Putting your KID on a leash
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Why do you keep talking about kids being runners? If you are firm, and discipline that child, and train them well, they wond be running around all wild.
If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
(Runs to bomb shelter :bigsmile: )
oh wow! I am going to try that with my two year old. Who knew it was so easy, just voice a command and they will listen.
Well that's what my mom did and it worked....and that's what I did with my cousin that i raised and he listened
yeah try it!
I am SO impressed that you have found the universal rule of parenting! Well done!
I know! I already feel like more of an adequate parent after reading this. I mean all children are the same, and so what my two year has little reasoning. She will heed my commands and be fearful.
Obviously! How were we so lost for so long??????
I am really unsure, i must of been communicating using grunts to never utter the words "no, dont do that"0 -
You have your bundle of joy and you never thought you could bring something so beautiful into the world, so you spoil them rotten,by not giving them any structure. Then when they misbehave you say "he's just a baby,that's how he expresses himself" then when they don't know how to behave in public (because you say things like he's only 2) you slap a leash on them and steer them like you would a puppy, to save yourself the embarassment of people looking at you with your out of control child.
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I know a mom who had 5 kids. All good kids, one had ADD and that was the only one I ever saw on a leash. I would not make a determination about the worth of a parent when I don't know the circumstances of the child. I have 4 of my own and each is uniquely different and requires different parenting techniques.
Also wondering how many parents without leashes have "lost" there children.
Amen. I think a)if you haven't walked a mile in someone's shoes, don't judge them and b)it depends on how it is being used.
I don't use playpens (we train our children early on to listen to "no" and respect it) and for the most part do not use gates (except for a dog LOL) HOWEVER we have used a leash. At Disney World. I wanted to be able to let my 14 month old at the time walk without having to bend over and hold his hand (therefore breaking my back). We did not end up using it much b/c it wasn't the best but I was glad to have it. It was the kind where it's a cute little backpack with a strap. My children ARE trained by the way. But you can't trust that a 14 month old is well trained enough to never wander.0 -
My 4 year old son is big, beautiful, and healthy. I'm positive that at first glance he looks completely 'normal' and angelic. We adore him. However- he is also autistic, mostly non-verbal, physically strong, curious, fearless, and a runner. You can't tell these things at a glance, but you might notice something 'off' if you look closely. I have been on the receiving end of 'the looks' when they see him in a stroller while we are on a walk or using a sippy cup at the doctors office. I have had the mean looks from other parents when he is being loud and stimming around a waiting room. He can't help it. It takes two of us to manage him most of the time, and we do what we can to not be a bother to others. We're not bad parents- my three older children are exceeding well-mannered and polite. So will you tell me I need to 'train him better' so that he doesn't run off and laugh at me if I use a harness on him?? Nice...
Let's not judge- at least these parents are being cautious or they may have a special needs child like we do. I shake my head A LOT more at the parents who don't seem to give a **** about what their kids are doing or where they are. :noway:0 -
Why do you keep talking about kids being runners? If you are firm, and discipline that child, and train them well, they wond be running around all wild.
If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
(Runs to bomb shelter :bigsmile: )
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After getting lost in the crowds at Disney World when I was four, my parents used a leash once for that vacation. I don't blame them. I think it's a great idea. As a kid, I always somehow ended up lost -- grocery stores, vacations, department stores, etc. 0
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i also only make my son wear a cycle helmet because i'm too lazy to teach him not to pop a wheelie in front of a bus.You have your bundle of joy and you never thought you could bring something so beautiful into the world, so you spoil them rotten,by not giving them any structure. Then when they misbehave you say "he's just a baby,that's how he expresses himself" then when they don't know how to behave in public (because you say things like he's only 2) you slap a leash on them and steer them like you would a puppy, to save yourself the embarassment of people looking at you with your out of control child.
hahaha....love it, so true! Can I be your friend!!??0 -
It's amazing how many posters can remember following their parents orders at 18 months or 2 years old not to run or to stay close. I can barely remember being 7. As for EVERY child in the world being the same, able to follow the same orders identically? lol, clueless.
Some kids are scaredly cats & will always follow a parents commands but some kids (like mine) are fierce & strong willed & every command has to be repeated numerous times for it to sink in. This has nothing to do with a "look" or "parenting" (what does that imply btw) it is merely FACT. Are all adults the same, do all adults follow the same path? No so why the f&*% would a child.
Really, this thread is an eye opener to how judgmental, self satisfying & clueless many people on this site are.
