I need a girl's advice regarding a man's problem.

Holy Crap.....ok, obviously the OP gets zero points for social skills. Yes, he is thinking like a guy without a clue. I am not defending the original post in any way. But come on people. On page 3 of this nightmare thread he says, "got my answer, my thought process is all wrong. I'm an idiot for bringing it up....(im paraphrasing here) and then we endure 6 more PAGES of piling on with everyone telling him what a dumb-*kitten* he is. REALLY??? Lets make sure we really kick the crap out of him while he's down. uuuuhhhh....he is starting to get back up again.....quick, someone else kick him in the nuts again. Give the guy a freaking break people.

He has acknowledged he has done the wrong thing. Do we leave something for the vultures or is absolutely necessary to steal every last stinking scrap of dignity he possesses.

This is why I rarely post something. Not that my social skills are as bad as this but you make a slip up like this and whole friggin' world turns out to tell you what a Fu*K up you are. <shakes head>

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If you really want to know, just ask. If she's a close friend she shouldn't be too offended. If she does get really offended, then she's a weirdo. Why would you be offended by your friend's genuine concern?

Seriously, what kind of people don't want honest friends. I would also expect someone as my friend to tell me I look like crap in an outfit, swim suits included.

Don't approach her? Why is it even your business?

Not a woman here, but when it comes to weight, it's generally best to not ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever be the one to initiate a conversation on that subject.

I think you missed an "ever".....you're short one.

Holy Crap.....ok, obviously the OP gets zero points for social skills. Yes, he is thinking like a guy without a clue. I am not defending the original post in any way. But come on people. On page 3 of this nightmare thread he says, "got my answer, my thought process is all wrong. I'm an idiot for bringing it up....(im paraphrasing here) and then we endure 6 more PAGES of piling on with everyone telling him what a dumb-*kitten* he is. REALLY??? Lets make sure we really kick the crap out of him while he's down. uuuuhhhh....he is starting to get back up again.....quick, someone else kick him in the nuts again. Give the guy a freaking break people.

He has acknowledged he has done the wrong thing. Do we leave something for the vultures or is absolutely necessary to steal every last stinking scrap of dignity he possesses.

This is why I rarely post something. Not that my social skills are as bad as this but you make a slip up like this and whole friggin' world turns out to tell you what a Fu*K up you are. <shakes head>

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Some people don't read every single post in a thread. I read the OP, which prompted me to respond. I didn't read to the third page. I didn't even know that he had responded until someone else on page 12 responded to his response. In his response, he explained his thought process, and that sounded pretty seriously messed up and worthy of addressing as well. If he doesn't want responses, he shouldn't ask for them.

Holy Crap.....ok, obviously the OP gets zero points for social skills. Yes, he is thinking like a guy without a clue. I am not defending the original post in any way. But come on people. On page 3 of this nightmare thread he says, "got my answer, my thought process is all wrong. I'm an idiot for bringing it up....(im paraphrasing here) and then we endure 6 more PAGES of piling on with everyone telling him what a dumb-*kitten* he is. REALLY??? Lets make sure we really kick the crap out of him while he's down. uuuuhhhh....he is starting to get back up again.....quick, someone else kick him in the nuts again. Give the guy a freaking break people.

He has acknowledged he has done the wrong thing. Do we leave something for the vultures or is absolutely necessary to steal every last stinking scrap of dignity he possesses.

This is why I rarely post something. Not that my social skills are as bad as this but you make a slip up like this and whole friggin' world turns out to tell you what a Fu*K up you are. <shakes head>

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Some people don't read every single post in a thread. I read the OP, which prompted me to respond. I didn't read to the third page. I didn't even know that he had responded until someone else on page 12 responded to his response. In his response, he explained his thought process, and that sounded pretty seriously messed up and worthy of addressing as well. If he doesn't want responses, he shouldn't ask for them.

well now that we KNOW he has acknowledged a lack of wisdom, lets continue to beat the crap out of him.

Email the mods and ask this be removed.
You are going to be eaten alive.
Don't say anything to the lady.
Apologize now....throw bacon....before this gets out of hand.

You are my new hero.

My advice from nearly 20 years of marriage is to just listen and not try to solve problems even if you see the obvious solution to these problems.

You are a wise, wise man.

Holy Crap.....ok, obviously the OP gets zero points for social skills. Yes, he is thinking like a guy without a clue. I am not defending the original post in any way. But come on people. On page 3 of this nightmare thread he says, "got my answer, my thought process is all wrong. I'm an idiot for bringing it up....(im paraphrasing here) and then we endure 6 more PAGES of piling on with everyone telling him what a dumb-*kitten* he is. REALLY??? Lets make sure we really kick the crap out of him while he's down. uuuuhhhh....he is starting to get back up again.....quick, someone else kick him in the nuts again. Give the guy a freaking break people.

He has acknowledged he has done the wrong thing. Do we leave something for the vultures or is absolutely necessary to steal every last stinking scrap of dignity he possesses.

