not helping you out any to rule out an entire sex of humans just because you don't think they're as unique and different as you.
I'm not sure what from my post made you think that I'm ruling out an entire sex - it just so happens that so far in my life all my friends are males. I don't see a girl and go "oh hell no gtfo". Just the people that I've gotten along with best and want to spend my time with happen to be guys.
So, when you said "I can't stand hanging out with girls - they annoy me." that wasn't ruling out the entire sex. *LOL*
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I have a friend who is 5ft 10, slim, gorgeous...and gets looks and chatted up everywhere we go...I on the other hand, am the overweight, short "Mexican girl" ...( I am from INDIA !:noway: ) who is ignored every time. I dont know why we're friends...she is a single mom and keeps picking all the horribly wrong men who treat her like a piece of meat..and she comes crying to me after each relationship ends...runs after the first man who winks at her next.
And each time i happen to be with her...when the next man winks at her...I think she knows i wont be getting any attention...so that's why she picks me to go out with...
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THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A UNGLY WOMEN THERE ALL BEAUTIFULL IN THERE OWN WAY YOU JUST HAVE TO SEE IT AND THEN EVERYTHING ELSE DONT MATTER0
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If it is really a thing, I believe I'm the ugly friend... or, should I say, the "fat" friend.
I am also the fat friend.
My sisters!0 -
I was the "fat" friend, the "ugly" friend, but I dropped the weight and everyone ditched me, so they must think I'm a threat.0
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I've known most of my friends since we were in 7th grade. We're all hot, sexy biatches (at least in my eyes). They are also all married so I don't think this applies. I think I've passed the age where anyone would do this. Well, I certainly hope so.
For the record, MissK is my AWESOME friend, not my fat or ugly friend. She's a babe.0
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