Online Dating, Yay or Nay

kimad

Every woman I talk to says the same thing. It goes something like this:

'Oh my God...! This site is EXHAUSTING!! I'm thinking of deleting it because it's so overwhelming!!'

Here's a few quotes from the OP and another woman on this thread alone:

So yep, it's confirmed. Damn, I shouldn't have opened this thread. Was feeling really good today.

If you're defective, so am I.

But guys apparently get few messages and girls get a *kitten* ton. I'm a girl who got, like, four messages in four months despite being active on various sites.

I have guy friends that get tons...yet I get almost none.

It is what it is...letting something like that determine how you feel about yourself is a really poorly chosen path. I've been single two years now, excepting the few short episodes I listed earlier in this thread. I've had total *kitten* friends go through ten girls I'd have happily dated in that same time period. I could misconstrue this to mean something is wrong with me, I'm ugly, I'm a horrible person, or any of a dozen other reasons that stem from who I am. I don't really think that's it though, and the last thing in the world I'd do...is let it effect my self worth.

You shouldn't either!!

Differences aside from the Body Pump thread, I think the problem with people feeling that way about you on MFP is becuase they have gotten to know you here... they know your healthy liftstyle, what makes you tick, how you can motivate, your interests blah blah... online dating you get a one shot deal, you don't get the friendships you have formed here. MFP should be a dating site

I'm no different in my day to day life than I am here. Matter of fact, I'm no different anywhere on the internet lol. My screen name here is my screen name pretty much everywhere...for a reason. You mentioned the body pump thread...which is kind of funny, because threads like those are pretty much why I have the friends I do have on MFP lol. Kinda ironic to be honest.

I do agree about MFP being a dating site though, and it pretty much is in a very large way. Sooooo many people have met their husbands and wives here, it's great .

I agree, and people shouldn't be who they are not - no matter what site they are on. When I was poking fun at you, I was kidding hence the HAHAHA.... Teeley told me it wasn't nice, so I apologize. I still maintain my stance though on that thread :P and I just did BP tonight! Nonetheless, I am sure people have hooked up on this site, I have met wonderful ladies from my city... no men yet though! I am paying Eharmony for that, I wish they'd give me a good one!