Broken up with Again...

Does he not realize people can be overweight and fit? In high school I was 180, and I was considered overweight. However, I was a competitive swimmer and did powder puff football (it's no joke!) I was overweight, yes, but I was athletic. (And carried my weight much differently than now.)

He did you the BIGGEST favor. If he's got such a huge ego, and it so shallow about the fact that you're a little bigger than his personal preference, what else would he have not liked? Would you end up being too skinny once you hit your goal weight? I'd call him a D-bag, but that would imply that he can even get near any lady parts. No wonder why he's single!

But honestly, he's probably super insecure and relies solely on his looks to get him by right now. Those will change and fade away, and when he's an ugly old man, remember you'll be that hot MILF (if/when you have kids) that all the other ladies are jealous of, and teenage boys fantasize about.

That's terrible! Like the pp's said, you dodged a bullet & he did you a favor. There is no future with someone that shallow. Keep getting healthy for you! The right person will come along, loving you for who you are, regardless of your weight.

Wow, what an a-hole.

All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.

It's one thing to have preferences or to end things if it doesn't work, but wow, I'm impressed at the level of callousness in his response. (Then again, women are equally mean too. Welcome to combat dating!)

With an attitude like that he... wait, no, he's going to get laid a *lot*.

It sucks I know but really this guy is the one missing out....It is just better that you found out now. If he really liked you then he would support you. Its cool that he was honest but that doesnt mean that he is a good man. Not sayin that he isnt I really dont know enough about him to tell....It does seem tho that he is not really ready to be in it for the long haul with anyone...fit or not...

he did you a favor, if he is that shallow just think of how terrible things would be in the long run.

I definitely agree.

never judged him to be a good man....still honesty, though far from tactfully displayed, is a quality worth noting. granted he lacks tact in all respects but I've turned down brothers solely on their not meeting my height requirements. no better I know, but what's worst my honesty or my stringing them along because I can when I know they don't stand a chance?

Definitely better off without someone like that in your life. If anything, use his shallowness as motivation. You'll reach your goal - look fantastic and be a good person - he'll still be an *kitten*. Anyone who places 100% of your value in line with your number on a scale is not worth it.

Sorry to hear that, he is definitely a piece of **** and your better off without him thats for sure!!!

Geez, what an idiot.

Thank god, he ditched you. Maybe it does not sound positive in the first place, but it is meant well.
Cause you should be an equal partner for someone you are dating and not a trophy something to be seen with!

He did you a favor. Doesn't make him any less of a loser though and I know it doesn't fix your feelings. You were honest and upfront with him. If he wanted someone athletic and thin, he should have been honest and upfront about that. Email him when you are at goal and tell him that he did you a huge favor cause you realized that you didn't want to be seen with schlubs like him.

Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet.

I agree. He doesn't like you for you - he wants you to change. Imagine what it would be like if you got back together with him when you *do* get down to your goal weight! "I think you should grow your hair out," "Are those....stretch marks?!", "Why are you eating that burger?"...he's a *kitten* because he's not that into you. Not your weight - YOU! You deserve better.

That doesn't mean you can't find a hot guy with a six pack of abs that won't like you for you. Trust me, I dated and dumped them before, at over 200 pounds. I'm telling you it's not your weight that's the issue here. It's because he's a d*ck.

truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man.

You consider a man who can't hold a mature face-to-face conversation a quality specimen and a truly good man?

Don't throw any fire on me, but I agree that at least he was honest. He could have kept dating you and just started seeing other girls behind your back BUT if he can't be with you while your fighting the good fight then as someone else has said he doesn't deserve you once you once the battle is done. And an email? Really? If it were one date I can maybe see a phone call but two dates? He should have met with you and explained his insecurities and that its really him not you, because its obvious you have it all girl. The only thing your WORKING on (not missing) is your health being in order. Keep pushing, let this fuel the fire, please don't let your flame go out because some guy wants the model chick with the work in progress heart.

But that's the thing-he wasn't honest.

He went on two dates knowing her appearance and fitness level. Obviously, it wasn't her appearance or there would have been no dates.

This sort of man will never be happy with anyone because he is so insecure. No woman will ever meet his list of requirements because as soon as she does he will change them.

Apparently you've been lucky enough to never get involved with one of these excuses for a human being, so you don't recognize it. I'm sincerely glad that you've dodged men like this, but they are not "honest".