What makes a girl intimidating?

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  • teshiburu
    teshiburu Posts: 262 Member
    im extremely talkative but rarely if ever do not make the first move


    yesterday at the gym there were only two ellipticals left when me and a very lovely woman both went to them. she looked at me and said, ok which one do you want.

    my mind said, say well its a very well known rule in life that extremely good looking people get first choice....so i will take that one.

    instead i think i sounded like charlie browns teacher and nodded at the one closest to me

    LOL its funny how in ur head and what happens in reality are so different

    Happens all the time when talking to women, you can aim to sound Christian Greyish, Romeo, or just rely on our charm and good looks, and we end up sounding and looking like a dribbling jack the ripper lol!

    Honestly, for me I suppose its the fear of rejection, if I don't ask you can't reject me! and thats a win in my mind lol!
  • Dragonnade
    Dragonnade Posts: 218 Member
    According to my ex, my intelligence.


    Idiot. Tell me I'm pretty, not that you're scared of me!
  • tachyon_master
    tachyon_master Posts: 226 Member
    If she looks like a supermodel and has a PhD it may require a special approach.

    I dunno about supermodel...But I like to think I'm decent looking. And I have a PhD.

    Trust me, that doesn't mean I want to date another PhD.
  • teshiburu
    teshiburu Posts: 262 Member
    According to my ex, my intelligence.


    Idiot. Tell me I'm pretty, not that you're scared of me!

    Nothing wrong with intelligence, I find it very attractive, and not at all intimidating, whoop look at me talking on here lol. always neeed a smart mind for my quiz team!
  • HunterKiller_wechange2
    HunterKiller_wechange2 Posts: 332 Member
    balls

    lol beat me to it.
  • darrensurrey
    darrensurrey Posts: 3,942 Member
    Being female.</ForeverAlone>
  • Dragonnade
    Dragonnade Posts: 218 Member
    According to my ex, my intelligence.


    Idiot. Tell me I'm pretty, not that you're scared of me!

    Nothing wrong with intelligence, I find it very attractive, and not at all intimidating, whoop look at me talking on here lol. always neeed a smart mind for my quiz team!


    Pub quiz teams are important things! Though my boyfriend has been intimidated out of one because his mate waxed lyrical about how great he was so he fears letting them all down. Go figure!
  • teshiburu
    teshiburu Posts: 262 Member
    According to my ex, my intelligence.


    Idiot. Tell me I'm pretty, not that you're scared of me!

    Nothing wrong with intelligence, I find it very attractive, and not at all intimidating, whoop look at me talking on here lol. always neeed a smart mind for my quiz team!


    Pub quiz teams are important things! Though my boyfriend has been intimidated out of one because his mate waxed lyrical about how great he was so he fears letting them all down. Go figure!

    Pfft, I will never say I am good at them lol, however its all the more fun if the loosing team gets to chose a category for the next month lol
  • witchy_wife
    witchy_wife Posts: 792 Member
    witchcraft

    Hey! I'm a witch and I am very approachable lol.
  • RunDoozer
    RunDoozer Posts: 1,699 Member
    Adam's apples
  • witchy_wife
    witchy_wife Posts: 792 Member
    Adam's apples

    LMAO!!!
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    You're not intimidating, we're just nervous. Yes, there is a difference. We are nervous because we actually happen to like you enough to think things through, plan ahead and then make a calculated approach. We're nervous that the only chance we got with you might be wasted and so we fear rejection. I personally don't feel nervous anymore because frankly, I just don't find girls that I care for. I just walk up to them now and start talking.

    Ladies, you want the guy to be nervous. This shows that he cares about you enough to feel nervous about possible rejection.

    i disagree with this. How can you say you like someone enough to approach them. having never talked to them you cant really say like them. sure you think they are hot and would like to see her do some thrust squats over you but there have been plenty of pretty girls i have known that as soon as you hear them talk and their personality comes shining through you wish you had the ultimate sunblock.

    being hot only makes you boneable.....great personality and pretty makes you dateable
  • jo_marnes
    jo_marnes Posts: 1,601 Member

    being hot only makes you boneable.....great personality and pretty makes you dateable

    boneable..... did not realise that was even a word, lmao
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member

    being hot only makes you boneable.....great personality and pretty makes you dateable

    boneable..... did not realise that was even a word, lmao

    fell free to replace it with

    *bumping uglies
    *mating
    *doable
    *horizontal mamba
  • chocl8girl
    chocl8girl Posts: 1,968 Member
    Apparently, I am not only not intimidating, but I must give off a particular "Oh HELL no, leave this one alone" aura.

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  • xxtaliaxx
    xxtaliaxx Posts: 123
    I have been wondering this very thing for the longest time. I've gotten that I am intimidating so many times and I don't know how to change it. I don't think I look pissed off all the time...:indifferent:
  • elenathegreat
    elenathegreat Posts: 3,988 Member
    Fangs and heavy facial hair?
  • sbbhbm
    sbbhbm Posts: 1,312 Member
    I find that covering myself with spikes and leather is a good way to keep the boys at bay. And the ones that aren't intimidated by that are exactly the kind of guy I'd like to get to know.
  • Rambo529
    Rambo529 Posts: 170 Member
    According to my ex, it would be my profile picture.
  • contingencyplan
    contingencyplan Posts: 3,639 Member
    I wouldn't call it intimidating, but rather in my case I grow to try to judge a girl's personality based on how she projects her appearance. I've grown to associate things like wearing high heels regularly, extensively styled hair, jewelry, lots of accessories, and just in general sacrificing practicality for style in the way they dress with personality traits that, to me, are negatives, so I don't bother. I'd sooner approach a girl in a Thundercats t-shirt, jeans, sneakers, and no makeup than I would a girl who was dressed to impress.

