Single at 33..why?

At 33, if you are still single, you have to change the way you are doing things. Change surroundings and the type of person you're dating. Get in better shape. There are many things that any 33 year old single could do differently. I don't believe we are meant to be single after 25.

Hope you enjoyed Greys Anatomy last night while I was out partying with awesome good looking fun and exciting people!

The best single times of my life happened beyond 25 - you missed out buddy.

I wasn't watching Grey's Anatomy last night and never have seen that show.

Most people have done the party and club scene in their early 20s. It doesn't take long to see the party and club scene for what it is. As said earlier, by your 26th birthday, most people have seen the dating scene for 10 years, and that's enough time to figure it out. Going through the early rounds of dating when you are 26 or older is a much less gratifying experience. Sure, you can meet someone great after that, but it gets more difficult as many of the best singles are coupled off by then. The market has noticeably thinned by late 20s.

These age figures apply to both men and women. I think it is a smart thing to find a marriage partner earlier and get on with building a desirable life sooner.

i would just like to say a few things:

1. "seen the dating scene for 10 years by the time they're 26"???? um, you're a CHILD till 22, at LEAST. frankly, considering anything under the age of 21 as a part of "the singles scene" is pretty creepy, dude. going all the way down to 16 is verging on pedophilic.

2. you are NOT the same person at 25 as you were when you were 20. as you're not the same person at 30 as you were when you're 25. some people just aren't ready to get married until their later 20's, early 30's, mid 30's, late 30's. and its a GOOD thing to be able to recongnize that so that you avoid getting married too young and then find yourself in a very difficult marriage or divorced.

3. stop referring to it as "the market". we're not talking about cattle here. we're talking about meeting someone and falling in love and making a life long commitment which requires great maturity and reverence, and that has nothing to do with any "market".

4. my husband and i are approaching 30, been married a couple years, and we still enjoy the "party scene", thankyouverymuch. you don't die and suddenly stop enjoying a fun social life when you get married. well, at least we haven't.

1. People start dating each other in high school. I'm talking about the normal high school relationships. That's the typical first exposure to dating. From 18-22, you're going on dates, seeing people. This is exposure to dating.

2. Agree in the sense that if a person can't find someone suitable younger, they should wait. But too much waiting leads to perpetual singlehood.

4. No one said that someone had to stop enjoying a fun social life when you get married. And going out to bars and dance clubs as a 30 year old couple is a much different mindset than going out to bars and dance clubs as a 30 year old single.

wow, you have so much wisdom to share. when does your creepy pervy talk show come out?

Sometimes you wonder how you could be single and unmarried at 33. It's really depressing, bec I know I am a good perosn, but I can't seem to find a good man. I date the musican types, and they have proven to not make good boyfriends. And my man wants me to meet a good Christian/BA Degree/smart/good job etc. and I told her most of them are married by my age. And all the good men are taken.

Sucks becuase everyone my age in the church are all married with kids. I feel like there's something majorly wrong with me. Any thoughts/comments/suggestions?

I'm single and 37, never been married, no kids and do you know what that means?

It means I haven't ****ed up!

So congrats on not making any mistakes in your 33 years!

1. People start dating each other in high school. I'm talking about the normal high school relationships. That's the typical first exposure to dating. From 18-22, you're going on dates, seeing people. This is exposure to dating.

2. Agree in the sense that if a person can't find someone suitable younger, they should wait. But too much waiting leads to perpetual singlehood.

4. No one said that someone had to stop enjoying a fun social life when you get married. And going out to bars and dance clubs as a 30 year old couple is a much different mindset than going out to bars and dance clubs as a 30 year old single.

as far as high school goes-- between school work and being a year round athlete AND having a part time job, i didn't exactly have time to have this so called "normal high school dating phase" that is apparently, according to this guy, a "normal and necessary" part of the road to marriage. i had an absolute wonderful time in high school, went to school dances and such and played sports and had a blast with friends, but i refuse to believe that the awkward "omg are we gonna kiss before this night is over" or "oh my gosh i'm totally crushing on todd he is sooo cute" can actually be considered "dating experience" in the context of marriage preparedness. that's called being an awkward teenager who is fumbly learning about the opposite sex.

as far as college goes, whether you have a steady relationship (as i did for the first 3 years), or you're single and floatin around having a blast (as i did for my second 2 years), you're discovering YOURSELF, and should be looked at as such. i don't care what anyone says, you're still a kid in college.

if you happen to meet who you end up marrying when you're in high school or college, then cool, what a neat thing to tell the grandkids. but you don't become an actual adult capable of understanding what "dating for the possibility of MARRIAGE" really means until your low to mid 20's (at least), and just because you reach 25 and "ERMAGERRD YOU'RE STILL SINGLE" doesn't mean something's wrong with you because "you've had 9 years experience already".

as far as high school goes-- between school work and being a year round athlete AND having a part time job, i didn't exactly have time to have this so called "normal high school dating phase" that is apparently, according to this guy, a "normal and necessary" part of the road to marriage. i had an absolute wonderful time in high school, went to school dances and such and played sports and had a blast with friends, but i refuse to believe that the awkward "omg are we gonna kiss before this night is over" or "oh my gosh i'm totally crushing on todd he is sooo cute" can actually be considered "dating experience" in the context of marriage preparedness. that's called being an awkward teenager who is fumbly learning about the opposite sex.

as far as college goes, whether you have a steady relationship (as i did for the first 3 years), or you're single and floatin around having a blast (as i did for my second 2 years), you're discovering YOURSELF, and should be looked at as such. i don't care what anyone says, you're still a kid in college.

if you happen to meet who you end up marrying when you're in high school or college, then cool, what a neat thing to tell the grandkids. but you don't become an actual adult capable of understanding what "dating for the possibility of MARRIAGE" really means until your low to mid 20's (at least), and just because you reach 25 and "ERMAGERRD YOU'RE STILL SINGLE" doesn't mean something's wrong with you because "you've had 9 years experience already".

The "10 year" thing I said came from the ideologue perspective. What I said makes sense in an ideal world. I certainly feel that it is more emotionally draining to be looking for and going on first dates when you are in your late 20s, as opposed to early to mid 20s. There's a lot of nonsense that goes in the early stages of dating, and you have to weed through a lot of stuff that would make a rational, reasonable person shake their head in disbelief. The younger you are, the more patience I feel is present in dealing with the nonsense. And it hurts to think that you were doing the same stuff as you were 10 years prior, no matter what your relationship history has been to that point. One would think that they should be beyond that phase in their late 20s. But going on first dates in your late 20s is a less worse fate than being in a lousy relationship. That's the pragmatic approach.

There's always a difference between the ideal and the practical.