This is why I rarely post something. Not that my social skills are as bad as this but you make a slip up like this and whole friggin' world turns out to tell you what a Fu*K up you are.

Did you miss the part in his reply (the one you are refering to) that he wants to tell her that her loose skin can be "fixed"? Yeah, I think you might have.

That's the nature of online forums, they get carried away and silly, if the OP can't handle it (and it looks like he can) then he shouldn't post.

what a wonderful excuse to be as unkind as possible to someone.....great......

<said with a cheech & chong accent>hheeeeey man, if you can't handle it don't post.

I, personally, wasn't "unkind" at all. However, it is very unkind to look at people and judge their flaws and assume that they can be "fixed" and then to post about said flaws publicly; even though he didn't name names (hopefully she's not on MFP!). I wish I had a Cheech and Chong accent... that would be funny. :smokin:

Holy Crap.....ok, obviously the OP gets zero points for social skills. Yes, he is thinking like a guy without a clue. I am not defending the original post in any way. But come on people. On page 3 of this nightmare thread he says, "got my answer, my thought process is all wrong. I'm an idiot for bringing it up....(im paraphrasing here) and then we endure 6 more PAGES of piling on with everyone telling him what a dumb-*kitten* he is. REALLY??? Lets make sure we really kick the crap out of him while he's down. uuuuhhhh....he is starting to get back up again.....quick, someone else kick him in the nuts again. Give the guy a freaking break people.

He has acknowledged he has done the wrong thing. Do we leave something for the vultures or is absolutely necessary to steal every last stinking scrap of dignity he possesses.

This is why I rarely post something. Not that my social skills are as bad as this but you make a slip up like this and whole friggin' world turns out to tell you what a Fu*K up you are. <shakes head>

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I didnt read everything...just the original post and wrote my response. I do have to agree with you on this one. Men sometimes dont think. haha

I didn't read al the responses here, just so you know.

I guess if you really want to know, you can begin a conversation by talking about your own weight loss journey, to make her possibly feel more comfortable about talking about the subject. I am not saying that it will cause her to confide without a lot of gentle careful probing into the subject from your own personal experience. Whatever you do, DO NOT ask directly. She will volunteer the information when and if she is ready and feels comfortable to do so.

I wouldn't ask unless you think there is a health problem. If so, then maybe you could say some things about your health/ weight loss journey and see if she feels like sharing her stories if there are any. If she doesn't open up she doesn't want to talk about.
Ex. While I was trying to get in shape "this "happened, did anything like that ever happen to you or anyone you know?

From a man's point of view....... dude, learn something about women, please!

I've been with my wife for over 25 years. How...by NEVER asking her anything this stoopid. Sorry dude...put the doll down and walk away.

Holy Crap.....ok, obviously the OP gets zero points for social skills. Yes, he is thinking like a guy without a clue. I am not defending the original post in any way. But come on people. On page 3 of this nightmare thread he says, "got my answer, my thought process is all wrong. I'm an idiot for bringing it up....(im paraphrasing here) and then we endure 6 more PAGES of piling on with everyone telling him what a dumb-*kitten* he is. REALLY??? Lets make sure we really kick the crap out of him while he's down. uuuuhhhh....he is starting to get back up again.....quick, someone else kick him in the nuts again. Give the guy a freaking break people.

He has acknowledged he has done the wrong thing. Do we leave something for the vultures or is absolutely necessary to steal every last stinking scrap of dignity he possesses.

This is why I rarely post something. Not that my social skills are as bad as this but you make a slip up like this and whole friggin' world turns out to tell you what a Fu*K up you are.

Did you miss the part in his reply (the one you are refering to) that he wants to tell her that her loose skin can be "fixed"? Yeah, I think you might have.

That's the nature of online forums, they get carried away and silly, if the OP can't handle it (and it looks like he can) then he shouldn't post.

what a wonderful excuse to be as unkind as possible to someone.....great......

<said with a cheech & chong accent>hheeeeey man, if you can't handle it don't post.

I, personally, wasn't "unkind" at all. However, it is very unkind to look at people and judge their flaws and assume that they can be "fixed" and then to post about said flaws publicly; even though he didn't name names (hopefully she's not on MFP!). I wish I had a Cheech and Chong accent... that would be funny. :smokin:

I'll post one on youtube for you

Unless you start dating her, leave it alone. This is not a friend "category" topic. As others have said, it's her own body. She is obviously aware of the issues and doesn't need you to point them out.

Unless he starts dating her? How is that conversation going to go??

"Hey baby... I really enjoyed that movie last night. Sooo funny. Hey, speaking of funny things... why do you look like you're melting??"

Just a guess, but sex is probably not an option that night.

This is funny! But really why does it make it all right if he is dating her and not if he is just her friend.

I can honestly say...that in the time I have been on this site...I have NEVER seen everyone post almost the EXACT same response and agree with each other....I am too shocked to reply now....

This :huh: