So much for people NOT watching.
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For every nasty person out there yelling negative comments, there are people out there like me who say a quick prayer for the success and perserverence for the person I see walking. Being on this journey myself, I know what it's like. Take care and don't give up.0
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One day there was a small group of people in the graveyard who made it known that they were less than enthused that I was jogging there. They stared at me and grumbled to each other for a long time, but eventually they left. After they left 7 o'clock lady walked over to me and said, "Don't...Stop...Running". She told me she came to the graveyard everyday and looked forward to seeing me on the days I came there. Seeing me work at running reminded her that she was alive. She was not the one who died, and she needed to get moving too. It was a very emotional moment for me, and it really made me decide that I don't care what those other people think. I am doing this for me, and the people that are rooting me on are wonderful but the naysayers can kiss it.
I welled up at that. Bless that woman, that was probably very difficult for her to say aswell, as she'd be thinking of who she had lost.
Well done to you, keep it up.x0 -
Use it as fuel when you dont really feel like working out or jogging!0
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. People can be so inconsiderate and hurtful. There are a few people who will always be jerks, no matter what, but not everyone feels that way. Someone posted this a while ago and i thought it was beautiful.
(This is a blog entry from flintland.blogspot.com)
Hey, Fat Girl.
Gods, I hate that post!
I empathize with you. I'm more confrontational than most because most of the time, people who hurl insults despise being caught and publicly outted. Anonymity is their shield.0 -
I know it wont be easy, and I definitely understand what rude remarks do to someones self esteem, its awful and its even harder to pick back up once someone hurts you that bad. However, you can't let them win, go back to the park, keep running, or even just walking, just KEEP AT IT. You can't let them win, and just think, one day you'll look at your body in the mirror and remember how much your hard work has paid off. Keep at it, you're doing this for YOURSELF and your health. Some people are just so rude and need to put down others to try to feel better about themselves. Just keep your head up and keep at it. xx0
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They got nothing on you. As you know, some people do mean things. We're all here struggling to be fit and healthy. It sometimes gets hard with mean remarks like that but you know what? You're doing this FOR YOU! They can go F* off. Keep running!!!0
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When I started adding little bursts of jogging I no longer walked/jogged around my neighborhood, I moved my workout to the graveyard. There are nice paths, there are usually very few people there, and none of them are teenagers. So I would go every other day and I felt so good because I could just enjoy moving and increasing my endurance without wondering what others were thinking about me. There was this one lady who I saw there quite often but we never spoke. In my mind I called her 7 o'clock lady. She visited the same headstone every time. She would sometimes nod or smile, but that was it. One day there was a small group of people in the graveyard who made it known that they were less than enthused that I was jogging there. They stared at me and grumbled to each other for a long time, but eventually they left. After they left 7 o'clock lady walked over to me and said, "Don't...Stop...Running". She told me she came to the graveyard everyday and looked forward to seeing me on the days I came there. Seeing me work at running reminded her that she was alive. She was not the one who died, and she needed to get moving too. It was a very emotional moment for me, and it really made me decide that I don't care what those other people think.
In Buffalo, NY, there's a cemetery in the middle of the city that's huge and beautiful and there are some famous people buried there. They give trolley tours and people go there to picnic and sunbathe and I imagine exercise.0 -
I'm so sorry that happened to you. People can be so inconsiderate and hurtful. There are a few people who will always be jerks, no matter what, but not everyone feels that way. Someone posted this a while ago and i thought it was beautiful.
(This is a blog entry from flintland.blogspot.com)
Hey, Fat Girl.
Yes, you. The one feigning to not see me when we cross paths on the
running track. The one not even wearing sports gear, breathing heavy.
You’re slow, you breathe hard and your efforts at moving forward make
you cringe.
You cling shyly to the furthest corridor, sometimes making larger loops
on the gravel ring by the track just so you’re not on it. You sweat so
much that your hair is all wet. You rarely stay for more than 20 minutes
at a time, and you look exhausted when you leave to go back home. You
never talk to anyone. I’ve got something I’d like to say to you.
