Girls - your first thought when..

12357

Replies

  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    Can't really share the thoughts that go through my head when I see something like that. Let's just say I'm focused on the visual until he opens his mouth--then the thinking kicks back in.

    interesting. this is kind of what i was wondering.

    Spill it..You hit on someone and didn't get the reaction you were hoping for?
    [/quote]

    no i never hit on girls, im pretty shy. but i was told by a girl that i know that they can be intimidated by a guy with a really nice body or something like that? like im only concerned with looks or something, or their body has to be crazy good too,
    [/quote]

    yes very intimidating.
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    Can't really share the thoughts that go through my head when I see something like that. Let's just say I'm focused on the visual until he opens his mouth--then the thinking kicks back in.

    interesting. this is kind of what i was wondering.

    Spill it..You hit on someone and didn't get the reaction you were hoping for?

    no i never hit on girls, im pretty shy. but i was told by a girl that i know that they can be intimidated by a guy with a really nice body or something like that? like im only concerned with looks or something, or their body has to be crazy good too,

    So you never hit on woman?
    You'd date someone that wasn't as fit as yourself?
    Since your shy..I am too..how do you go about dating?

    pretty simple, i dont.

    that's a shame

    i have no clue how to pick up girls, and im 28 lol.
    [/quote]


    we're two peas in a pod, haha! no clue how to pick up guys, haven't really tried to be honest. not enough self-confidence for that yet... if feel like the harder you try to make an impression or to act a certain way, the less smooth it will go. i'd offer to go for drinks if and give each other advice if this were real life =P
    [/quote]

    3 peas in a pod.
    Im clueless.
    Its not confidence I lack.
    I have tried to make it aware Im interested and it never goes any where.
    Extremely frustrating.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
    If I get hit on by a hot dude, I think "mama's still got it."

    I think I've always kind of had an inflated sense of self esteem or something, because in my mind, no matter if I've been at my heaviest or fittest, I've always felt like "every dude in this room wants to hit on me."

    Modesty has never really been my strong suit. I totally won't blame anybody for thinking I'm conceited.
  • fishnbrah
    fishnbrah Posts: 550
    Not that I have ever had the pleasure of a guy of this nature hit one me but for some reason the first thought that hits me is "i bet they have a small penis"

    damn.
  • BlueInkDot
    BlueInkDot Posts: 702 Member
    It COMPLETELY depends on his attitude. I would LOVE if a hot fellow would hit on me, but if he's acting like he's God's gift to women... just please go away. :angry:

    BUT if he's genuinely interested in talking with me, isn't trying to impress anybody, is just being honest and open and fun... WOW. Dingdingdingdingding! Please stay interested in me so we can hang out more. :love:

    Of course I haven't met anyone like that, because every super buff fellow I've ever met has been childish, rude, self-centered, demands that I like him immediately and is completely confused if I don't and ugh. :grumble:
  • aelitaangels
    aelitaangels Posts: 61 Member
    My first thoughts would be "My god he's hot" then proceed to gawk at him hahaha. It wouldn't get any further from there because I'd instantly become hot, nervous and psych myself out of ever approaching him.
    But I probably wouldn't assume anything about his personality from his appearance besides "he must work hard for that" "I wonder how long it took for him to get to that?" or "He probably has a girlfriend who lifts" lol
  • berriboobear
    berriboobear Posts: 524 Member
    Not that I have ever had the pleasure of a guy of this nature hit one me but for some reason the first thought that hits me is "i bet they have a small penis"

    damn.


    I'm not gonna lie and say appearance has nothing to do with attraction, but as others have been saying, the personality is what determines it after the initial reaction of disbelief, potential drooling, and embarrassment. Come on, size shouldn't matter... and if his ego is trying to make up for size, well than I wouldn't want to be with someone like that anyways.
  • BlueInkDot
    BlueInkDot Posts: 702 Member
    But to better answer your question...

    I don't care if you're hot or not, what is ultimately attractive is respect. Respect for yourself and respect for the person you're talking to.