    EDIT: When a girl has something about her that makes one aware of common interests that makes approaches easy. I don't approach when I have nothing to talk about. But if I see a girl has something already in common with me before the approach, I have no qualms about approaching. Basically, I like it when a girl "wears" her hobbies. An example would be I ride motorcycles and I often wear my riding jacket as a casual jacket during cooler months. People who can tell a riding jacket apart from a regular one approach me for conversation regarding bikes. Same concept.
  • actingnurse1
    actingnurse1 Posts: 153 Member
    Looks like a lot of guys have weighed in lol. Here's my take. I'm not going to pretend to be super macho and like I'm fearless. Sometimes it can be quite intimidating to approach a woman. The hotter they are usually the harder it becomes - it's that fear of rejection kicking in. You just have to push past it and man up. If a man tells you that that's what he's saying - you seemed "out of his league" in one way or another so it made him assume you'd reject him without even giving you a chance to.

    If its not looks based then the girl may come off super *****y just because she's having a bad day or something. First impressions are misleading sometimes.
  • vikkistarr89
    vikkistarr89 Posts: 122 Member
    I am almost ashamed to say it, but i have been told numerous times through my teens and now that I come across as intimidating.

    Apparently this is because I am talkative and animated, sometimes loud, and quite blunt. I have tried in the past to make myself quieter and behave like a 'lady', but i have largely given up now, as it always comes out in the end. I think it makes me look confident and probably arrogant at times (I didnt say it was a good thing)

    However, I wouldnt say this was for men only, as I have heard the same from women.
  • Matt_Wild
    Matt_Wild Posts: 2,673 Member
    When I was single I didn't approach women. I let them come to me. Less hassle and you know they are interested :smile:
  • placeboaddiction
    placeboaddiction Posts: 451 Member
    When they always yell "MOVE IT FOOTBALL HEAD!!"
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  • rob1976
    rob1976 Posts: 1,328 Member
    The more hot, the more difficult to approach. Plus, I never know if hey are already with someone. I hate when they say hey have a boyfriend or are married. So embarrassing.
    I think the absolute worst was the time I spent all night chatting up a girl and buying her drinks, then got old about her boyfriend when I asked for her number. That was the last night I ever bought a girl a drink.
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    How intimidating a girl is usually comes down to how good or bad the last girl before that responded. It's kind of hard to feel motivated to approach a girl when the overwhelming majority of them seem completely uninterested in you just because of the way you look. It sucks but most women are pretty dismissive unless a guy is super good looking or falls in to whatever nonsense category of attractiveness she has thing for.
  • vikkistarr89
    vikkistarr89 Posts: 122 Member
    I wouldn't call it intimidating, but rather in my case I grow to try to judge a girl's personality based on how she projects her appearance. I've grown to associate things like wearing high heels regularly, extensively styled hair, jewelry, lots of accessories, and just in general sacrificing practicality for style in the way they dress with personality traits that, to me, are negatives, so I don't bother. I'd sooner approach a girl in a Thundercats t-shirt, jeans, sneakers, and no makeup than I would a girl who was dressed to impress.

    EDIT: When a girl has something about her that makes one aware of common interests that makes approaches easy. I don't approach when I have nothing to talk about. But if I see a girl has something already in common with me before the approach, I have no qualms about approaching. Basically, I like it when a girl "wears" her hobbies. An example would be I ride motorcycles and I often wear my riding jacket as a casual jacket during cooler months. People who can tell a riding jacket apart from a regular one approach me for conversation regarding bikes. Same concept.

    I get what youre saying completely, however, I have hair extensions, acryllic nails, and like wearing heels, and I would say that I am not superficial more than the next person is. I wear these things because I like them, and it makes me feel more confident, as sometimes other people and myself even, make me feel like dirt because im bigger.

    Then again on other days ill wear converse (what make me look like 15 years old) and a band tshirt and a hoodie, but it makes no difference to my personality haha.

    I'm not moaning because I totally see what youre saying and I would probably make a judgement myself if i saw a tantastic girl with stilellos and a tiny dress on
  • Emma_Problema
    Emma_Problema Posts: 422 Member
    Haha. I'm socially awkward and quite tall. I've definitely heard men tell me "Oh, well I thought you were a b1tch and you scared me". I think being shy, I might give off the "don't you dare talk to me" vibe and I also tend to just enjoy talking to my friends when I'm in bars. Height is also definitely a factor too. I don't think it's that dudes don't want to date me because I'm tall (if you correct me on that, I will throat punch you!). They usually think I only date taller guys, when in reality it doesn't matter.
  • ACepero79
    ACepero79 Posts: 711 Member
    When the horns are showing through the hair.
  • jonnythan
    jonnythan Posts: 10,161 Member
    Haha. I'm socially awkward and quite tall. I've definitely heard men tell me "Oh, well I thought you were a b1tch and you scared me". I think being shy, I might give off the "don't you dare talk to me" vibe and I also tend to just enjoy talking to my friends when I'm in bars. Height is also definitely a factor too. I don't think it's that dudes don't want to date me because I'm tall (if you correct me on that, I will throat punch you!). They usually think I only date taller guys, when in reality it doesn't matter.

    Is it that dudes don't want to date you or they think you don't want to date them? Do you actually get turned down, and you think that's why?

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