LOL!! I thought I was the only one who couldn't remember following directions at ages 1-4 years of age!! But, glad I read this thread b/c now I can use these techniques in the classroom. All I have to do is use The Look and tell my students NO and they will follow my directions!! Wow!!0 -
Reality is all kids and parents are not the same, I know shocker but hey. You believe what you believe. I have the best kids, have from the get go. I could take them out to eat and you never heard them cry or whine or cause a scene. I could take them to the stores and you never heard the screaming and crying and begging for things. I could set a bowl of chocolate kisses out on the coffee table and they ask before they touch, they can even take it to their rooms and still ask before they eat any. But my daughter ran off at a crowded park, she just wanted to see this one slide so she went to look, she was lost (to me) for about 20 minutes. Then when my son was born and a few years later we went to Disney World I made a harness for him so he could not run off. I have always kept a close eye on my kids but they have their own minds and if they want to see something they don't think it's wrong to go look, but at 4 they don't think to ask to go if they are excited about something.
When I said no it meant no and they didn't ask why and they didn't ask a second time. When I say it's time for bed at 8 pm they went to bed with no crying no fussing and no screaming.
You can't know what it's like to have a child walk off from you unless you've been thru it, so don't judge others who have and who need to make sure their children are safe. No one is perfect and we all do what we have to do to be sure our children are safe, you do it your way and let others do it their way. Just be thankful they care enough to keep them safe.
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You have your bundle of joy and you never thought you could bring something so beautiful into the world, so you spoil them rotten,by not giving them any structure. Then when they misbehave you say "he's just a baby,that's how he expresses himself" then when they don't know how to behave in public (because you say things like he's only 2) you slap a leash on them and steer them like you would a puppy, to save yourself the embarassment of people looking at you with your out of control child.
Being that you said you have no children you sound a bit ignorant on this little rant.
Being that I also said I raised my cousin.... he was 2 when he came to live with me..:) I didn't have to leash him like an animal because I respected him as a human and held his hand unlike the ignorant person you seem to be.0 -
We have a monkey 'leash' that we used once at the state fair. I would not hesitate to use it again. It was a great peace of mind tool, knowing that my kid with special needs wouldn't be able to wrangle out of his stroller or from our grip.0
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I wonder if any of the "perfect" parents have ever used a playpen or a stair gate, or how about a safety plug? Pretty much the same idea as a harness which for the record is the only one of those things I have ever used.0
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yea u raised one child, easy to hold their hand. i have 3... different ball game0
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My daughter and son are very close in age, so when my son was born my mother convinced me to get one for taking them to the zoo and such.
I used it once, at the zoo. That was it.
It really wasn't that much more convenient, and she was unhappy. That was money NOT well spent at Target.
My mom convinced me to get one for my daughter as well when we went to the zoo. And that was the only time we used it. My daughter has ADHD so at the time it did come in handy because she was young and we had not had her tested for the ADHD. Personally I didn't like using it and she didn't like being on it so we found other ways around it.0 -
I wonder if any of the "perfect" parents have ever used a playpen or a stair gate, or how about a safety plug? Pretty much the same idea as a harness which for the record is the only one of those things I have ever used.
I say do away with cribs. Cages are for animals, not babies.0 -
Finally, the voice of reason chimes in.I dont bother with the leash. I just duct tape them to the nearest tree.0 -
I have two kids and I would not put them on a leash for any reason. I don't think it is right.0
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lol i left for a couple hours and checked back on this thread.
amazing how vile people can be and this is just over leashing a kid.
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I hate this argument. I haven't used one yet, but if we were to go someplace like Disney or even a fair or local amusement park I would consider it. Toddlers don't have the brain development to not act impulsively and it takes half a second for them to disappear into a crowd. What if I told her to hold onto the carriage while I got something out of the diaper bag for the baby and in those 10 seconds she saw something she wanted and took off? Of course we're working on teaching her proper behavior, but I'm not going to risk losing my child.
I really don't understand how it's so much more offensive than using a shopping cart or stroller. Newsflash, people use those things so their kids don't run off, same principle. My 2 year old screams for a moment or two every time I put her in the shopping cart and people probably judge me for that, but it's not because she's spoiled. She knows she has to go in the cart, she doesn't want to and that's the only way she has to express that emotion at this age. Some kids are more strong willed than others and different things are going to work for different people. So far my son is a dream, if my daughter had been like him I'd probably never even have to consider it.0 -
I wonder if any of the "perfect" parents have ever used a playpen or a stair gate, or how about a safety plug? Pretty much the same idea as a harness which for the record is the only one of those things I have ever used.
