Divorced Women keeping the "ex" last name

If I got married and the last name was easier than my current last name (sitting at 11 letters)... you bet your farm I'm keeping his last name.

It is so much freaking trouble to change your name.

I kept it for my daughter. period.

It's EXPENSIVE and a pain in the butt to change your name back, at least it is here in my state.

If my new guy thinks it's disrespectful...then maybe he isn't the guy for me.

I kept it for my daughter. period.

^this

I kept mine for a long time because changing your name is a biach. Then I was getting remarried and was like, "welp, I guess I'll just wait until I need to get my new name."

I'll take my fiancee's lase name when we marry but until then its my exes. We share children and he gets it. A name doesn't show commitment. actions do!

I know alot of women who have had kids with there ex decide not to change there last name because they want to have the same last name as their kids. I personally changed my last name back to my maiden name becuase I know longer wanted to have that connection with my ex.

I think most of the time it's purely logistical when a woman keeps the ex last name. For example, my boss has her ex husband's last name still (they've been divorced for 4 years now) because she is the CEO of a company and has her name (with the ex last name) on several official business documents, and it would be a nightmare to go through and change every single thing, and that's after she goes through the nightmare that is changing her last name for personal documents. It's just way too complicated to change that many things, so it's easier to keep it. Also, she is known in the industry by her ex last name, so it's easier as an identifier for her to keep it.

Another example, my parents got divorced but my mom didn't change her last name until she re-married a few years later. She went from my/my dad's last name to her current husband's last name without the step in between---just would've been a hassle. Don't wanna get into the specifics of the situation, but I get why she didn't revert to her maiden name in between.

Now, if it's just your typical run-of-the-mill divorce, I realize it's a pain in the *kitten* to change your name back, but unless you've got your former married name on a ton of legal documents that would have to be changed or you're going to get re-married soon anyway, I don't see why one would want to keep the ex's last name anyway.

Since changing my name to my husbands was such a PITA I wouldn't change it back. I've already told him that I'd keep his last name in the event of a divorce because I don't want to go through the hassle.

I kept it so that my son would still 'identify' with me. And also because my maiden name was atrocious and I didn't like to be identified with my paternal family.

Alot of people do this is they have children, so they keep the same last name as the children. If no kids, I think you should go back to your maiden name. I did.

Ditto.

If it works for you, use it. No, seriously.............

My mom kept her last name when she divorced my dad because she wanted the same last name as me and my brother because we were fairly young...I was the older at 7. However, she just got her second divorce from my step dad and went back to her maiden name, but my sister is 12 so I don't think it bothers her that my mom has a different last name.

I think its fine to keep the last name for as long as you want, as long as your not remarried. now, if a woman marries a different man, then i would think its a little odd, that they want to keep their ex husbands last name still. but if they are just divorced and not remarried or anything, i think the woman can keep the name for as long as she wants. personally if i ever got divorced, i would keep my husbands last name for awhile. and then eventually if i got remarried to a different guy, then i would switch it.