Why do people say men and women can't be platonic friends?
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I wonder this myself. I have mostly male friends and very few female friends. As far as I can tell my male friends only think of me as a friend. But who knows. It definitely has happened a few different times where a male friend has confessed his attraction for me. I hope they are not all my friends just because of my boobs :frown:
we would need to see those to tell you. prolly tho' the answer is yes. do you have a magic 8 ball lying around to help you decide?0 -
I can be friends with women.
If they're attractive I'll probably want to sleep with them.
If they're not attractive then I probably won't.
I just assumed that's how it works for you ladies as well . . .
Pretty much. That's why most men can be friends with me.
Teresa.... do I need to spank you today? I would bang in a heartbeat!0 -
I live with my worst guy friend who used to be my best guy friend until paleo.
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Men and women can be friends.
Men and women cannot be close friends without an obstacle between them, i.e. SO, work connections, any other excuse that she can come up with... LOL!0 -
I don't know, but I hate that. I have some very close male friends and some of my lady friends always feel the need to comment on it.0
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i have several male friends who have never been anything other than that: friends. it is very likely that either they or i have, at some point in time, been attracted to and entertained the idea of taking things a little further with the other. i think it helps to try to befriend people who you aren't attracted to at all...but that makes me sound shallow.
^THIS^
This is a very common delusion. Women simply don't understand the male mind. We do nothing for women without at least a 0.5% hope that sex will come of it.0 -
...........You can not have a man friend as a platonic friend.
If you have a friend there is a reason for it and male/female is because of an attraction/physical/sexual
If female/female it is because of empathy/attraction/physical/envy and sometimes sexual.
This is the short version
Negative, ghost rider.
a friend is someone that you are emotionally attached to? It is a relationship.
A friend is someone that you share thoughts etc with.
You can have male/female acquaintances that you hang out with, but they are not friends. You can be friendly with these` friends` but IMO to have someone that you call a friend takes a lot of time and care.0 -
I disagree as well. I was over in China for 4 months and was close friends with several of my coworkers who were there long term as well. There were late night dinners, drinks, commutes, and working in pairs or as a larger group. There was the occasional good natured flirt, but no serious moves on anyone's part.
I'm also good friends with another couple, both the man and the woman. I probably wouldn't hang out with him, just the two of us though.0 -
All of you women who believe that you can have male friends who don't want to bang you, ignorance is bliss.
Agreed. Some of us know better though.0 -
I have loads of women friends who are great mates!!!0
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Grown ups. It's a good thing.
Yes. I've had male friends (both straight and gay) and while yes, many have probably wanted to hook up, there are at least some who have not. And even of those who have wanted to, most kept it to themselves. Even so, occasionally thinking you want to "tap that" doesn't mean you can't be friends.
To quote, Grown ups. It's a good thing.
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All of you women who believe that you can have male friends who don't want to bang you, ignorance is bliss.
It doesn't matter if men "want" it. What matters is if the relationship remains without sex. THAT'S the definition of "platonic". 0 -
All of you women who believe that you can have male friends who don't want to bang you, ignorance is bliss.
yes. bliss for the men they are friends with. but guys try this trick. tell your female friends your gay. they'll change their tops in front of you. i did. and also showed him my pants tags inside the jeans and etc. etc... etc..... forever. like i would never go up to a male coworker and be all damn my jeans feel tight today i think i bought the wrong size they are riding up my snatch, can you see the tag and hold out my jeans for him to look down my pants. ever. never ever. but gay male friend/coworker. suddenly ok. wha?0 -
I disagree... I only want to bang 64.82% of the guys on my FL.
Sorry, 35.18%.0 -
Grown ups. It's a good thing.
Yes. I've had male friends (both straight and gay) and while yes, many have probably wanted to hook up, there are at least some who have not. And even of those who have wanted to, most kept it to themselves. Even so, occasionally thinking you want to "tap that" doesn't mean you can't be friends.
To quote, Grown ups. It's a good thing.
I agree0 -
Friggin love this....lmao!!!I have made out with every single one of my male friends. Except my husbands brother... because he is not my friend. Yet.0 -
All of you women who believe that you can have male friends who don't want to bang you, ignorance is bliss.
