Single at 33..why?

I understand the frustration if you want children and your clock is ticking. But my experience is that it's much easier to find a good man when you don't think you need one to have a complete and happy life.

Exactly this. As cliche as it is, love will find you when you least expect it. I spent my early 20's chasing guys, moving from one crush to another. I'm pretty, so they were interested. Until they got to know me. Then they ran away. (Honestly, there was nothing wrong with me, I'm pretty awesome.) Finally, I read "He's Just Not That Into You" and it changed my perspective, and my behavior. I decided to stop pursuing and just let things happen as they happened. A few months later, my husband found me. We've been together for five years, married for four. We've got three kids.

Once I chilled out and put an "I'm awesome and totally fine by myself" attitude out into the world, I found the person who would love me more than anyone else out there, and who would love me for exactly who I am. Be confident. Enjoy your life. Enjoy yourself. You'll the right person, you just need to believe in yourself and not define yourself by what you don't have.

Anytime you're feeling down about being single, go to this website. You will instantly feel better.

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this made my day 100% better :laugh:

Don't be in too much of a hurry! I was married for over 11 years and now I've been divorced for over 1. I have recently met an amazing man and I'm 35...he 33! Go for the younger ones, lol You may have better luck.

At 33, if you are still single, you have to change the way you are doing things. Change surroundings and the type of person you're dating. Get in better shape. There are many things that any 33 year old single could do differently. I don't believe we are meant to be single after 25.

Hope you enjoyed Greys Anatomy last night while I was out partying with awesome good looking fun and exciting people!

The best single times of my life happened beyond 25 - you missed out buddy.

I wasn't watching Grey's Anatomy last night and never have seen that show.

Most people have done the party and club scene in their early 20s. It doesn't take long to see the party and club scene for what it is. As said earlier, by your 26th birthday, most people have seen the dating scene for 10 years, and that's enough time to figure it out. Going through the early rounds of dating when you are 26 or older is a much less gratifying experience. Sure, you can meet someone great after that, but it gets more difficult as many of the best singles are coupled off by then. The market has noticeably thinned by late 20s.

These age figures apply to both men and women. I think it is a smart thing to find a marriage partner earlier and get on with building a desirable life sooner.

At 33, if you are still single, you have to change the way you are doing things. Change surroundings and the type of person you're dating. Get in better shape. There are many things that any 33 year old single could do differently. I don't believe we are meant to be single after 25.

Hope you enjoyed Greys Anatomy last night while I was out partying with awesome good looking fun and exciting people!

The best single times of my life happened beyond 25 - you missed out buddy.

I wasn't watching Grey's Anatomy last night and never have seen that show.

Most people have done the party and club scene in their early 20s. It doesn't take long to see the party and club scene for what it is. As said earlier, by your 26th birthday, most people have seen the dating scene for 10 years, and that's enough time to figure it out. Going through the early rounds of dating when you are 26 or older is a much less gratifying experience. Sure, you can meet someone great after that, but it gets more difficult as many of the best singles are coupled off by then. The market has noticeably thinned by late 20s.

These age figures apply to both men and women. I think it is a smart thing to find a marriage partner earlier and get on with building a desirable life sooner.

The point is what works for your boring life works for you. I am not talking about the club scene nor the dating scene - I am talking about the ME scene and doing what I want when I want with no repercussions or opposition. I want to snowboard - I snowboard, I want to go to a concert, I go - I want to buy a new car, I do it - never consult with others - just pure happiness without compromise. But whatever you say man - If I lived by your standards i would be not living my life the way I wanted, I have no desire to "get married before 26" nor meet any of your deadlines. I know there are plenty of the "best singles" still available well into any age. I don't need to be married to "build a more desirable life" in fact many of my "happily" married friends tell me they are happy - but jealous of my lifestyle - sounds to me like I am living a desirable life as well.

The OP came on here looking for support and she had tons of people telling her not to rush the situation - then you come here and tell her - oops - she already missed the chance all the good ones were gone 8 years ago - you have some serious issues that you need to address.

OP - don't fret - If marriage is what you are looking for - read most of the other supportive posts here, and while you are waiting/looking for your match - enjoy the freedoms you have and focus on YOU time - that you will not regret.

And dude - the Greys Anatomy comment was a metaphor.

Your advice does not apply to anyone but you.

My boyfriend and I started dating when I was 33 and he was 35. He's out there somewhere.

Have you considered joining any sites like Christian Mingle or eHarmony? My cousin married a woman he met on eHarmony (they were both in their mid-thirties), and my friend found her husband on Christian Mingle.

At 33, if you are still single, you have to change the way you are doing things. Change surroundings and the type of person you're dating. Get in better shape. There are many things that any 33 year old single could do differently. I don't believe we are meant to be single after 25.

Hope you enjoyed Greys Anatomy last night while I was out partying with awesome good looking fun and exciting people!

The best single times of my life happened beyond 25 - you missed out buddy.

I wasn't watching Grey's Anatomy last night and never have seen that show.

Most people have done the party and club scene in their early 20s. It doesn't take long to see the party and club scene for what it is. As said earlier, by your 26th birthday, most people have seen the dating scene for 10 years, and that's enough time to figure it out. Going through the early rounds of dating when you are 26 or older is a much less gratifying experience. Sure, you can meet someone great after that, but it gets more difficult as many of the best singles are coupled off by then. The market has noticeably thinned by late 20s.

These age figures apply to both men and women. I think it is a smart thing to find a marriage partner earlier and get on with building a desirable life sooner.

i would just like to say a few things:

1. "seen the dating scene for 10 years by the time they're 26"???? um, you're a CHILD till 22, at LEAST. frankly, considering anything under the age of 21 as a part of "the singles scene" is pretty creepy, dude. going all the way down to 16 is verging on pedophilic.

2. you are NOT the same person at 25 as you were when you were 20. as you're not the same person at 30 as you were when you're 25. some people just aren't ready to get married until their later 20's, early 30's, mid 30's, late 30's. and its a GOOD thing to be able to recongnize that so that you avoid getting married too young and then find yourself in a very difficult marriage or divorced.

3. stop referring to it as "the market". we're not talking about cattle here. we're talking about meeting someone and falling in love and making a life long commitment which requires great maturity and reverence, and that has nothing to do with any "market".

4. my husband and i are approaching 30, been married a couple years, and we still enjoy the "party scene", thankyouverymuch. you don't die and suddenly stop enjoying a fun social life when you get married. well, at least we haven't.

1. People start dating each other in high school. I'm talking about the normal high school relationships. That's the typical first exposure to dating. From 18-22, you're going on dates, seeing people. This is exposure to dating.

2. Agree in the sense that if a person can't find someone suitable younger, they should wait. But too much waiting leads to perpetual singlehood.

4. No one said that someone had to stop enjoying a fun social life when you get married. And going out to bars and dance clubs as a 30 year old couple is a much different mindset than going out to bars and dance clubs as a 30 year old single.

The simple answer is just to lower your standards.

That's the answer to becoming married. Not happily married.

Never lower your standards! Never settle for less than what you want. Never! You'll never be happy if you do! Just wait it out!