You are awesome.
If you’d look me in the eye only for an instant, you would notice the
reverence and respect I have for you. The adventure you have started is
tremendous; it leads to a better health, to renewed confidence and to a
brand new kind of freedom. The gifts you will receive from running will
far exceed the gigantic effort it takes you to show up here, to face
your fears and to bravely set yourself in motion, in front of others.
You have already begun your transformation. You no longer accept this
physical state of numbness and passivity. You have taken a difficult
decision, but one that holds so much promise. Every hard breath you take
is actually a tad easier than the one before, and every step is ever so
slightly lighter. Each push forward leaves the former person you were
in your wake, creating room for an improved version, one that is
stronger, healthier and forward-looking, one who knows that anything is
possible.
You’re a hero to me. And, if you’d take off the blaring headphones and
put your head up for more than a second or two, you would notice that
the other runners you cross, the ones that probably make you feel so
inadequate, stare in awe at your determination. They, of all people,
know best where you are coming from. They heard the resolutions of so
many others, who vowed to pick up running and improve their health,
“starting next week”. Yet, it is YOU who runs alongside, who digs from
deep inside to find the strength to come here, and to come back again.
You are a runner, and no one can take that away from you. You are
relentlessly moving forward. You are stronger than even you think, and
you are about to be amazed by what you can do. One day, very soon, maybe
tomorrow, you’ll step outside and marvel at your capabilities. You will
not believe your own body, you will realize that you can do this. And a
new horizon will open up for you. You are a true inspiration.
I bow to you.
I love this post! I've seen it before.
Hold tight to the positivity and screw those lil *kitten*
For what it's worth, I know when I'm driving or whatever and see someone heavier jogging, I cheer for them! Good for you! Way to be. More people are quietly cheering you on than you realize0 -
It's tough, but people are never going to stop being jerks. I get leers and nasty comments whenever I step outside because I currently live in a very fatphobic community. You can feel the judgement even when people don't say anything. But not to worry, these people are NOT shy about saying something, anything nasty to your face.
There are days when it gets to me, and I force myself to find healthy ways to cope with it. Working out hard is always the best way. The endorphins feel much better in the end and I can let go of the ****ty day.
Sometimes, by virtue of being fat in a thin society, surviving every damn day requires superhuman strength. Remind yourself that you've got that strength.0 -
I have so much respect for anyone who is putting maximum effort into a workout, regardless of the exercise or state of fitness! It's hard to get started and it's hard to keep it up, but your body and mind will thank you. Keep challenging yourself. Try to listen to all the people on here giving you props- not the few unhappy people who yelled at you.0
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People are jerks and have no sense of how their words/actions affect ther people. I know it's tough, but I would say screw them and jsut keep doing what you're doing! From your ticker you're obviously losing weight and on the right track, ignore those people they're just jerks.
You've already lost 26 pounds, don't let a few jerky people mess that up. I have a huge respect for people who start the journey to lose lots of weight! I love that show Extreme Makeover Weightloss Edition, very inspirational -- losing weight isn't the easiest thing, it takes motivation and perseverence and you clearly have that. Keep it up!0 -
One day there was a small group of people in the graveyard who made it known that they were less than enthused that I was jogging there. They stared at me and grumbled to each other for a long time, but eventually they left. After they left 7 o'clock lady walked over to me and said, "Don't...Stop...Running". She told me she came to the graveyard everyday and looked forward to seeing me on the days I came there. Seeing me work at running reminded her that she was alive. She was not the one who died, and she needed to get moving too. It was a very emotional moment for me, and it really made me decide that I don't care what those other people think. I am doing this for me, and the people that are rooting me on are wonderful but the naysayers can kiss it.
I welled up at that. Bless that woman, that was probably very difficult for her to say aswell, as she'd be thinking of who she had lost.