We can agree to disagree. You cannot group all men together. And I don't consider myself to be ignorant either. I just tend to want to know reasons behind things, and wanted some other perspectives.0 -
i have several male friends who have never been anything other than that: friends. it is very likely that either they or i have, at some point in time, been attracted to and entertained the idea of taking things a little further with the other. i think it helps to try to befriend people who you aren't attracted to at all...but that makes me sound shallow.
^THIS^
This is a very common delusion. Women simply don't understand the male mind. We do nothing for women without at least a 0.5% hope that sex will come of it.
no matter the motivation, if nothing happens, by definition it's platonic.
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/platonic love0 -
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...........You can not have a man friend as a platonic friend.
If you have a friend there is a reason for it and male/female is because of an attraction/physical/sexual
If female/female it is because of empathy/attraction/physical/envy and sometimes sexual.
This is the short version
Negative, ghost rider.
Excellent response; much more creative than anything I could come up with. And I wholeheartedly agree.
My best guy friend is gay, so that would explain the lack of interest LOL. However, I have several other male friends who I am just platonic friends with. No attraction on either of our parts.
I've also had male friends in the past where we did take things a step further and became, or attempted to become, more than friends. Sometimes it worked, sometimes not so much.
Either I'm hideously ugly so none of my hetero (and single) guy friends are attracted to me, or sometimes men and women CAN be "just friends."0 -
I think without an attraction, there's nothing to prevent people of the opposite sex from being friends. That's absurd. It doesn't take into account sexual preference either.0
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I'm sorry you have such horrible experiences with the opposite sex.
...........You can not have a man friend as a platonic friend.
If you have a friend there is a reason for it and male/female is because of an attraction/physical/sexual
If female/female it is because of empathy/attraction/physical/envy and sometimes sexual.
This is the short version
Negative, ghost rider.
a friend is someone that you are emotionally attached to? It is a relationship.
A friend is someone that you share thoughts etc with.
You can have male/female acquaintances that you hang out with, but they are not friends. You can be friendly with these` friends` but IMO to have someone that you call a friend takes a lot of time and care.
Hell, it sounds like you've had horrible experiences with friends period.
I can say, with certainty, that one of my best friends, who is male, has no desire to sleep with me, nor I with him.
Your personal experience is not the rule, so don't say that just because that's how it worked out for you, that's how it is for everyone. It's simply not true.0 -
i have several male friends who have never been anything other than that: friends. it is very likely that either they or i have, at some point in time, been attracted to and entertained the idea of taking things a little further with the other. i think it helps to try to befriend people who you aren't attracted to at all...but that makes me sound shallow.
^THIS^
This is a very common delusion. Women simply don't understand the male mind. We do nothing for women without at least a 0.5% hope that sex will come of it.
no matter the motivation, if nothing happens, by definition it's platonic.
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/platonic love
Thank you.0 -
We can all feign ignorance here, but we know that this is about the size of the woman's butt.Because its true.0 -
So the guy at work is just pretending to be my friend? He really wants to bang me? That sheds a whole new light on things.0
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I can be just friends with men. Yes you might find the person attractive but you can still just be friends.0
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Grown ups. It's a good thing.
Yes. I've had male friends (both straight and gay) and while yes, many have probably wanted to hook up, there are at least some who have not. And even of those who have wanted to, most kept it to themselves. Even so, occasionally thinking you want to "tap that" doesn't mean you can't be friends.
To quote, Grown ups. It's a good thing.0 -
Because woman are beautiful creations and we cant help being attracted to them
This is why I cannot be platonic friends with men OR women...
Can I get an amen?!0 -
I've had numerous "platonic" relationships with women...yes, technically they were "platonic" as nothing ever happened, but that didn't mean I never thought about getting into their panties. I can't recall ever having a platonic relationship with a female that I wasn't at some point attracted to...I've wanted to bang them all.0
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Using my own personal experience, I believe they can, too. BUT I think its easier if they have never been lovers. I tried to be friends with guys I was intimate with in the past but it only lasted until they realized they weren't getting it from me anymore.0
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