What makes a girl intimidating?
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intimidating? Me? BWAHAHAHAHA...not a chance.
however that being said, I've been told that I am very very intimidating. I think mostly it's because I'm deaf (yes esclo and skully, I'm pulling THAT excuse again).
essentially, I'm that girl at the bar, lounge, grocery store, library, coffee shop,.....that you approach from behind, clear your throat and say hi....
and I don't even know you are there.....
I'm currently in a new relationship with a wonderful wonderful man. He said just this past weekend, that he was glad he worked up the nerve to talk to me. As he was certain I wouldn't give him a second of my time.....I was dumbfounded.
He then went on to say, the minute he said Hi, and I responded back with a Hi and a big smile, he knew things would be just fine.
sometimes, you have to just go for it.
oh and make sure they know you are there. if you are going to be too intimidated, they may not even know you were talking to them.
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I've never been too intimidated in making the first move on a woman. But that's because I'm so oblivious to things as such, I don't normally notice if anyone is looking my way and showing interest. Ha! Just ask my wife! She swears that I'm constantly being hit on or stared at. /dunno0
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So, its normal for guys to be afraid to approach a girl. Guys, just curious, what makes some girls more intimidating than others?
Its not the girl that is intimidating, it is one's own fear of rejection that is intimidating.
That's hard to overcome and true. I know for myself it was this 1000X's But it was all caused by low self esteem/Self worth. Even though I had no trouble talking to women and I have an outgoing personality I always felt terrified to take that assertive line.
Once I realized I was worth something to myself and stopped worrying about what others thought (Much easier to say than do) And realizing that you only get one life to live being assertive and taking what you want when you see it just comes naturally.0 -
guys never approach me. a lot of people say my looks are intimidating. not being cocky, just honest
how am i supposed to find a boyfriend
hi...you like peanutbutter?
why not0 -
I'm only intimidated by "women" that are so cut that they look like they lifted so hard their penis fell off. And, even then, it's not so much intimidation as it is me just not finding that attractive.
@Alex > I know sign language
Mine does, too. I don't see it...ever...Just ask my wife! She swears that I'm constantly being hit on or stared at.0 -
I've never been too intimidated in making the first move on a woman. But that's because I'm so oblivious to things as such, I don't normally notice if anyone is looking my way and showing interest. Ha! Just ask my wife! She swears that I'm constantly being hit on or stared at. /dunno
This too for me I got ZERO skills.0 -
I know this was meant for guys, but as a girl I used to be really intimidated by girls who were super attractive - or more like, high maintenance looking? Great hair, makeup, expensive clothes. That used to read as "mean" to me. It's funny that women are so pressured to look a certain way, and then immediately judged by it. Men are too, but I find that men are more easily forgiven for their appearance once they open their mouths. Maybe women are just more forgiving then men in this way?0
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How intimidating a girl is usually comes down to how good or bad the last girl before that responded. It's kind of hard to feel motivated to approach a girl when the overwhelming majority of them seem completely uninterested in you just because of the way you look. It sucks but most women are pretty dismissive unless a guy is super good looking or falls in to whatever nonsense category of attractiveness she has thing for.
Really? I think you're quite attractive! Real women love beards ;-) You'll find the right girl, don't worry.0 -
guys never approach me. a lot of people say my looks are intimidating. not being cocky, just honest how am i supposed to find a boyfriend
hi...you like peanutbutter?
why not
jiff or skippy?0 -
I have been told several times that I am intimidating and this surprises me. I am the least intimidating person I know because I am actually very shy! :laugh:
Good question OP, I'd like to know.0 -
In my experience it has always been the men who should not be intimidated that are, and the ones that should be that seem to have all the confindence in the world. People (men and women) seem to have a such a distorted view of their own self-worth, in both directions. That's why you always see those couples with one really nice person and one complete butt face and wonder how the heck they got together. It's kind of sad, actually...0
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In my experience it has always been the men who should not be intimidated that are, and the ones that should be that seem to have all the confindence in the world. People (men and women) seem to have a such a distorted view of their own self-worth, in both directions. That's why you always see those couples with one really nice person and one complete butt face and wonder how the heck they got together. It's kind of sad, actually...
I think it has a lot to do with how one is raised....If raised to be respectful and humble you will appear to be intimidated when you are merely being respectful....0 -
Let's see....
A few years back, I was in a car accident. Car near totaled and I in a neck brace. Boyfriend calls and ask if I could come see him. He lives about 3 hours away. I tell him I can't because I am in a neck brace and my car is in the shop. "How can I help you if you don't tell me that you are hurt?" he says.