Well done to you, keep it up.x
That made me get a lil wet eyed too
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People are just f*$!!ing idiots most of the time. I work with people who are fat and out of shape yet make negative comments about other people who are trying to get healthy. This summer I have gained back 15 lbs. of what I had lost last year so I'm sure I'm giving them lots of stuff to talk about. Anyway I think at least I try. I'm a better person for trying.0
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I am sorry this happened to you. Please don't let it derail you though as others have said! I can only imagine how hurtful that was but you need to stay strong and keep working hard to meet your goals, to be healthier and happier! You are doing wonderfully so far so keep it up!0
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Brush it off. Keep moving. They will only "derail" you if you let it bother you.The world is not filled with rainbows and butterflies and unicorns.0 -
You know what? You can get thinner and healthier but some people will only get uglier and meaner! I pick healthy.
I'm sorry you had to deal with that, please don't let a couple *kitten* derail your journey.:flowerforyou:0 -
Was driving someplace with my mom the other day, and she made a comment about a large guy jogging on the side of the road.. I turned to look at her and flat out said "at least he is trying to become healthier"! I exercise EVERYDAY at least 1 time a day, I eat super healthy, no dairy, no pork, no grease (stomach will not allow it).. Since October of 2011 I have went from a size 12-10 being snug to wearing a size 2.. my mother and my step father on the other hand are anti-exercise, eat stuff that is bad for them ALL THE TIME.. I told her to NEVER make a comment again about someone who actually makes an effort to take care of them selves... have not heard her utter a word about a larger person since... its rude and totally uncalled for when people make comments like that...0
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People are disgusting! You are doing something good for yourself and of course there have to be those people that must put others down. When I see people running, regardless of size I always think good for them and to be honest if they are a little bigger I think its great, your chaging your life and making yourself into a healthier person. Don't let nasty people get to you, continue on your journey and screw the haters
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I can relate to this 100%.... and I honestly want to hug you. Which might be why I'm not going to be my normal keep your head up blah blah blah about this because this has happened to me multiple times. From walking around at a wawa where I had some people close to my age following me to see what I picked up after the guy told his gf "I don't want to hear you say you're fat again!", to the stares and laughs at the gym. The sad thing is, I'm not even as bad as some people who DONT work out are. I'm large, I know that, I am not muscular, but the thing is... when someone who IS overweight is working out, trying hard, who CARES? They WANT that difference, that's why they're trying. If they want to think negative, then think about the morbidly obese people who don't even THINK they are. I have a cousin who is very overweight. I will never forget the summer I hung out with her when she was newly overweight. She had a halter top, just covers the front but shows the stomach, and she wanted to wear it. Her comment "when I wear this I look like Brittany Spears, everyone loves me in it!" She to this day (and about 100 lbs heavier) wears stuff like that. But she thinks she's not overweight, and does NOTHING about it. THAT is a problem. You busting your butt, running up hills, running in parks.... THAT is NOT a problem. That's you trying, and so what if you don't look like some 100lb model running, one day you just might. That's what they need to realize, you look this way today, and you're busting your butt to be sexier another day. Keep your head high, and your motivations higher. Add me if you want support.
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You know what? Some time from now, you will be jogging that same route and those same *kitten* will walk by. But this time, they will be checking you out. When he tries to "pick up" on you, you can shoot him down for the loser he/they is/are. :happy:0
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Sometimes people flat out suck. But why would you let that "derail" you? Seriously, how could being made fun of for being "fat" derail anyone? Isn't that why you're here? Because you're tired of being called fat?
I agree with the above poster. Being fat is WHY YOU'RE RUNNING. It may not be the way we like to think of it - believe me, I know from experience. For me, I had to break down and really confront the horror and sadness of being so fat in order to make a lasting change - to realize that I didn't want to be that person - not just because others looked at me as ugly and unworthy, but because *I* was looking at myself as ugly and unworthy... and feeling that way about myself is a huge reason why I allowed myself to get that way in the first place. I spent many hours crying on the elliptical machine or while walking (while I was still too heavy to run), and then I cried while I ran. You know what? It was cathartic. I accepted the sadness, and then I told myself "Forgive yourself. Forget the past. You're here now, and as long as you keep walking/running/exercising/eating clean, you never have to be there again."
