Help! my husband wont let me lift heavy weights
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screw that! He is just afraid you will get stronger than him... Lift big anyway. It's way more fun!0
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Tell him to suck it up and stop his whining. It is YOUR body so you are free to do what you want.
You are a grown woman. LIft if you want to.0 -
What a great husband. Glad to hear that men still have "ownership" over women. :huh:0
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Show him pics of women who lift who aren't bulky. If he doesn't stop complaining, then stop talking to him about it or tell him you're doing Zumba instead and don't bring it up again. It's a silly thing to argue about and, unless he's some crazy controlling freak like he will inevitably be judged to be in this thread, it just doesn't matter.0
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wow0
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This can work for you. Make him lift all the weight around the house to help keep your muscles small and dainty.0
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My partner thinks he doesn't like the look of women that lift either, but like many he has a completely uneducated opinion of what women that lift look like. Having said that, he hasn't tried to stop me and would never dream of it, unless it was affecting my health. In fact he readily supports me despite his opinion, because he loves me and regardless of what he thinks, his main concern is my happiness.
Your partner should be supportive of you even if you want to become a professional body builder. It's your body, it's your health, it's your life. Do what you want to do and prove him wrong.0 -
Sigh.....just do it. If he complains, tell him you're not going to get bulky and that he needs to educate himself.
Then...lift and get hot. :bigsmile:0 -
I understand not wanting to put strain on a relationship you value. Just tell him that it is so so much easier to lose muscle than to gain it, and if you start to look "too bulky" then you can stop. It definitely can't happen by accident!0
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He's not the boss of you. Do it, anyway. You can even get "bulky" if you want to, because it's your body!! Although it may take you several years to get there. I'm actively trying to add muscle mass, and it didn't happen overnight... (yes, that is me in my user picture. I am a horse person hybrid IRL)0
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Just break up and get a man who knows...stuff!0
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Sounds like you just need to educate your husband is all. I wish my wife would lift heavy...but she does lift.0
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My boyfriend tried to discourage me at first. I persevered. Now he thinks it's great. The thing of it is, you aren't going to get "that look he doesn't like" unless you are deliberately trying and being extremely strict with diet and supplements. It just ain't going to happen. What you will get is sexy.
I have only been lifting for a couple of months, but I can tell you that the results I have gotten are better than a year of cardio. And I like it. And I only have to do it three times a week. And I am starting to look really good, and I feel amazing and strong and confident. Don't let anybody stop you if this is what you want to do.0 -
Your husband won't LET you??
Think about that for a while.... then go lift something heavy.
lol... this.0 -
You lost me at "my husband wont let me" - that'd be reason enough for me to do it a whole bunch.
Pretty much my attitude, too.0 -
My husband didn't like the idea when I mentioned I was lifting weights.. But guess what? I do what I wanna do.
He has to admit that he likes the way it's making my bod look as I lose weight, though he still bristles a bit when I talk about exactly how much I lift and the fact that I want to be stronger.
I think it's pretty funny that he's intimidated by this, so I always make it a point to talk about just how much weight I lifted each day I come home from the gym, LOL.
Yeah, your body. Lift if you want to! I don't even know why you have to discuss it with him. Just go do it. :drinker:0 -
Do it anyways.0
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There's a few success stories on here doing New Rules of Lifting for Women - some stunning girls with amazing bodies. Show him those - they're not bulked up... e.g:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/733029-no-weight-loss-or-body-fat-loss-after-2-weeks-on-insanity
That book has great information about how heavy lifting improves the lenght and quality of our lives in so many ways. You should read it with him. My hubby thinks it's cool that I can squat my body weight.
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My husband and I were in the same boat, so I have dumb bells and do it at home.0
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Just go to the gym and tell him you're just doing cardio like a good girl.
What if she wants to be a bad girl? :laugh: :devil:0 -
HAH! If my husband ever tried to prevent me from doing something I wanted I would pee on his gaming computer.
Ridiculous! It is your life, darlin'.0 -
wow
That's right, use light words. Don't want your mouth getting bulky.0 -
Do it...he'll get over it.0
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I can't say here what I would say if my SO told me I couldn't do something that is healthy for me.
So I will simply say: Your body, your preference.0 -
My wife won't let me sleep with other women!
Well, after reading this thread, damn her! It's my body and I will do as I please. She can't tell me what to do.
Compromise. Pah...0 -
I had to join a gym and not tell my wife for a few months. she hates when I go for a run.
I mean just go do it and eventually he will come around, just don't admit you were cheating on him with gym.0 -
My wife won't let me sleep with other women!
Well, after reading this thread, damn her! It's my body and I will do as I please. She can't tell me what to do.
Compromise. Pah...
Cheating on your partner is completely different as you are harming someone else. No comparison whatsoever.0 -
Let might be the wrong word but he gripes and nags if i do
Yeah, I get you. There is a lot of give and take in a marriage. Why not try finding pics or videos of women that lift heavy and aren't what he considers bulky? Find some pics that better represent your personal goals.
Now, if you what you showed him is your personal goal and he doesn't like it, then you'll likely just have to listen to the gripes.0 -
My wife won't let me sleep with other women!
Well, after reading this thread, damn her! It's my body and I will do as I please. She can't tell me what to do.
Compromise. Pah...
Cheating on your partner is completely different as you are harming someone else. No comparison whatsoever.
Disregarding your partner's feelings or dismissing their insecurities out of hand is harmful to someone else: your partner.
All this posturing is utter nonsense.0 -
My wife won't let me sleep with other women!
Well, after reading this thread, damn her! It's my body and I will do as I please. She can't tell me what to do.
Compromise. Pah...
Cheating on your partner is completely different as you are harming someone else. No comparison whatsoever.
Your husband must enjoy some rough sex...0
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