623lbs, Trying to Get Going Again

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  • NatureWildchild
    NatureWildchild Posts: 16 Member
    Dani - God Bless ya girl! Keep the focus! You definitely got a pom-pom shake from me for you. Forgive me if you or someone else has already mentioned it.. but you can have some factors controlling this that need identified and are fighting against you. The thyroid of course, is a little stinker for dragging you through weight hell that leaves you baffled. The most sneakiest though, is meds that the doctor has you on to "help" you with whatever conditions you are battling. I personally gained 20lbs in ONE WEEK that way (and that chub don't come off just by stopping those meds), so you can just guess how THAT next doctor visit went!! Getting your daily calories lowered (as well as the water retention sodium) is definitely important yes.. but I've found if you don't exercise at all - you basically maintain and don't visually lose much. Where mobility is an issue, you've got to adapt to what CAN be done - such as water aerobics, or upper body weight exercises or lower body leg lifts while sitting on the couch. I hope that helps .. thinking outside of the box, because that's where the view is. :wink:
  • SanteMulberry
    SanteMulberry Posts: 3,202 Member
    Dani - God Bless ya girl! Keep the focus! You definitely got a pom-pom shake from me for you. Forgive me if you or someone else has already mentioned it.. but you can have some factors controlling this that need identified and are fighting against you. The thyroid of course, is a little stinker for dragging you through weight hell that leaves you baffled. The most sneakiest though, is meds that the doctor has you on to "help" you with whatever conditions you are battling. I personally gained 20lbs in ONE WEEK that way (and that chub don't come off just by stopping those meds), so you can just guess how THAT next doctor visit went!! Getting your daily calories lowered (as well as the water retention sodium) is definitely important yes.. but I've found if you don't exercise at all - you basically maintain and don't visually lose much. Where mobility is an issue, you've got to adapt to what CAN be done - such as water aerobics, or upper body weight exercises or lower body leg lifts while sitting on the couch.

    Yes^^^THIS^^^ I started doing dumbbell presses and chair aerobics before I started doing pool workouts. Exercise is pretty essential for dropping body fat (and the more you drop, the easier exercise gets).
  • miracle4me
    miracle4me Posts: 522 Member
    I read your Diary and noticed Dani you are lacking in fruits and veggies and this means you appear to be lacking in getting enough fiber a day. I suggest like others you up your fruits, veggies and protein. I did see you have salads on some days and that is one way you are helping yourself to get the fiber.

    I just had home made beef stew for lunch with a piece of baguette bread,lightly buttered and thought of you. Do you like Stews and soups? Do you Cook Chili, Beef Stew, Chicken Stew and you could even have dumplings since you are allowed a higher calorie count than I am on. Dani, You could eat filling food that is healthy for you and home made and never get hungry. I prefer to eat my food in a stew or soup because it is more filling in my opinion. Berries are a great desert and there are many varieties. I see you like Mexican food so you could make your own tacos, beefy bean with cheese Burito with healthy avocado slices and cherry tomatoes as a side dish.

    I love my Salads with Hidden Valley Ranch Dressing on the side only using as much as I need not drowning it in the dressing. I make a huge salad with rainbow colors of veggies the salad is a meal in itself. When I make the Salad I make sure I have plenty of protein. I had a huge salad for dinner last night, and the ingredients were boiled egg, cucumbers, red peppers, cucumbers, romaine lettuce, green onions, radishes, imitation crab meat, pepedew sweet peppers, kidney beans from a can, carrots blueberries, raspberries and sometimes I fry up a piece of bacon and add that as flavoring I also add flax seed for omega boost.

    I have many health issues that forces me to only use diet instead of exercise to lose weight. I log in daily for nearly a year now and my weight loss is slow but it is staying off. My goal is to lose 100 lbs and my calories are between 1400-1650 some days 1200. I calorie cycle so my body does not get accustomed to the same number, I also carb cycle because of health issues I have to keep my carbs under 100 a day or I gain weight. I am back to not eating sugar and eating gluten free.

    I love MFP because although there are mean trolls on MFP the majority of People care for one another and the proof is in the responses you have had. I am not going to send you a Friend invite because you already have over 400 on your list but I just want to encourage you and offer some suggestions. Sugar is an addiction and I did not realize how much I was using it to handle emotional traumas in my life until I stopped eating it. I subbed the sugar for Stevia, not made in a lab but it comes from the leaf of the Stevia plant I use non bitter nu-naturals nuStevia and sprinkle it in my coffee, tea, anything that needs sweetened. I have to admit I miss the emotional sugar high, sugar use to give me. I battle hypoglycemia (low blood sugar) and I realize now the sugar highs that hid the depression and anger also came crashing down when the sugar high wears off, this leaves me worse off mood wise than I started out. I realized a truth Dani, and that is it is much easier to eat a chocolate candy bar with high carbs in form of sugar when I was feeling emotional and depressed or angry, than to deal with the emotions.