Next month, brace now off, I slip in the tub and fractured three ribs. In lots of pain and on pain medication. Figure I will call boyfriend to let him know I am hurt even though I am perfectly able to take care of myself. Boyfriend gets sulky and keeps the conversation short.
Two weeks later, boyfriend calls and says that our relationship will not work. He needs...... a strong woman.
Now, what the hell am I? I get through a car accident, not calling him only to get yelled out about not calling him. So I call him the next time I am hurt and he gets all sulky on me. Says he needs a strong woman.
I have sky dived, breezed horses, raced cars, skied, mountain biked, etc. and he doesn't see me as being strong???!!!
I think the problem was that I was too strong for him and intimidated him. He's a wuz in my book.
I give up.
The problem was he just wasn't the right one. ;-) And a wuz.0 -
In my experience it has always been the men who should not be intimidated that are, and the ones that should be that seem to have all the confindence in the world.
You may be right in some cases. "Jerks" have little real confidence though - they simply have the illusion of of it which then attracts some women who, due to their own lack of self worth, stay with them longer then they should do for their own sake.
A doubt anyone with a healthy sense of self worth feels the need to continually out down their partner or control them just to make them selves feel better or keep them with them. Making said that I know a number of men who are not intimidated by women in the slightest who are also the nicest guys you could meet. They simply can handle dere bidness....0 -
What makes a woman more intimidating than anything else in the world is having a ring on her wedding finger, other than that, her hanging on a guy... I have boundaries, I respect them
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Success obviously...
If only you were older...0 -
I'm shy and kind of oblivious. I don't get hit on hardly ever but my boyfriend and others say I get stared at all the time. I think I do give off a vibe that says don't talk to me when really I'm just a little awkward, especially if someone comes up and actually does hit on me.
On our first date I was absolutely infatuated with my boyfriend and had a great time. He thought I didn't like him and was surprised I wanted to go out again. Woops haha.0 -
I get stared at occasionally but never approached.0
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Im the queen of giving off that vibe. Im really shy and dont like embarrassing myself in public. If someone can break through my wall Im very friendly. Just because someone looks stuck up, doesnt mean they are.Not typically intimated approaching a female. I actually find it a challenge to approach one that gives off the "I'm too good to talk to you vibe"
Shouldn't be such of a game, but at times it is.
Why would you even want to approach a girl that gives off that vibe?!!?!?
Yes. THIS^^^0 -
I get stared at occasionally but never approached.
This reminded me of my other thing, YOUTH. If you look to young for me... Not intimidating at all, but definately something that will keep me from approaching.0 -
intelligence... hands down.
When a guy who's not your type approaches me and starts talking to me.. ending the conversation usually is much easier if I step up the conversation a notch in the intelligence level..0 -
Girls aren't as intimadating as I am a shy. Meh.0
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intelligence... hands down.
When a guy who's not your type approaches me and starts talking to me.. ending the conversation usually is much easier if I step up the conversation a notch in the intelligence level..
You are skipping a huge problem...Approach and conversation. you cant determine intelligence without that...Generally0 -
intelligence... hands down.
When a guy who's not your type approaches me and starts talking to me.. ending the conversation usually is much easier if I step up the conversation a notch in the intelligence level..
You are skipping a huge problem...Approach and conversation. you cant determine intelligence without that...Generally
Conversation is easy. Approach is hard.0 -
The fact that she doesn't date men.
Seriously happened to me yesterday! Great conversation over coffee though.0 -
Do that to me and I'll be humping your leg in no time.intelligence... hands down.
When a guy who's not your type approaches me and starts talking to me.. ending the conversation usually is much easier if I step up the conversation a notch in the intelligence level..0 -
I've been told I look like a ball breaker. And the tatts are off putting. I figure that weeds out the wimps anyway.0
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I've been told I look like a ball breaker. And the tatts are off putting. I figure that weeds out the wimps anyway.
pfff, tats are like a magnet to me. dye your hair some unnatural color and I'm an instant stalker.0 -
I've been told I look like a ball breaker. And the tatts are off putting. I figure that weeds out the wimps anyway.
pfff, tats are like a magnet to me. dye your hair some unnatural color and I'm an instant stalker.
You missed that phase. I can't get away with fire-engine red hair in the corporate world, for some reason...0 -
I too have never been approached or even stared or gawked at... and only once was I told by someone (who ended up being a friend of a friend) that I was intimidating.... being married now, obviously stopped that, but when you go out with the girls... sometimes just to wonder if you've 'still got it', ya know?0
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