would you discipline someone for disciplining your child?

It depends on the circumstances and how the adult went about it. If my child got stopped and received a stern talking to because he was in danger, or about to harm himself or somebody else, I would not mind. However, if I am present at the time and see what is going on, then it is my job to discipline my child. And under NO CIRCUMSTANCES does anyone have the right to spank, slap, push, or harshly grab my child!

It depends on the situation. If you put your kid in the temporary custody of someone else, like your parents for example, then no. I would in fact WANT them to discipline my kid when they do things wrong. HOWEVER I would have had a chat with them about HOW to discipline, and when to do it, and such.

If it's some random stranger coming up and did something to "discipline" my kid, I would get in their face and tell them to back the **** off. The only people who have the right to do this is you and the the people you put your kid in temporary custody of. The police can obviously if they are old enough for juvi and what not.

If someone has a problem with my kid doing something, they need to come to me and tell me. I would be the responsible party of them, and they have NO RIGHT to go discipline my kid at all.

This said, when I do have kids, people had better NOT try anything like that unless it's people who I put my kid under the care of personally. >:(

This reminded me of something that happened when my son was in elementary school. He came home one day and told me that teachers lock bad kids in a box in a room off from the library. My son had an active imagination so I kind of ignored the comment until he told me his friend got locked in the box that day. I asked him more questions and it was a plywood box with no windows and a lock. Well, I planned to ask the teacher about it when I picked him up from school, but when I arrived at school there was a fire alarm and chaos. When I found my son he said a little boy lit his school work on fire inside of the box! I asked the teacher and she said it was the 'time out box' and that 'parents gave permission for their kids to be disciplined using the box.' My comment was that I can't lock my child in a box at home so how the heck can a parent give permission for their kids to be locked in one at school? I called the superintendent of the school and he told me that the box 'really should be painted' and that the children were 'special needs kids' I was absolutely outraged and threatened to call the local paper. Soon after the box was gone. But, really? This was in 1990's. I would have locked the teacher in the box if she ever tried that with my son!

First off teach your children to respect others and others property. If you do this then there would no need to be disciplining anyone's children except your own. Second, bring your unruley children to my house and your damn straight I'm going to say something to them if they are disrepectful to me, my house or my property. Third, if we are out and about and your children are doing something I consider wrong or even dangerous, that's solely on you, cause I'm not saying anything, not my property or my business.

We went out to eat and one of the kids ran by this old lady and she grabbed him by the arm and let him have it....I went off on this lady, she had no business putting her hands on my kid or anyone else's and I let her know it in no uncertain terms. Then I got called rude and of course I'm not gonna let that go and I explained that rude is what they were for thinking they had rights to a child that was not theirs. Not to mention they were trying to discipline him for screaming and crying when it wasn't even him doing it, it was a child at another table.

My kids knew better than to disrespect others and others property and they knew better than to act out at the store or out to dinner. I won't stand for it and they knew it.

I am also sitting in the 'it takes a village' camp. I don't have kids, but I have had customer service jobs and live with my little cousins. Often times, I see parents 'too tired' to deal with their children when they are ruining things for other people or about to put themselves or others in danger. So I believe if I had kids and someone went: 'stop that.' to my kid or gave a stern talking to if they were doing something really bad then have at it. Of course, I have seen this in various examples.

One time I was a Cashier at WalMart, a woman's kid kept on trying to get on the bag carousel. So she looked me in the eye and said: 'If he does it again, tell him to stop it. He needs to learn not to do it and to respect other people's work places.' I of course was in shock at that, so when he did it again I was like: 'Um, please get off- you might hurt yourself.' and of course, he didn't listen. So the mom told me to do it firmly because I'm the adult and he should listen to me. That something involving his safety shouldn't be a request but a command. So I did what she said and sure enough the kid was shocked and got off it. He did put his fingers under the carousel and I said that it bites so he needs to move his fingers. He did, I went back to bagging and sure enough eh put his fingers back- and got pinched by it. He started crying and his mom was like: WELL SHE TOLD YOU NOT TO DO THAT B| (he was about 6).

The other time was at my theater job where someone had brought their baby and older kids (between 6 and 18) to a rated R movie. The baby started to cry and my co-worker who heard the child cry went in and told the person holding the baby (a teenager) that if the baby doesnt calm down in a minute they need to go into the hall until the baby calms down (thinking that the teenager might be in her 20s and was the mom). The Baby didn't do a manger went in and told the person holding the baby that again (again thinking it was the Mom.) The mother stood up, told everyone to leave the theater, called my coworker a F***ing hoodrat and my manager a F***ing B**ch ad said the baby wasn't crying for more than a minute. She and her family were promptly escorted out of the theater due to the mother's.

So I think the line is: Are they doing something to really be considered rude (Like when I worked nights, I did not like kids playing loud near my side of the house because I was trying to sleep and when I asked the parents to make them stop it, they didn't going KIDS WILL BE KIDS), something that hurts them or others, or ruining something people are paying for (kids running in theaters). Then tell the kids to stop it and explain why.

Depends on the person..I was raised with the whole it takes a village..I would not stand for a stranger to do it..but then I do it at church with the youth group kiddos..but then I am not a stranger...and they should know how to act..

But in no way would I do it at a grocery store. I remember once I worked in retail..and this kid was climbing through the window display. I walked up to the parent and told her to mind her child before something falls on him and he gets hurt...

Most of the time when you tell people their child is acting up..they get mad more from embarrassment than anything else..

My kids knew better than to disrespect others and others property and they knew better than to act out at the store or out to dinner. I won't stand for it and they knew it.

This is a point I've drilled into my children since the day they were born. While I let them do quite a bit of stuff other parents wouldn't let theirs do, they know they will be in a world of trouble for acting like a hoodlum. Because they have been before. I refuse to raise a child who is disrespectful and runs amok and isn't held accountable for their actions.

My kids knew better than to disrespect others and others property and they knew better than to act out at the store or out to dinner. I won't stand for it and they knew it.

This is a point I've drilled into my children since the day they were born. While I let them do quite a bit of stuff other parents wouldn't let theirs do, they know they will be in a world of trouble for acting like a hoodlum. Because they have been before. I refuse to raise a child who is disrespectful and runs amok and isn't held accountable for their actions.

EXACTLY.

How would this work if you lived with your boyfriend with a child and you spend more time with the kid then he does because he is working 2 jobs? Kids dont listen. I think hearing how disrespectful they are being from someone they dont know might make them want to be nicer. As far as slapping.. yelling at kids.. leave that up to the parents.

Depends.

If my child is doing something so disruptive that it's affecting other people or safety, then I think that it's acceptable within limits. Especially if I'm not around. Like if my daughter was trying to climb the cage to the lion exhibit during a field trip to the zoo, then the chaperone can go ahead and give her a time out. Just don't smack her around.

I'm raising my kids to listen to their elders. That includes other adults.