    I also realize I became overweight not just because of hypothyroid, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, PCOS (hormones store carbs as fat instead of using for energy). I had many miscarriages because of PCOS but it was just called hormone imbalance at the time. I have other severe health issues. It will be 365 days since I joined MFP and I daily log in and record what I eat. I realize now it is not just my health issues but combined with I ate the wrong foods and ate what I now call feel good foods so I would emotionally feel good. I never binged but it still did the weight gain damage. The truth is Dani I read your Diary and I would love to eat all the high calorie foods also but if I did I would be weighing far more than I do now and probably in my grave by now.

    We all have lost weights on a diet and when the diet is over with return back to eating the way we did before the diet, we gain the weight back and many times adding more pounds. I know this cannot be a diet this new way of eating must be for a life time. Is it fun to count every calorie NO is it worth the results when we do YES! Congratulations in making a decision that will change your life for the better if you do not give up and quit eventually you will see the lbs drop off. In closing there are many recipes to take your high calorie favorite foods like Pizza and make it more calorie/carb friendly just do a search on the Internet.
  • cstarr0921
    cstarr0921 Posts: 2 Member
    Hi Dani, I am Charlotte and I am a very large woman as well and can totally feel what you are going through. I am 42 years old and it took until just last month for me to feel like I deserved to be happy in my life. I had a lot of personal issues that I just had not come to terms with from my childhood and past relationships. I guess the main one was my relationship with my dad. I always felt like i wasnt good enough for him and didnt deserve to be loved....it was last month when my dad lost his wife and started questioning his own mortality that he started telling us all how much he loved us. It was definitely a new feeling for me, one i never thought i would have. After that, I had a dr appt and the numbers on the scale brought me to tears right then and there....a very sweet and consoling nurse in the office sat with me for over an hour telling me how much I deserved to be happy and to do that I needed to love myself.....she told me to keep this motto in mind....."nothing tastes as good as skinny feels".....I started out on a 2000 calorie diet and went down each week until I reached below 1500....I stayed between 1100 and 1300 per day. The last visit to the doc he kind of got onto me a little bit saying that he wanted me to at least take in 1800 but no less than 1500....im struggling with that as I want the weight gooooonnnnnnneeeeee......but he said i am losing it too fast.....anyway, I guess what I am trying to say is that you have to figure out if there is any underlying reason for the weight, fix it or at least come to terms with it, and then look in the mirror and tell yourself that you deserve to be loved....and the most important person that you need to love you is yourself.....love ya girl.....im here if you ever want to talk.
  • Capegirl16
    Capegirl16 Posts: 4 Member
    hi Dani:

    Keep up the good fight girl.. I also over the past 4 years have lost and kept off 75 pounds trying to loose it was not as esy as putting it on... so remember one day at a time because what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.... pat yourself on the back girl
  • SimpleDesign
    SimpleDesign Posts: 3 Member
    Hi! I completely understand what you are talking about when you stated that you have gained since starting to diet...almost like a panic attack about not eating what you like so in "preparation" to start the "diet" you (Me too---have done this several times) eat more than before wanting to be sure you can let those foods go for awhile. I never lost any weight until I decided I was going to do it and still eat those foods that I love...after all I am going to eat them eventually and do not want to regain my lost weight. So to get over this tell yourself it is okay to eat the foods you love. In fact, plan for it. Use MFP and calculate your foods into your day, just measure/weigh everything. Sure amounts may be smaller, but they taste the same and can be very satisfying. Especially when you can say "yes, I eat brownies and am still losing weight". Insert your fav food for the brownies, but you get the idea. Maybe just add your favorite fruits/veggies as well so you still get that I am full feeling (super important to me...I need to feel like I have eaten!!) The only benefit to being very heavy (again personal experience here) is that ANY exercise you do is going to burn significant calories and you can eat those back....Yay, more food that day. Once you see the scale going in the direction you want (or inches coming off), motivation will come easier. Then it will be easier to make more significant changes. This is just what worked for me in getting past the "starting a diet" hurdle. I wish you all the success on your personal journey and I am inspired just by reading your post
  • timberowl
    timberowl Posts: 331 Member
    I agree with everyone else that baby steps are imperative. Every time I try to bump MFP up to lose 1.5 lbs per week, I end up having to move it right back down to lose 1 lb per week right after. Your body's going to resist this the ENTIRE way there, you just have to give it the least possible amount of resistance while still moving forward. If you ate 3,999 calories today, shoot for 3,900 next week, and 3,800 the next.

    Also, plug in BEFORE you eat ANYTHING for the day--maybe even the day before--your fruits, veggies, juices, etc. That way those calories are already accounted for before you start eating any carbs/junk. and you can just work around them.