I say do away with cribs. Cages are for animals, not babies.
bwah I think i love you.0 -
ok, just don't trust me to babysit!hahaha....love it, so true! Can I be your friend!!??0 -
yea u raised one child, easy to hold their hand. i have 3... different ball game
not really. jus grow a 3rd arm.
if u can't then according to the people on this thread, that makes you a bad parent.0 -
My dad had a backpack leash for me when I was very young. We were at the Minnesota State Fair, tons of people everywhere, and a lady came up to give him s*** about my leash. My dad told her that at least he knew when his daughter was, and asked her where was her son? Running away from her, through the masses of people!
I think there are times and places for this. Not everywhere, not all the time. Many things can be helpful tools or abused. I'm pregnant with my first and maybe I will use a leash if I feel its an appropriate time and place.0 -
You have your bundle of joy and you never thought you could bring something so beautiful into the world, so you spoil them rotten,by not giving them any structure. Then when they misbehave you say "he's just a baby,that's how he expresses himself" then when they don't know how to behave in public (because you say things like he's only 2) you slap a leash on them and steer them like you would a puppy, to save yourself the embarassment of people looking at you with your out of control child.
Being that you said you have no children you sound a bit ignorant on this little rant.
Being that I also said I raised my cousin.... he was 2 when he came to live with me..:) I didn't have to leash him like an animal because I respected him as a human and held his hand unlike the ignorant person you seem to be.
Enlighten us with your discipline techniques in that case.0 -
I have never used a leash on my kids, but I would not necessarily judge someone who does. It's all good and fine to expect an older child to listen and stay with you, but a two year old has very, very little self control.0
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You have your bundle of joy and you never thought you could bring something so beautiful into the world, so you spoil them rotten,by not giving them any structure. Then when they misbehave you say "he's just a baby,that's how he expresses himself" then when they don't know how to behave in public (because you say things like he's only 2) you slap a leash on them and steer them like you would a puppy, to save yourself the embarassment of people looking at you with your out of control child.
Being that you said you have no children you sound a bit ignorant on this little rant.
Being that I also said I raised my cousin.... he was 2 when he came to live with me..:) I didn't have to leash him like an animal because I respected him as a human and held his hand unlike the ignorant person you seem to be.
My children have never been out of control and unless you've had a child walk away and be lost in a crowd you have no clue how it feels. Sh it happens and most times it's not about you didn't watch your child close enough, it just freaking happens, but I love how you judge others based on your experiance. And you think it's leashing them like an animal and I think it's just being safe and being sure your child stays where it's supposed to.
You've never had to let go of your childs hand so that you can have both hands free for something? I mean really? That's all it take is just letting go and taking your eyes off them for one second and they are gone. I'm thinking your lucky to have not had it happen to you, but if it does it doesn't mean your a bad parent it means that kid is fast. Sheeeesh0 -
PERFECTI hate this argument. I haven't used one yet, but if we were to go someplace like Disney or even a fair or local amusement park I would consider it. Toddlers don't have the brain development to not act impulsively and it takes half a second for them to disappear into a crowd. What if I told her to hold onto the carriage while I got something out of the diaper bag for the baby and in those 10 seconds she saw something she wanted and took off? Of course we're working on teaching her proper behavior, but I'm not going to risk losing my child.
I really don't understand how it's so much more offensive than using a shopping cart or stroller. Newsflash, people use those things so their kids don't run off, same principle. My 2 year old screams for a moment or two every time I put her in the shopping cart and people probably judge me for that, but it's not because she's spoiled. She knows she has to go in the cart, she doesn't want to and that's the only way she has to express that emotion at this age. Some kids are more strong willed than others and different things are going to work for different people.0 -
I would never put a kid on a leash.. but i got my sisters kids a safety slap. ( http://www.safetyslap.com/ ) it is a wristband that has a QR token in it. So if the kids ever did get lost it would only take a smart phone and a concerned person to get them found. $20 bucks well spent. Check them out! http://www.safetyslap.com/0
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I go with "Whatever works for you family". Why do we all feel the need to judge others so much. Yes, I had to use a leash at one point for my 3rd child, she darts. We were going into target one day (I was holding her hand and her Irish twins hand, they were 1 and 2) she saw a bird fly into the street and wrenched her hand away from mine and ran into the street to try and get the bird. I screamed at her to stop and told my 2 year old to stay with her older brother(5). She got lucky because the oncoming traffic was able to stop. You bet your @$$ I walked right in to target and got a leash; along with a double stroller. I would rather be looked down upon and have my child whole and alive than let an accident rob me of them.0
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chuckling away at how many people are prolly sitting at home self congratulating at their superior parenting. :huh:0
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