Partner hates me using MFP :(
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my husband use to get on me and tell me not to obsess over my diet. Now I am diabetic and he is very close to being diebetic also, he joined MFP and is a very dedicated user. He gets it now,he never realized the impact food has on your life and how if we aren't deliberate with what we eat, we will not make the best choices,especially if you have a history of weight struggles. I would tell your partner if they really care about you they would leave you alone about it. Just do what is best for your health,it surely doesn't hurt him to have you use it. People can be so selfish sometimes. Good luck. If MFP helps you , do not quit using it.0
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I think the question is... How much time are you spending logging? If you use your phone, then are you on the phone constantly logging stuff? He's got a right to be upset if you phone is in your face when he's trying to spend time with you.
If you're on the computer, it's the same thing too.
If it's taking time away from your relationship, then you CAN find a way to adjust it.
There's nothing wrong with you logging your stuff. But if you're constantly on this website.... then that's what his issue probably is!!!
Log your stuff no more than 2-3 times a day! See if that helps!
My husband thought I was texting or playing games. He had no idea that everytime we ate, I was logging my meals. He still doesn't understand it. I just make sure to log my stuff after our quality time.0 -
Everything in moderation is my maxim0
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I've been using MFP for a month and haven't told my husband yet. I've no intention of being sneaky, and I know he'd be supportive (started exercise, etc, because I had cancer last year - so whatever I do he knows I do it for him and the kids) But I reckoned that while I'm in the early obsessive phase, (constantly astonished and horrified by how teeny portions really are, how damn many calories there are in every single thing, and how much excercise it takes to burn them!) it might well be annoying. So I'm doing it on the sly for now. IF I stick to it, and IF it works, I'll tell him about it in a few months, and encourage him to try it too.
Of course this is not any use to you, really, and I'm sorry about the fight. But maybe just try dropping the subject, making a point of remembering what you eat, and logging it sometime when he's not around to be irritated by it.0 -
its prob not the logging, its all the ripped abs and muscley men makin appearances on your computer screen0
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Show him the studies that show tracking EVERYTHING is the BEST way to lose weight. Maybe that'll change his mind!0
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Tell him to mind his own business!!
I agree!! If you want to get healthier, that is NONE OF HIS BUSINESS. Seriously, it is not his place to tell you how to go about dieting and exercising. Do what feels right for you and tell him to get over it.
Since when has someones health, well being, hobbies, pastimes and interests been none of a partner's business!
Of course he should be interested in what his partner does - ridiculous to think otherwise.
"Hi darling, what have you been up to today?"
"None of your damn business!"0 -
Anyone will tell you that any weight loss program or healthy eating habits begin with keeping up with what you consume. My work sponsors a Healthy Fit Program at work where college pharmacists come in and monitor you for 4 mos and the first thing they give you is an exercise and food log. You have to know how to manage because that was the problem before you started. You didnt know how. MFP is just a tool to help point out your problems areas and gives you incentive to keep up the fight! Your partner obviously doesnt have a problem with weight and does not understand what it takes to get back on track once you have been overweight so long. Keep doing what works for you and if your partner doesnt understand tell them they dont have too but to support you anyway. Im sure the do things you think are a little on the obsessive side too!0
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Logging everything is not obsessive especially when you have a lot of weight to lose. That's what keeps some people like me on track and it's what keeps me watching what I eat and exercising.
Your MFP diary is your business. It's like a journal, you don't have to share it with anyone, not even your boyfriend. He should be happy that you are making an effort to keep yourself healthy.0 -
Screw him!!!! Tell him to get over it.0
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Screw him!!!! Tell him to get over it.
Great relationship advice. Any time a partner disagrees with something their partner is doing 'screw him!'
No talking it through, no compromises, no listening, no seeing their point of view. Screw him!0 -
How has "estimating" worked for you in the past? I'm guessing not great, because you are here now.
Why does he even care if you want to log your food and exercise? That seems like a strange thing to get hung up over. It shouldn't bother him anymore than if you like to track sports or follow the stock market or whatever. It's not his deal.
Maybe he just feels like you are spending time here on the forums instead of paying attention to him?
I am lucky that my partner is also using MFP. He signed on when he saw how easy it actually was to track everything. Perhaps try to bring him on board and make it something that you two can do together. Everyone can benefit from knowledge of their health.0 -
he's a ****ing twit. Tell him to get bent.0
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yup, because he seems jealous.0
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For me it's a lot less about the logging and a lot more about the support and interaction with other people. Most people IRL DO NOT want to hear about or talk about your diet, your exercise or even mention doing anything to get healthy. it makes them feel guilty and insecure. At least here we have someone to talk to and won't be so judgmental.0
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Why does it matter to him if you're using it? Unless it's becoming the sole focus of your life and is interfering with your relationship, I don't see what difference it makes to him.0
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Logging everything is not obsessive especially when you have a lot of weight to lose. That's what keeps some people like me on track and it's what keeps me watching what I eat and exercising.
Your MFP diary is your business. It's like a journal, you don't have to share it with anyone, not even your boyfriend. He should be happy that you are making an effort to keep yourself healthy.0 -
I find it strange that it's actually causing fights - who cares if you're obsessing over YOUR HEALTH.
It's good you're taking control of your health and watching your eating habits.
If this is what works for you I don't see what the problem could be.
Maybe it's the friend aspect of the website and he's very insecure.0 -
I'd tell your partner to STFU and mind his own business!
I'm going to take a stab in the dark here and guess that you're single? That attitude doesn't fly in any long term relationship.0 -
Man, mine would be out on the damn street if he EVER criticized me for doing something that worked. If you're not pressuring him to do the same thing, then what's his damn beef? How idiotic. For some of us, it's not as simple as "eating healthy and exercising!" How about breaking it down for him?
* Tracking my food helps me to stay honest and accountable
* Tracking my exercise helps me to feel like I accomplish a good workout
* Getting "support" (something you clearly don't understand!!!) from other members feels good.
* Checking-in a weight loss makes me feel amazing!
* Being an inspiration for others out there is better than anything!
*Telling him to sod off and get with the program - Erm... Priceless?0
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