Men..Is your wife outta shape?

If my husband came on here talking about my weight without me knowing, I probably would be hurt. Just saying.

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Any smart man who is married and whose wife is here would never comment on this thread... I would kill my husband if he replied. Ahh yea my wife is outta shape. But being the wonderful husband he is, he would never even think about doing that. He may think it but he would never publically say it...

But I do understand your point. I do have a few friends who think its okay to let themselves go since they got the man. One even told me Ive been married for 30 years. this is as good as it gets. I'm afraid to ever think that way. Men are visual creatures who get turned on by sight. Mama always told me that we have to be visually appealing to our spouses. they can get as fat and out of shape as they want but we cant. It aint right but its true...

If my husband came on here talking about my weight without me knowing, I probably would be hurt. Just saying.

Thanks for the reminder. Love my wife - wouldn't hurt her for the world...

Im not married but me and my girlfriends were talking about this too. I hated that i gained weight so i dropped my boyfriend still likes me the samebut anyways this other girl mentioned shes put weight on (obviously ) but dosnt care because she has a signig. other. I agree with the post above, married/taken woman generally get more comfortable and "stop trying" if you will where as single woman work hard as they want to attract someone

My wife is on here and I'll comment. Yeah - after our second child we both got out of shape and put on a bunch of excess baggage. You don't have anyone to try to impress anymore, so you just let things slide.

Fortunately we decided to work together to get back in shape and look completely different then what we did 20 months ago.

I joke with my husband that he could divorce me because of fraud. I've gained 90lbs in the 7 years we've been together. And honestly I never thought "I have him now, I can just let myself go". I started eating differently with him, bigger meals. I started to eat as much as he did. He had 5 pieces of pizza i did too. I also have some medical things that caused it but that can't be my excuse.

I'm losing weight for myself but also for my family. I want him to be proud that I am his wife. He tells me I'm beautiful but I know he'd like it if I was healthier.

Any smart man who is married and whose wife is here would never comment on this thread... I would kill my husband if he replied. Ahh yea my wife is outta shape. But being the wonderful husband he is, he would never even think about doing that. He may think it but he would never publically say it...

But I do understand your point. I do have a few friends who think its okay to let themselves go since they got the man. One even told me Ive been married for 30 years. this is as good as it gets. I'm afraid to ever think that way. Men are visual creatures who get turned on by sight. Mama always told me that we have to be visually appealing to our spouses. they can get as fat and out of shape as they want but we cant. It aint right but its true...

Women do have alot of pressure to be and remain physically fit.

Yep and its so unfair. But such is life.

MrSassypants is on here, I hope he does answer this thread.

I let myself go, he never said a word about it, just loved me for who I am. He was more concerned about how unhappy I was with myself than the extra 60 pounds I had gained. Now we are both working hard to be smokin' naked.

When I began dating my boyfriend (around 4 1/2 years ago) him and I both gained weight once we moved in together. We'd spend the majority of our time going out to dinner, getting drinks, watching movies and eating.. just constant eating. We both gained (I gained around 80 pounds) and I'm not sure what he gained.

It wasn't because we didn't have to worry about how we looked anymore.. it was just a common interest that we both had and it went waaaay out of control.

Idk I never pay attention most likely not

So men tell me is it true! After you married your wife or started dating your girlfriend exclusively did she begin gaining weight?
A few single girlfriends and I were having this conversation and one of my friends said she felt like she was going to have to become fat and nasty in order to find a man to marry.
I wasnt offended because I myself have lost over 100lbs "before" I married my husband...but I was wondering if her perception of married women was true....are more single women thin, and more married women over weight?

There are a lot of factors to consider. When you get into a relationship, you eat more. You go out, you cook for each other, whatever, and you don't really think about it. You get complacent because you're too comfortable with each other. You spend hours snuggling instead of exercising. It is very normal form women AND men to gain weight when they get into a relationship for those reasons.

Those are just things you have to be aware of and then you probably won't fall into that so much.

But women who have been married a while and have kids and a house to run and sometimes I full-time job on top of it all get lost in their busy lives and a lot of them just put themselves last and the result is you become less fit. This won't happen to everyone, but these are the reasons behind it.

So men tell me is it true! After you married your wife or started dating your girlfriend exclusively did she begin gaining weight?
A few single girlfriends and I were having this conversation and one of my friends said she felt like she was going to have to become fat and nasty in order to find a man to marry.
I wasnt offended because I myself have lost over 100lbs "before" I married my husband...but I was wondering if her perception of married women was true....are more single women thin, and more married women over weight?

I'm guessing your friends have a lot of other reasons for not being able to find the right man to marry, if they're basically saying that only fat and nasty women are able to get married. Men don't want to marry all types of women.