Online Dating, Yay or Nay

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  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
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    I've heard there is some women hating/bashing going on here. Do i get three guesses as to who started it?
    Oh wait..i don't need three.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
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    Some of us have had bad experiences in life...Why should that dictate the here and now? So you got the shaft, I have too. Engaged to 1Concrete a while back, not any more. *kitten* happens man. Move on, I don't get it.

    If only we had ever met. :cry:
  • Admiral_Derp
    Admiral_Derp Posts: 866 Member
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    Any man who begrudges a woman the right to have a standard for physical attraction forfeits his own right to have one for women as well. Physical attraction is not the be all/end all, but it's a biological fact that we all have certain physical attributes that we find attractive. If it weren't then the pornography industry would go broke. Lust is not predicated on the ethics and intelligence of other people. Granted, lust is only one small aspect of a relationship, but it is an important aspect. We combine it with everything else to determine whether or not we want relationships to continue. However, it is a very real and valid catalyst.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
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    And I'm pretty damn hot now.

    Word.

    I see you creepin' me. Keep going. I likes it.

    Wait, you aren't overweight, are you? :laugh:

    Not if I get taller.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
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    I'm fat.

    All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

    But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...
  • _crafty_
    _crafty_ Posts: 1,682 Member
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    I'm fat.

    All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

    But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...

    *swoon*
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
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    I'm fat.

    All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

    But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...

    it's the truth....

    we FALL over ourselves to get to Tyler.....(sorry Dani...just.....sorry...)
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
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    I'm fat.

    All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

    But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...


    You know I dream about you all the time. Well, mostly just that one time, but it was great.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
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    I'm fat.

    All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

    But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...

    Tyler, get off the Internet and come back to bed!
  • _Pseudonymous_
    _Pseudonymous_ Posts: 1,671 Member
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    Thanks everyon for your helpful posts and the entertainment you have brought me throughout this day

    Oh
    there are so many things wrong with this that I don't even know where to start. :noway:

    ^^^ Except for you... your comment smells of judgment and the tears of a thousand african children...
  • csuhar
    csuhar Posts: 779 Member
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    Online dating for men: Send out 10,000 letters. Get one response.

    Online dating for women: Receive 10,000 letters. Respond to only hottest guys.

    It does seem that way sometimes. I know I usually look through multiple profiles that are sent my way each day, and the sites say I'm "looked at" maybe once a week, if that often. (I don't know if they define "look at" differently from me.) Then I send out multiple "I'm interested" or "icebreaker" type messages and usually get one in maybe every couple months. But I guess that's part of the challenge of doing things online- it's hard to tell who's "active" and who's really looking at whom. At least at a bar, coffee shop, concert, etc., you can usually tell if someone is 1) there, and 2) if they're already talking to a potential romantic interest, even if they aren't formally in any relationship.



    Personally, I don't look at it so much as online dating as online meeting. To me, it is simply as a method to replace school and AUGMENT work or social activities as venues for meeting other singles. And I use it for many of the same reasons the OP mentioned. The demographics and rules of my job generally prevent me from meeting people at work, my workload makes it hard to have a predictable social life, and the eligible women who go to my church are few and far between, if present at all.


    Vetting, making sure a person is who they say they are, is the biggest challenge of the online systems. Yes, people can lie to you in-person, too. But at least there is a living, breathing person in front of you. Online, it can be a challenge to know if a profile is tied to a person at all. More than a few of those rare icebreakers / winks I've recieved came from false profiles of "women" who said "I'm not a member on this site, but you can find me on [insert rival dating site here] so we can talk". Plus, it's easy for them to use the distance and, honestly, anonymity of meeting onine to scam others.


    As far as the various sites, I find much of it can boil down to stylistic opinions. I like the convenience of match.com's search capabilities and the ability to change my settings (changing "has kids" to "no kids", for example) and have immediate updates on the matches, but some of the matches they find makes you wonder if anyone actually read your profile. eHarmony tends to have solid matches, but the matching system is obnoxious, there's no way to search the current "pool", change your criteria and have immediate results, or search through the profiles they find for you by anything other than name and location.


    So online dating is DEFINITELY a valid way to meet people. But it isn't a magic bullet that's guaranteed to find you "the one" and it still doesn't replace face-time.
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
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    I'm fat.

    All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

    But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...

    it's the truth....

    we FALL over ourselves to get to Tyler.....(sorry Dani...just.....sorry...)

    Back the FCK up bishes!!!! :angry:
  • UrbanLotus
    UrbanLotus Posts: 1,163 Member
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    If you want to date now, you should date now. I don't know why you would wait till you're at your goal weright, why let life pass you by?

    About online dating, literally every single person I know does/has done it, I think its great. It is just another way to meet someone, I don't understand why anyone would have an issue with it. At least this way you know some basics about the person before going out with them - when you meet a guy at a bar or something you don't know anything! Just be safe & meet them soon.
  • fishsticks913
    fishsticks913 Posts: 123 Member
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    I did the POF.. and met one of the most amazing men of my life and we had a great 3.5 months together..... Had we met under different "times" I think we would have worked out. Neither of us were final in our divorces yet and then I finalized and he is still in the process and we are at "different stages" in our life.... Sad.....honestly... BUT we are still friends and have learned a ton from each other in this little journal.
    If the stars align align and things work out in the future...who knows.... but if not, I will keep him as a friend forever... and always.

    I have thought about jumping back on.... but don't think I am ready honestly and just want to see where things in real life go and be me for a while.
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
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    I'm fat.

    All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

    But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...

    :laugh: :drinker:
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
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    I'm fat.

    All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

    But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...

    I'm actually considering putting on a few pounds to be more like Tyler.
    I'm all jealous of his bishes.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
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    I'm fat.

    All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

    But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...

    I'm actually considering putting on a few pounds to be more like Tyler.
    I'm all jealous of his bishes.

    It's the attitude man....but you seem to be doing good there. When I am done, I will send them your way....
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
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    I'm fat.

    All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

    But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...

    I'm actually considering putting on a few pounds to be more like Tyler.
    I'm all jealous of his bishes.

    It's the attitude man....but you seem to be doing good there. When I am done, I will send them your way....

    thankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyouthankyou
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
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    I'm fat.

    All the ladies on my friends list want me...it's ridic how much I have to fend them off...

    But, my attitude for the most part is awesome...

    I'm actually considering putting on a few pounds to be more like Tyler.
    I'm all jealous of his bishes.

    It's the attitude man....but you seem to be doing good there. When I am done, I will send them your way....
    You can't send me anywhere, i go where i want. And we'll never be done Tyler. NEVER.
  • psych0kitty
    psych0kitty Posts: 313
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    A whopping YAY from me. I met my husband on okcupid.com

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