Broken up with Again...

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  • Midnight_Sunshine
    Midnight_Sunshine Posts: 369 Member
    Men never fail to astound me.
  • xMillyLouisex
    xMillyLouisex Posts: 171 Member
    oh my god what a complete C U NEXT TUESDAY!!

    i wouldnt worry about it, who the hell would want to be with someone like that anyway, like everyone has said, you have definately dodged a bullet and he wont last long with a girl with that attitude cos he'l just get kicked to the curb then he will understand what rejection feels like.. aargh it makes me mad!

    i hope you are okay though i know something like that can really hurt ur self esteem, i used to be obese as a child/ early teenager and always got comments like that it really, really hurts :(

    x
  • complicatedmoves
    complicatedmoves Posts: 84 Member
    So I'd started dating this great guy. Before I thought I'd never be in the same league as him in order to go out with such a good lucking guy that was also smart and funny and willing for adventure. We met through a dating site and I was upfront when he asked me about my weight. I told him I was overweight but had already lost a good chunk of weight (I think i was around 23 lbs lost at the time). Well, he and I did meet up and went out on two different dates and since then my weight loss has grown and I'm now sitting at a36 lbs lost, almost 37.

    Both of our dates involved exercise, be it swimming, biking, walking, or running. All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.

    screw him! You want to be with someone, that wants to be with you. If he can't be with you through the good and bad. He isn't worth it, he isn't worth you. He is a total superficial jerk!

    Your prince will come, just wait.
  • sdavis448
    sdavis448 Posts: 193 Member
    Send a picture of him when you hit goal weight...

    Tell him that he should give you a call when he grows up and stops being such an *kitten*.
    If it weren't for those factors, he'd fit your criteria quite well.
  • AprilRN10
    AprilRN10 Posts: 548 Member
    Wow. What a moron. You definitely deserve better than that. Tell him to contact you if he ever decides to grow up.

    This.
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    So I'd started dating this great guy. Before I thought I'd never be in the same league as him in order to go out with such a good lucking guy that was also smart and funny and willing for adventure. We met through a dating site and I was upfront when he asked me about my weight. I told him I was overweight but had already lost a good chunk of weight (I think i was around 23 lbs lost at the time). Well, he and I did meet up and went out on two different dates and since then my weight loss has grown and I'm now sitting at a36 lbs lost, almost 37.

    Both of our dates involved exercise, be it swimming, biking, walking, or running. All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.

    When you do get to your goal weight, buy a hot sexy outfit, take a pic and send it to him with a note saying here is something you will never have, *kitten*.
  • Rhea30
    Rhea30 Posts: 625 Member
    So I'd started dating this great guy. Before I thought I'd never be in the same league as him in order to go out with such a good lucking guy that was also smart and funny and willing for adventure. We met through a dating site and I was upfront when he asked me about my weight. I told him I was overweight but had already lost a good chunk of weight (I think i was around 23 lbs lost at the time). Well, he and I did meet up and went out on two different dates and since then my weight loss has grown and I'm now sitting at a36 lbs lost, almost 37.

    Both of our dates involved exercise, be it swimming, biking, walking, or running. All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.

    He isn't worth it and he obviously has insecure issues if he cares that heavily on what others are thinking. You don't want to get with someone who is that insecure.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    So I'd started dating this great guy. Before I thought I'd never be in the same league as him in order to go out with such a good lucking guy that was also smart and funny and willing for adventure. We met through a dating site and I was upfront when he asked me about my weight. I told him I was overweight but had already lost a good chunk of weight (I think i was around 23 lbs lost at the time). Well, he and I did meet up and went out on two different dates and since then my weight loss has grown and I'm now sitting at a36 lbs lost, almost 37.

    Both of our dates involved exercise, be it swimming, biking, walking, or running. All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.

    I think, while it hurts, you dodged a bullet.

    And I think when you get to your goal weight, you should have long since lost his number.

    Creep.
  • MissAnjy
    MissAnjy Posts: 2,480 Member
    Better yet, when you do hit your goal weight, send him photos of you and your NEW boyfriend.
  • wingchunrick
    wingchunrick Posts: 267 Member
    Sounds like he's done you a huge favour. He's a loser and you deserve someone that wants to be with you because of who you are, not what he wants you to be.
  • wlkumpf
    wlkumpf Posts: 241 Member
    push through, when you get down to your goal weight... the best revenge is not caring. Find another guy who isnt' shallow :)
    I tend to take negatives and push them towards motivation and also revenge in the most passive sense of the word.

    At least you found out now. He could have let it go a lot farther and just planned isolated dates where you were alone. He sounds like someone you are better off without.

    Do this for you :) You are worth it and YOU are doing fantastic!!!!!
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    from the other responses, I'll probably get a serious tongue lashing but:

    truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man. u have expectations of what u desire in a man/mate, y can't he w/o being bashed for a normal human tendency?

    u a grown woman...u've three choices: get healthy n contact him n c where this "thing" goes....or get healthy n press on, finding someone new who may or may not be honest n true to either himself or u of his expectations n desires.....or rock it solo, where the only one's expectations u have to meet r ur own.

    Here's the issue I have with this... she was UP FRONT with him. He KNEW what he was getting into BEFORE they ever went out and they went out TWICE at her size. That is no good man. That's a douche. He seriously did her a favor by being one so early on, so she could move on with her life and find the guy who will love her for her and not her (current) size.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    from the other responses, I'll probably get a serious tongue lashing but:

    truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man. u have expectations of what u desire in a man/mate, y can't he w/o being bashed for a normal human tendency?

    u a grown woman...u've three choices: get healthy n contact him n c where this "thing" goes....or get healthy n press on, finding someone new who may or may not be honest n true to either himself or u of his expectations n desires.....or rock it solo, where the only one's expectations u have to meet r ur own.