    I know this might sound weird. But enjoy it while it lasts. There are a lot of people that would love to be able to eat 3,900 calories and still lose weight. Soon you'll be restricted to 1,200 before you know it. =)
  • Strudders67
    Strudders67 Posts: 989 Member
    Good for you. Being mentally prepared and wanting to lose weight is a major step. As you'll have seen from the many pages of comments, originally, you've got plenty of support out here if you need it.
  • dania201
    dania201 Posts: 48 Member
    Thanks! Honestly, gaining only 100lbs over four years I think is pretty good, considering
  • Psychgrrl
    Psychgrrl Posts: 3,177 Member
    Welcome back! I wish you the best of luck and you do have us for support! I hope you also have home support and good doctor to help you on your journey.
  • dania201
    dania201 Posts: 48 Member
    Yeah yeah, I got that before. It was a riot.
    karahm78 wrote: »
    I'm sorry and maybe I am being negative.... but I don't believe this is a real person for a second.

  • L1zardQueen
    L1zardQueen Posts: 8,753 Member
    Welcome back! I'm rooting for you!
  • nowine4me
    nowine4me Posts: 3,985 Member
    Welcome Dani! You have a great community here -- we have your back. My advice is simple, plug your stats into MFP and use the tool as designed. Set it to lose 1 pound a month and roll with it. Have some fun and learn along the way.
  • eweadock
    eweadock Posts: 31 Member
    Hey Dani, great job returning! Here's a quick tip that may or may not work for you: Plan your food in advance, if possible. If not, record everything you eat in MFP before eating it. That way you'll know if you are going to stay on track before it is too late. Once you start to see results, it will motivate you. If you are tempted to go off of plan, stop and think: record the food first and see what it will do. Ask yourself what it is that you really want. Keep it up, and don't mind the trolls.
  • dania201
    dania201 Posts: 48 Member
    fascha wrote: »
    karahm78 wrote: »
    I'm sorry and maybe I am being negative.... but I don't believe this is a real person for a second.

    I have a hard time beleiving someone would revive their old thread to troll the members of mfp 4 years later. Why do you have a hard time believing this is a real person I'm curious?

    THANK YOU. I don't understand how anyone can think I take pleasure in coming clean about where I'm at and being honest with a board that is intended to help when you're in a rut like this. :(
  • inertiastrength
    inertiastrength Posts: 2,343 Member
    Dania this is a great board, don't get discouraged by one (or a few) negative people; many more people want to help you succeed than want to be rude ❤️
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  • kq1981
    kq1981 Posts: 1,098 Member
    You got this! We ALL believe in you :smile: one small change at a time. Keep us posted!
  • lilolilo920
    lilolilo920 Posts: 184 Member
    You can do it!!! I'd love to follow you in your journey.
    Keep your head up!
  • shylady76
    shylady76 Posts: 134 Member
    Welcome back. You can do this. You can add me as a friend if you like.
  • dania201
    dania201 Posts: 48 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    dania201 wrote: »
    Hi guys! Just FYI I'm back and I'm ready to lose this time. I gained about 100lbs since I last posted, but I'm past that. I just want to say that I appreciate the positive people here, and I look forward to encouraging others!

    ~D

    If you are now 723 lbs, I hope you've contacted medical professionals and are working with them to help you lose the weight.

    No, you're right, I'm not 723 lbs. I was 707 but now I'm down to 699 I believe. I am going to try this on my own first though and I thank the people here and offline that have so supportive, win lose or gain.
  • 3rdof7sisters
    3rdof7sisters Posts: 486 Member
    You can do this!
    One day at a time. You are worth it!
    A lot of people will be cheering for each success!
  • kristikitter
    kristikitter Posts: 602 Member
    dania201 wrote: »
    Thank you guys!! I know that if I'm going to make this work this time, I'm going to have to up my game in terms of consistency.

    Sometimes I think people hate because they can tell that I don't tow the line with all the normal body hate stuff. A lot of people, women especially, can treat weigh loss and dieting like a religion, and spew on and on about how terrible it is that they got fat. But I don't look at it that way. Sure, I need to lose weight to increase my mobility and health, but I'm not a terrible person because I got fat. I refuse to hate my body. If that rubs some people the wrong way, too bad.

    I don't think anyone here (at least, not anyone whose profile would remain active for very long) wants anyone to hate their body.

    I think people are (correctly) advocating medical support (not necessarily surgery... but certainly therapy/other assistance) because your weight is dangerously high. We're not medical experts here. We just know about counting calories and getting exercise.
  • mumfy23
    mumfy23 Posts: 61 Member
    Good luck. You can do it. Folks have given you great advice. Just start small with one goal and accomplish that. Drink 8 glasses of water. Park extra spots away from store. Do that for 2-3 weeks. Add another goal.
  • treegirl97
    treegirl97 Posts: 70 Member
    Good luck!! You can do this. Please post often so we can follow your journey and cheer you along!!

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