What size is sexy? MEN PLEASE!
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Your husband wins this debate. Any man that thinks his wife is hot and sexy wins all the prizes. If I were you, I'd accept his love and affection and not come onto the internet and ask random strangers to validate your belief that you aren't hot.
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Personally I like em big and thick...wait we're talking about women? Shoot I got nothing add then lol0
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I swear, size doesn't matter.
Wait, what was the question?0 -
I have to pick just one size? LOL My only rule is if I can't pick it up don't take it home. I'm sure it's pretty much the same for most guys. All the ones bragging about their deadlift numbers know what I'm talking about.
lmfao...... now THAT's a good rule ! :laugh:0 -
This is a great question for Men OR Women as the answer would be the same... if you have confidence in yourself inside, outward, career wise etc. etc., you're the most beautiful person in the world!
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I'll tell you what is not sexy....insecure women seeking validation from men.
Not seeking validation as much as I'm just taking a general poll....being stuck up is also not sexy! Get over yourself!
Was it the arrow pointing to myself as the size of sexy or my comment about insecure women that makes me stuck up? Or maybe a combination of both?
There was nothing stuck up about my comment. You come across as a women who cares too much about being visually appealing to men (the "MEN PLEASE!") in your title is what brought me to this judgement. My comment was my opinion which I rarely hold back..especially on thread asking for opinions and posted on a public forum.
OP if you knew anything about Dani, you would know that at the heart of her comments she's just saying that you have to believe in yourself and your own sexiness....
she's right you come off as a little desperate for validation.....not only by the title thread as Dani posted but also by how dismissive you were about your boyfriends opinion that you are the same shape as the dancer....and your worry about finding sexy lingerie for your party....
obviously your SO thinks you are sexy....and the sexiest people I know aren't the people that wear the sexiest things...its the people that walk like they KNOW they are the sexiest things....and those people have been all shapes and sizes...
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"Sexy" isn't determined by size... Society needs to stop with their constant objectification of both women and men, it's disgusting! Love people for who they are, not what they look like0
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To correct my previous comment and by request:
Hot bendy ones.0 -
I didn't see her post as seeking validation at all, I seen it more like a curiosity question following a conversation she had.
IMO you can not judge by sizes, any more than you can judge by weight, a skinny fat size 5 and a fit size 5 are worlds apart.0 -
DH says I could be in porn (and he doesn't mean it literally, but he says there are a lot of body types like mine) -- he is attracted to bodies that are not stick thin, nor big. I have a booty -- enough to grab onto + boobies (thanks to breastfeeding)...
From his perspective, it's not attractive when a woman is super vain and he also doesn't like a ton of make-up.
I would be happy if I were you and he finds you attractive because that's a good thing.
And I'm sure other guys surely find you attractive too.
I have always suffered from low self esteem and I do feel better about myself now that I'm working out -- I do still think people are kidding when they compliment me, so I'm trying to just be okay with myself and hold my head up high, but not too high. LOL! :happy:0 -
Sexy isn't about size, which is a good thing since it would appear that no two clothing manufacturers can agree on what constitutes which size... and since most guys couldn't tell you what size a woman wears -- even if they live with her -- I don't think the men you're expecting to answer are going to be able to answer the question accurately the way it is posed.
I think, since you gave your measurements, that you are more likely asking, "Can I be as sexy as I think an adult performer looks at my size?" and the answer is YES, because your sexiness is not some act you are putting on: you are a newlywed who loves her husband -- no matter what a stripper might appear to be feeling, she is at WORK. I've known several in my lifetime and they talk about their jobs the same way everybody else does...
When you come on to your husband, I'm quite sure you get the reaction you're looking for (or you wouldn't have married him, amirite?)... but if you're specifically wondering if men other than the one you married think you are attractive, I think you are going to get the answer that every single woman on this site would get: some do, some don't. And while it's sweet that so many people have basically said "your husband does and that's all that matters," the truth is YOU need to and the rest will just fall right into place.
Personally, my "size" is bigger than yours. I've never had a problem being sexy.0 -
I should also mention that I work in the adult entertainment industry (no, not as a performer) so my view of what other people view as sexy might be a little skewed and this is the reason for the post!0
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IMO you can not judge by sizes, any more than you can judge by weight, a skinny fat size 5 and a fit size 5 are worlds apart.
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To correct my previous comment and by request:
Hot bendy ones.
This appears to be a correct statement.0 -
I was surprised to hear this too - my boyfriend told me the other day that he is more into girls who are a bit more "fluffy?". He referred to "plus size models" so not obese females, but more average. 0
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as a self-proclaimed connoisseur of women --- sexy is in the personality more than the body
I have been with women from a size 4-20 ... each one sexy in her own right. It is all in how you carry yourself, your attitude --- for me way more important than clothing size.0 -
We are brought up told that ALL men love the whole size zero thing, and while some do, it is definitely not true for all...
I have always been slim buy pretty curvy too, wide hips, a pretty huge *kitten* etc. Thankfully, my boyfriend loves this... I always stress over being the skinniest etc, but I would hate if I actually was too skinny.
