Putting your KID on a leash

justify it all you want but if you put your cousin in a crib you were being a horrible, horrible parent. Or if you weren't with him 24/7 & never let him leave your sight .(that's sarcasm by the way, I have a feeling you wont get it unless I make that clear)

As I said before I never slept in a crib, my cousin never slept in a crib hahaha guess i'm not that horrible after all :bigsmile:

There are a lot of parents stuck to their computer screens this afternoon. This topic has been going on a while. Where are your children on a nice Saturday afternoon?

Taking their afternoon rest.

There are a lot of parents stuck to their computer screens this afternoon. This topic has been going on a while. Where are your children on a nice Saturday afternoon?

Taking their afternoon rest.

Good Mommy!

YMMV but I’d rather see the leash than have a little bolt in front of my car, that goes for fur babies as well as the humans.

I have used the kid leash (the cute plush animal back back/harness) at the Zoo where my little one's are prone to be faster than this slow moving mama. It's a nice helper for when they wiggle out of the hand holding and want to run. Both my boys are on the autism spectrum and have a tough time with impulse control.

But for quick trips to the store, it's cart time or else one of us stays home and the other does the shopping.

There are a lot of parents stuck to their computer screens this afternoon. This topic has been going on a while. Where are your children on a nice Saturday afternoon?

Making mommy a blood mary. They're good boys.

Well, now that is training a child. I'm impressed. Bet you just gave them "the look".

I just shook my empty glass with them. They know what to do when they hear the ice clink.

Wow. I'm working on my dogs to bring me a beer from the fridge and you've got your kids mixing drinks...together, we could make the cutest little bartenders!!!!! =D =D =D

I have two rather rambunctious Autistic kids at home and I've never even considered putting my kids on a leash. I bring someone else with me if I have to go out and do something. I can understand certain circumstances where it might be needed, but if your just walking down the street and have your kids on a leash? That's why holding hands was invented.

Hi there,

another mom of a Spectrum Kid here... So glad holding hands works for you and your Spectrum Kids. My oldest son had a very hard time tollerating his hand being held. When we had an international flight with a several hour layover in Germand (along with an infant who wanted to nurse around the clock) i REALLY wished that i had one of those monkey backpack tethers. Holding his hand for hours was virtually impossible. I was in tears by the end of that layover. Was soooo incredibly stressful. My son had bolted in a split second at the Boston Aquarium 2 months earlier and by the time i figured out which way he went, he was up 2 floors on that spiral ramp that goes around the huge central tank. I was TERRIFIED. Earlier that same day, he pushed the 'door close' button on the elevator as i was trying to push his brother's stroller into the elevator, then pushed the L for lobby. ... He had no sense to not run and it only took a split second for him to be gone. Thank God no harm came to him in either incident, but you can imagine the panic!! I've never used a tether, but if i were to do it again, i would!!! (he is now 7 1/2 and sticks close by, for the most part, thank God!)

I'm in a wheelchair, I can't hold on to my child's hand and so I certainly need a way for an unruly child that is prone to run away from me a way to keep them near me, since I can't hold their hand and wheel at the same time.

So I'm leashing my future children, for sure.

I have one of those stuffed animal harnesses with like a two foot lead. I have used it maybe twice. For a couple of minutes each time.
My son is 18 months, he likes to be able to walk around and look at things without me always holding his hand. I put the harness on him so he could walk around the mall. Usually I have him in the stroller, but it was a quick trip and I wanted him to be able to walk around. He does like to just take off at a dead run. Anyways I ended up taking the harness off and just holding him. It didnt workout well so I probably wont use it again.

So why does this make me a bad mother, and what gives any of you the right to judge me??

For your info my son is napping right now and when he gets up we will go have a nice afternoon out. Without the harness, but again that is non of your business.

The thing is: Part of being two years old -- three or four, whatever -- is that you don't have restraint. Something exciting happens, you get excited, and all discretion goes out the window. It is part of being a baby. It is like a dog. You can have the best trained dog in the world, but a squirrel comes by and he forgets himself in a moment.
You can say 'my child behaves.' But he or she doesn't if a distraction comes up. They simply do not have the capacity yet.
Unless, they are in mortal fear of you.
I have two boys, both teenagers, by the way.

To have a dog that would break concentration like that obviously means it's not well trained...

Some kids at a certain age will not hold your hand, throw themselves about and refuse to be restrained in a seat or stroller. It happens. They may be perfectly happy to have 2 feet of "room" to dance around ahead or beside you. As an early childhood specialist with a background in psychology, teaching Pre school and as a paraprofessional having worked with developmentally delayed/disabled young children with behavioral challenges- I'm not judging. Never done it myself but I personally see nothing wrong with it. Letting your 2 year old wander around out of your sight in a public/crowded setting? See that allllll the time and seriously dangerous.

This! =D An educated response! Thank you!

lolololololol! Oh my! I was anti kid leash till I had my second child. Korbin (my first son) understood rules and limitations from the get go. My second son, Nigel, did the exact opposite. If there is danger, he is there. Blink and there is trouble. We used a leash with him only once because we were at Riverfest which is a big thing in our state and even with 3 sets of eyes on him, he still was unable to be contained. He could never use a high chair because no amount of straps could keep him contained for longer than 30 seconds. So when we set off on this trip when he was 2 yrs old, my MIL insisted I bring the hand me down kid leash my sister gave me (unused) when I had my first child. I brought it as a precaution and was glad I did. First off, Nigel LOVED it. He enjoyed having that 4 ft of freedom. It was also an Elmo harness and that is what he was into at the time so he thought it looked awesome. We all had an excellent time because he was happy and not being told "NO" constantly. When we got back home, he wore the harness as an accessory but there was no leash attached.

I feel like sometimes a leash is better than constantly yelling at the kid. If the kid doesn't hate it then you shouldn't either. Sometimes it is the best thing so the family can have a good time. I do not believe in using them constantly but when there are a few thousand people it doesn't hurt to be extra cautious.

Wow... never used a carseat? That's just unsafe IMO! My daughter will be 8 and she still sits in a high backbooster. I can't imagine a two year old never using a carseat... unless they were never in a car!

Wow it's called public transportation...lol

An 8 yr in a booster hahaha omg smh my nephew is 7 and he doesn't use one.

Apparently my mom used to use one with my brother...
she only started after he ran away in crowds numerous times... and the time we were on vacation, and we got out of the car and he sprinted through the gate and jumped into the deep end of the pool... he was only 3, couldn't swim...

so i understand.

WOW, this thread is ridiculous. Congrats to the people who think they know everything.

do what works for you and yours.

Thanks, duct tape fixes everything!

Btw it's 9pm here - my children are in bed upstairs for the night!