    Respect is sexy.

    Listening. Listening is sexy.

    Smiling. Smiling is sexy.

    There you go.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member

    Honestly either way I would probably turn red and not be able to talk

    i am a dork

    I did this to a woman today at the gym. I wasn't trying to hit on her. I just notice who is there and who isn't regularly, and this lady showed up about 30 miuntes later than normal. I walked past her as she entered, and said, "You're late!" She got all flustered and turned three shades of red. Later when I finished my workout, she said something about having to drop the kids off this morning. I didn't really hear as I still had my headphones on.

    So, I think us fatties can have that affect too.
  • berriboobear
    berriboobear Posts: 524 Member
    Can't really share the thoughts that go through my head when I see something like that. Let's just say I'm focused on the visual until he opens his mouth--then the thinking kicks back in.

    interesting. this is kind of what i was wondering.

    Spill it..You hit on someone and didn't get the reaction you were hoping for?

    no i never hit on girls, im pretty shy. but i was told by a girl that i know that they can be intimidated by a guy with a really nice body or something like that? like im only concerned with looks or something, or their body has to be crazy good too,

    So you never hit on woman?
    You'd date someone that wasn't as fit as yourself?
    Since your shy..I am too..how do you go about dating?

    pretty simple, i dont.

    that's a shame

    i have no clue how to pick up girls, and im 28 lol.


    we're two peas in a pod, haha! no clue how to pick up guys, haven't really tried to be honest. not enough self-confidence for that yet... if feel like the harder you try to make an impression or to act a certain way, the less smooth it will go. i'd offer to go for drinks if and give each other advice if this were real life =P
    [/quote]

    3 peas in a pod.
    Im clueless.
    Its not confidence I lack.
    I have tried to make it aware Im interested and it never goes any where.
    Extremely frustrating.
    [/quote]

    I'm just not born with this skill/quality. Definitely frustrating.
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
    I look for the short girl he is truly looking at and get out of the way.

    Even when I was hot in my 20's muscled guys were less than interested in a relationship. I made friends with many of them and asked once why they never tried anything before we were friends and the answer I got was I was to tall:cry: I am only5'9" and most of them were 6'2" +:noway: I was told the woman had to fit just under their chin preferably below their shoulder! What gives on that?:explode:

    Their morons. I have dated girls much taller than I, and much shorter than I. Who cares where they come up to on you?
    Thanks, that what I thought.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Let's flip the situation- if an attractive woman speaks to/ smiles at/ or comes up to you- do you automatically think she is flirting? Do you think she is shallow for choosing you, if she is flirting?

    Nah. I just think she has a visual deficit, or is nuts.
  • salcha76
    salcha76 Posts: 287 Member
    I used to think that guys w/bodies like that were all narcissitic pricks....until I became friends w/one....and found out he was the biggest insecure baby ever....perfectly human....and that he just hid behind the muscles.....everyone has a story...that was just a good reminder to me to not judge....and be more open minded.....
  • coopersmom2006
    coopersmom2006 Posts: 839
    I think cool that guy has a nice bod then I think ....damn, I really appreciate the effort and time it took to look like that. ;)
  • iWaffle
    iWaffle Posts: 2,208 Member
    Girls - your first thought when you see a fit/muscular guy

    I bet he's gay.
  • TheCaren
    TheCaren Posts: 894 Member
    My first thought would be: "He's not seriously talking to me..."
  • JennaM222
    JennaM222 Posts: 1,996 Member
    I think meet me in the shower in 5
  • fishnbrah
    fishnbrah Posts: 550
    Let's flip the situation- if an attractive woman speaks to/ smiles at/ or comes up to you- do you automatically think she is flirting? Do you think she is shallow for choosing you, if she is flirting?