    Here's the issue I have with this... she was UP FRONT with him. He KNEW what he was getting into BEFORE they ever went out and they went out TWICE at her size. That is no good man. That's a douche. He seriously did her a favor by being one so early on, so she could move on with her life and find the guy who will love her for her and not her (current) size.

    Not to mention the "I don't want to be seen with someone who looks like you" part.

    Is that really necessary??? He was just mean. Not honest. Mean.
  • TheUglyFriend
    TheUglyFriend Posts: 338
    "If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe

    His loss.
  • Voncreepy2
    Voncreepy2 Posts: 1,450 Member
    :explode: He did you a favor.....can you imagine being married to someone like that, honestly? Someone that shallow doesn't deserve anyone. We have an aqaintance like this. He scrutinizes the outside appearence of every woman....I mean finds something wrong with everyone even women who I think are just flawless. He is STILL single and I believe always will be....no big surprise here. You will meet someone deserving of you one day, who will love you warts and all. That is the type of man who will stick it out through thick and thin. This makes me sooooo mad that he would actually say that outloud!!!!! What a dill hole!!!!:noway:
  • victorialeehyde
    victorialeehyde Posts: 77
    Wow, dude is a jerk. Totally not relationship material to begin with.
  • lcn1220
    lcn1220 Posts: 124 Member
    OP: You can lose all the weight in your wl ticker and look absolutely stunning. This "great" guy on the other hand will be a vain, shallow, cowardly ahole for the rest of his life.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    from the other responses, I'll probably get a serious tongue lashing but:

    truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man. u have expectations of what u desire in a man/mate, y can't he w/o being bashed for a normal human tendency?

    u a grown woman...u've three choices: get healthy n contact him n c where this "thing" goes....or get healthy n press on, finding someone new who may or may not be honest n true to either himself or u of his expectations n desires.....or rock it solo, where the only one's expectations u have to meet r ur own.

    Here's the issue I have with this... she was UP FRONT with him. He KNEW what he was getting into BEFORE they ever went out and they went out TWICE at her size. That is no good man. That's a douche. He seriously did her a favor by being one so early on, so she could move on with her life and find the guy who will love her for her and not her (current) size.

    Not to mention the "I don't want to be seen with someone who looks like you" part.

    Is that really necessary??? He was just mean. Not honest. Mean.

    Exactly. Who DOES that to another human?
  • almc170
    almc170 Posts: 1,093 Member
    Dudes like that ARE NOT worth getting upset over. His comments say far more about him than you. I dated a guy once in college who gave me grief for not having the body of a porn star (like any of them are natural!!). It didn’t matter that I was thin and in good shape at the time. He was just a pathetic douche who would have criticized me no matter what.
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    email him back and tell him he doesn't fit your criteria of NOT BEING A DOUCHE! Tell him if he ever finds that he is no longer a douche, to re evaluate himself...because he will always be a douche.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    never judged him to be a good man....still honesty, though far from tactfully displayed, is a quality worth noting. granted he lacks tact in all respects but I've turned down brothers solely on their not meeting my height requirements. no better I know, but what's worst my honesty or my stringing them along because I can when I know they don't stand a chance?

    I'm pretty sure there's something in between being incredibly and nastily insulting and stringing someone along.
  • _Ivian
    _Ivian Posts: 198
    I'm with everyone else on this one. Fawk that guy. Douche bucket!

    Wishing explosive diarrhea on him for you :flowerforyou:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    It's cute how he thinks he deserves to be contacted ever ever again. *kitten*.
  • MyTime1207
    MyTime1207 Posts: 56 Member
    Total a@* and you don't have to put up with that. Stay positive for yourself and don't quit.
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    he did you a favor, if he is that shallow just think of how terrible things would be in the long run.

    This.....totally this...
  • poshcouture
    poshcouture Posts: 610
    Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet.

    This^^^

    Not worth your trouble really. And what a jerk!

    Agreed. I will say that it's nice to have a male partner to work out with and keep you motivated, but leave *kitten* where they need to be - alone. Focus on you and getting you where you need to be. Eventually the right one will find you.

    I know - easier said than done.
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    Sorry he was a douche!
  • Kouch_ka
    Kouch_ka Posts: 15 Member
    Wishing explosive diarrhea on him for you :flowerforyou:

    ^ Ditto. It's better off you saw the real person he is. Shallow.
    His girl being a trophy is more important to him than actually connecting with her.
  • moniquelessard
    moniquelessard Posts: 418
    Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet.
    THIS!!!!!!

    YUP! What he said burns you... it would hurt me too. You sound nice, and he sounds superficial. You can do better. Looks aren't everything. I say that YOU'RE out of HIS league. And don't forget that!
  • shadoewz
    shadoewz Posts: 46
    That guy is a jerk.......the best thing he did for you is to show his TRUE JERK COLORS. Here's to you finding a true HERO, then when you do get to your goal you can send the ZERO a photo and tell him to eat his heart out.

    Also, let's all pray for this jerk so that he never gets old, has an accident or surgery that leaves him with a scar, that he never loses his hair, etc.

    You are a good person and you deserve a better person, someone that will stand by you through anything, and encourage you in your endeavors

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