Most men are more repulsed by extreme skinniness than natural female curvature, I find.
As long as your other half loves you and thinks your sexy, you don't have to worry, but I see why you would be curious to ask this question, I always wonder what goes on in the minds of the other gender too!0 -
Every man is different. I like around 7-10 but that doesn't mean I wouldn't like smaller or bigger. Depends on the person, their mind, mental attraction. The things that matter more then looks.
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DH says I could be in porn
I would watch your video
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Sexy = proportionate. Body type be what it may, someone who takes reasonable care of herself and has self-respect is attractive. Major bonus points for IQ > 130. =P
"Skinny fat" (you know, the size 0 that just lets herself go) is not as attractive as a well-taken-care-of size 16 (think Christina Hendricks).0 -
This is so so sexy to me. But I don't think its so much from looks or size itself, but more from her being able to be so strong while looking laid back and pretty in clothes... Which is super intimidating and that makes it sexy.
Honestly, though: Most any healthy size can be attractive. Personality, the way you dress and the way you carry yourself matter most to me.0 -
"Sexy isn't about size, which is a good thing since it would appear that no two clothing manufacturers can agree on what constitutes which size... and since most guys couldn't tell you what size a woman wears -- even if they live with her -- I don't think the men you're expecting to answer are going to be able to answer the question accurately the way it is posed."
I was pretty much going to say exactly that. Women give men a lot more credit than they deserve when it comes to knowing sizes, weight, etc. Most normal men don't instantly zero in on your pooch or a little bit of back fat when you get naked, either. Until you point out your flaws to him, he probably doesn't see them/is too worried about his own.
When it comes to lingerie, just think about the parts of your body that you like. I have good legs/boobs for my size, so I like babydoll nighties (IMHO, a corset on a fat tummy may look okay on, but when you get it off it's gonna look all red and creasy; not cute!). It sounds like you are self conscious about your legs, so maybe try a full length gown deep V neckline or something with color blocked panels on the sides. Being in the adult industry, you yourself must know how much illusion affects what is sexy.http://www.celebrateyoursexy.com/lingerie-thursday-dress-your-shape-series-pear/ 0 -
Ok, I didn't read it all, but I think the issue at the heart of the matter is.
A) did you fill out an application at the strip club?
Your husband is obviously wanting you to put a stripper pole in the bedroom and take pole dancing lessons.
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Someone already said this I am sure but why does it matter? Your husband said you were sexy for being you. It doesnt matter what others think is sexy.0
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DH says I could be in porn
I would watch your video
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I dont think there is anything wrong with u asking this. It doesnt mean ur not sexy or ur insecure just because u asked this. And some people say it doesnt matter as long as ur husband thinks u look great. well every woman still likes to know they still have the goods regardless if they are married or not. I dont think u posted this for men to say stuff to u. It was just a wonder:)0
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Ok, I didn't read it all, but I think the issue at the heart of the matter is.
A) did you fill out an application at the strip club? Your husband is obviously wanting you to put a stripper pole in the bedroom and take pole dancing lessons.
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You might want to read a little further between the lines. She's in the adult entertainment business. Stripper poles in the bedroom are probably a little too vanilla for this couple.
But OP, if your guy finds you sexy then that's all you need to hear. Not much else should matter.0 -
Ok. So, my husband and I got into this debate this weekend after we went to the strip club. He thinks that women built like me are sexy (kinda nice, huh?!). I'm a size 12 with enormous hips, thunder thighs, and 38DD. He seemed to think that the stripper that he though was doing the most personal dances was close to my size (I didn't seem to think so, but he could have been right). We're going to a lingerie party in a few weeks and I'd like to wear something revealing, but I'm also a little nervous about being super self-conscious....
So, my question is, what size and body type are you attracted to?
Your husband thinks you're sexy, what more confirmation do you need? 0 -
I dont think there is anything wrong with u asking this. It doesnt mean ur not sexy or ur insecure just because u asked this. And some people say it doesnt matter as long as ur husband thinks u look great. well every woman still likes to know they still have the goods regardless if they are married or not. I dont think u posted this for men to say stuff to u. It was just a wonder:) Exactly! 0
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Is there room for a second crush? I second that motion...:drinker:
Yes pleaseI'm not a guy, but I like girls, so I'm just going to butt on in right about now.
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Also, I'm about to sound superduper shallow.
For me, it's not about size it's about shape. I've seen some size 10s that are rocking a flat tummy, curves, and just an overall thickness, very nice.
I also have a friend who is a size 4, she had a baby recently, she has the same tummy pouch I have. Not to say that it's not cute (I think they're cute, and the story behind them makes me melt, I love babies) but if we're talking lingerie parties and strip clubs, I'd rather see my size 10 friend.
So like I said, for a lot of guys (and girls) it's not about the size or weight, it's about what they look like naked.
ALL THAT BEING SAID. Confidence = sexy. Gimme a size 14 in a corset and some thigh highs and I'm set to go, okayyyy.
Can I have a crush on you? (:
:B :flowerforyou:0
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