    would not happen. girls only need a pulse and dudes will hit on them so theres no chance of being hit on by a hot girl
  • LassoOfTruth
    LassoOfTruth Posts: 735 Member
    Completely depends if he's wearing Abercrombie and Fitch.
  • Jackson4590
    Jackson4590 Posts: 145 Member
    would not happen. girls only need a pulse and dudes will hit on them so theres no chance of being hit on by a hot girl

    second this. i don't understand how women are shy? just look at a guy long enough and he'll be yours.
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member

    Honestly either way I would probably turn red and not be able to talk

    i am a dork

    I did this to a woman today at the gym. I wasn't trying to hit on her. I just notice who is there and who isn't regularly, and this lady showed up about 30 miuntes later than normal. I walked past her as she entered, and said, "You're late!" She got all flustered and turned three shades of red. Later when I finished my workout, she said something about having to drop the kids off this morning. I didn't really hear as I still had my headphones on.

    So, I think us fatties can have that affect too.

    I am an equal opportunity blusher.
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    you see a fit/muscular guy, or get hit on by a guy like that do you instantly think he is narcissistic or shallow cuz he's buff? or do you just think, cool that guy has a nice body?

    first thought: What the hell does this guy see in some 48 year old broad? Second thought: DAMN, I still "got it", YES!

    When they open their mouths and start talking, that's when I start to judge. A great body is one thing, a great mind completes the package.

    See, the man's perspective on this is similar, but still very different. If the super hot chick were to prove to be an idiot or a b!tch, the man would just be wondering how fast he could get away from her AFTER having sex.

    QFT
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,486 Member
    I also dont get the "wondering who he is talking to comments"

    really?

    Like yourselves a little more...please.


    Oh I looooove myself.. but after being off that "scene" for a LOOONG time, it's a new thing. Takes a little getting used to. :-)

    ^^^^^This, some of us have been in very long relationships and don't understand when people are hitting on us. Really, no clue.
  • nolachick
    nolachick Posts: 3,278 Member
    Let's flip the situation- if an attractive woman speaks to/ smiles at/ or comes up to you- do you automatically think she is flirting? Do you think she is shallow for choosing you, if she is flirting?

    would not happen. girls only need a pulse and dudes will hit on them so theres no chance of being hit on by a hot girl

    um what city do u live in, so I can try my luck there? lol.

    why does everyone keep saying you only need to have a pulse/boobs/smile to get hit on? I must be doing something wrong.
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    would not happen. girls only need a pulse and dudes will hit on them so theres no chance of being hit on by a hot girl

    second this. i don't understand how women are shy? just look at a guy long enough and he'll be yours.

    What? Not where Im from.
    I must not be staring long enough.
    :sick:
  • Tiffyholli
    Tiffyholli Posts: 92 Member
    Not true, I'm the one who hit on my boyfriend & that's how we started talking.

    Hardly any guys come up to me, I'm not sure why... Some of my friends say it's because I look intimidating.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Can't really share the thoughts that go through my head when I see something like that. Let's just say I'm focused on the visual until he opens his mouth--then the thinking kicks back in.

    interesting. this is kind of what i was wondering.

    Spill it..You hit on someone and didn't get the reaction you were hoping for?

    no i never hit on girls, im pretty shy. but i was told by a girl that i know that they can be intimidated by a guy with a really nice body or something like that? like im only concerned with looks or something, or their body has to be crazy good too,

    So you never hit on woman?
    You'd date someone that wasn't as fit as yourself?
    Since your shy..I am too..how do you go about dating?

    pretty simple, i dont.

    that's a shame
    [/quote]

    i have no clue how to pick up girls, and im 28 lol.
    [/quote]

    I recommend supporting their weight under the arms and thighs.
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    Not true, I'm the one who hit on my boyfriend & that's how we started talking.

    Hardly any guys come up to me, I'm not sure why... Some of my friends say it's because I look intimidating.

    same except i was just saying hi, cuz he was the new guy (really hot but new)
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    I recommend supporting their weight under the arms and thighs.

    having a spotter at the gym is Hawt
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    Just get drunk. I'm much less shy when drunk.

Categories