I'll tell you something else - I cried after I crossed the finish line of my first 10K race, after losing over 140 pounds. But those tears were totally different.
So when you hear "fat girl" comments and laughter again - because let's be honest, you probably will - just take it in. Yes, right now you're fat. Forgive yourself for that, and give yourself credit for every step you take towards fixing it.
Feel free to message me or friend me if you want to talk more. I understand. I support you in solidarity. Now YOU support you, because you're worthy of it.
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Awww bb I think you rock just for not giving up! The first week I tried walking/jogging in Feb around my apt complex I had a car bunch of young girls literally slow down in theb itter cold,roll down there window and say "Hey fatty can I hit it in the morning,without half od your lard suffocating me?" then sped off.It made me cry I was so upset, I think mostly because they were females ya know? Anyway I sucked it up and haven't stop yet it made me work harder to prove them wrong.60lbs later and 37lbs from losing 100lbs I think I got the last laugh ^u^0
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People can be nasty. This is life. This is not a newsflash. The world is not filled with rainbows and butterflies and unicorns.
Sometimes people flat out suck. But why would you let that "derail" you? Seriously, how could being made fun of for being "fat" derail anyone? Isn't that why you're here? Because you're tired of being called fat?
Use it as motivation. There are rude, inconsiderate, nasty people on the planet. Crying about them is not going to change that fact.
This is just about what I was going to say, but let it make you MAD, get ANGRY and then go out and push even harder. Pain and anger are two great motivators, at least for me. You CAN do it!0 -
I am so sorry this happened to you ( hug) some people are just complete and utter b@stards...you are doing this to help YOU.
You go back and you do it...ignore the d!ckheads...just think to yourself " I am doing this to be healthy...so f***off....I can change my shape...and remember they can't change their ugly faces
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I was jogging one time when some guys in a red car drove by and screamed, "fat b$*ch!". It felt awful. I wanted to be able to defend myself by saying how much weight I had lost (as if that would have mattered to them). But I had worked so hard to get where I was and people were still looking at me as the fatty.
Another time I was walking and some guys drove by and one of them threw a coke at me. It was humiliating. I kept thinking if I had been skinny and beautiful, they never would have done that to me. I told myself it didn't matter, that I just happened to be the one there, not to let it get me down etc...but the truth was, it affected me a lot. I thought about it every time I went walking for a long time after that. It reminded me that I'm one of the undesirables.
I'm sorry you went through that. I understand how it feels. Don't let it stop you from running. xoxo.0 -
I agree 100% with all the folks saying to just ignore them because they are idiots.0
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Alot of people in this world are jerks. Sadly it isn't going to get better anytime soon. Best thing to do is ignore them and move along.0
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This happened to me about a year ago...and I had already been running regularly for about 6 months, had lost about half of the weight I wanted to lose. I was running down a busy street (thankfully it was dark so I didn't see who said it) and some guys yelled out, "Get it girl...(pause) THUNDER THIGHS!!!" In the moment it made me run harder, but I couldn't stop thinking about how badly that would have derailed me if it had happened months earlier. Just know that it is true (for the most part) that people do not care and are not watching. There are going to be the few a-holes that do watch and do say something, but just know that for each one of them, there are at least 10 other people who feel tears welling up in their eyes thinking, "I wish I had the courage to run."0
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People are cruel. And I honestly don't think they think about what comes out of their mouth before they say it. I probably would have yelled, "Who's the one running? You or me?" or just looked around trying to figure out what they were talking about.
I am glad that you didn't let it keep you from working out, though. Don't let stupid people like this bother you. They usually have a lot of extra baggage and are just trying to bring others down to feel better about themselves. Maybe next time try Mace? haha I am soooo just kidding!0 -
Keep running and doing your thing. Only someone so insecure about themselves and unhappy with their lives would feel the need to tear someone else down, especially when they are someone who is obviously trying to better their situation. F%$k them!
You should know that the norm out there (I believe) is the following: When I see someone running--fat, skinny, somewhere in between....I AUTOMATICALLY think "You go!" Running is hard and you are out there doing it. Wish I was too!0
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