Partner hates me using MFP :(

My boyfriend doesn't know about me using MFP. I know if he did, though, he would tell me I don't need it. He doesn't think I need to lose weight. Your boyfriend/fiancee/husband is horrible to start a fight over you choosing to use MFP, though. If you're not looking to lose weight, and just looking to eat healthier... then you don't need to use MFP if it's going to cause problems with your love (even though he's just having a tantrum over nothing). If you're wanting to lose weight, though... then MFP is great. It trains your dedication, self-discipline, and easily keeps you on track for healthy weight loss. MFP trains you to be able to not log everything and just live a healthy lifestyle without worrying about gaining weight... it just may take a year or so for you to be able to do that. If this is what you want... then your lover needs to support you. Stress is a reason many people put on pounds! He shouldn't be putting you through something like that. You're not harming anybody... MFP is better than you harming yourself by anorexia or bulimia! He's just being a brat. I'm sorry you have to put up with that. He shouldn't be so judgmental of something just because it's different than the way he lives his life. You should ask him why it bothers him... if he dislikes it for a good reason (I can't think of any good reasons!), then try to set up some sort of compromise. What he thinks should matter to an extent... but if you're not harming anybody then he needs to be supportive of you! Even if he doesn't agree with something, he should always support you if he loves you more than anything. I would like to know why it bothers him so much, though. He just seems like a complete jerk, but he may have a good point as to why he would dislike MFP so much... instead of getting angry, he should have more self-control (maybe HE should use MFP!) and talk to you about his thoughts and avoid fights with the one he loves!

I think at the beginning it can be obessive, and people dont seem to understand and think you are taking the 'diet' thing a bit too far.
I say keep tracking and screw him!!

I think if you have a specific goal in mind, logging everything will help you get the most accurate reading possible although it'll never be 100%. If there is not specific goal in mind then i think you should just remember most of your food and do your logging in one big hit when your alone or not spending time with him. maybe logging everything every two minutes while your with him gets on his nerves. it annoys my GF!. lol.

good luck.

I'm 64 and have been dieting on and off for the last 50 years..... I choose whatever keeps me going and this is by far the best site I have EVER found. I'm in with a real chance of finishing what I started and I'd be real upset if my partner said what yours does. I guess all you can do is prove how much you need this by losing the weight. He won't moan then will he??

A lot of the time partners not understanding mfp has to do with user being on too much. That was my case in the beginning. I been on since January and have to admit that it's pretty addicting especially if you are new to the whole new social media scene as I was. After one disagreement I begin to take a look at how much time I was spending on mfp while my wife was there with me. I should have been spending quality time with her. After I made some major adjustment to my workout schedule and mfp use the stares ended. I usually just hop on and off at home unless she's looking at some girlie stuff on her laptop at the same time. Otherwise I'm usually on here while working graveyard.

This sounds like something you need to sit down and discuss calmly with your partner when the dust settles from your row.

It is one thing that you are using this to log and for support on diet and fitness - that is something you need to do for yourself. It can be challenging for those close to us when we are focussing so closely on logging, and on participating in this site generally, particularly in the beginning.

However in terms of your relationship, putting yourself in a position where you might receive relationship advice on here, when this is already a bone of contention between the two of you, might not necessarily be the best idea for many reasons. So speak to your partner - that is something you need to do for your relationship!

Just saying.

The main purpose of using MFP is to record and manage your calorie balance so that the net result is weight loss. I find that the hardest part is being totally honest and recording everything as accurately as possible. If you don't record accurately then forget about using MFP and do something else.

I have been told more than once that I am "over the top" with my insistence to record everything (including recovering wrappers from the bin to scan the bar-code). Well, sorry but that's the way it is and I have lost 35kgs over the last twelve months so something is working. My critics just have to "suck it up". I have also been told I am looking skinny and drawn, this comes from others being well meaning but perhaps a little jealous. Now I simply laugh and say my health is more about how I feel rather than how I look.

Being called "obsessive" is a tough way to describe your attention to detail and may be based on envy, best to laugh it off. The comments will go away after a while as you progress towards your goals. Yours is a very personal journey and it is best, though hard sometimes, to focus on what you need to achieve obtain your objective.

Best wishes

sounds like he is insecure and that that you might someone on here when all you are doing is to keep fit and healthy and I think you are doing the right way just tell him again why you are doing it and maybe ask him if he would like to join and that way will see that this site is for those that want to keep healthy and fit and not dating sex site that he might think it is so good luck

I tend to agree with the posters who are questioning what he's really objecting to---is it MFP or is it that you are working to lose weight?

Most people really work to avoid change and aren't very welcoming of change they didn't personally initiate. Even though you may not think that your efforts to get control of your health and weight don't affect him, they do.

Also, many partners become insecure about the relationship when their partners start looking and feeling better. They worry that you're fixing yourself up to get back out on the market.

And no, you can't out-exercise a poor diet. Weight loss is at least 80% diet.

Oh and in answer to your last question. Yes logging can take over your life and become obsessive. This is not a question of what you are doing not being "normal" - this is what is "normal" for you right now. Some people have the discipline to just exercise and eat sensibly, some of us don't. I accept that I do not have that discipline which is why, periodically, I feel the need to log my food intake.

What could be helpful for you and for those around you is if you allow yourself a day when you don't log. I sometimes do this on a Sunday, when me and my husband and son all eat together. This doesn't mean you stuff your face with cakes, bread and pies. You simply continue to eat healthily but don't obsess over the numbers or the portions. This takes the edge off the whole dieting thing and also gives you practice for the future when you stop logging forever!