Door Opening Men - a question for you
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I do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.
It's called manners and the result of good parenting.
Another vote for this.
I also still open the car door for my wife...18 years in to our lives together. Just a simple courtesy and reminder of the place she holds in my life.0 -
I do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.
It's called manners and the result of good parenting.
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I second thatI do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.
It's called manners and the result of good parenting.
Im a chick and i open the door for everyone who is in my vicinity cuz why the **** not and people always do it for me... i guess your coworker jus has bad luck.0 -
I have a question for men (I'm a woman). A couple of times when I opened doors for men, I felt they were annoyed/surprised. Do you feel bad when a woman opens a door for you? Does it make you feel uncomfortable? (I'm not talking about holding the door, which is just being polite).
Not uncomfortable, we're just not used to it happening that way. It catches us off guard more than anything. Thanks to the ladies who also hold doors.0 -
So she's saying they just let the door go in her face? Sounds like most women I encounter when walking into or out of a business. :noway:
FTR- I hold the door for anyone within a few steps of reaching it. I consider it rude to let it go when they are about to reach it.
^^this. I do the same.0 -
I adore it when men are gentlemen. I always feel so appreciative when somone holds a door for me, whether male or female. And a lady SHOULD say thank you.
Sadly many do not, some seem to view it as an offense or entitlement of sort. My husband is always going out of his way to hold doors, and it is amazing the number of women who stick their nose in the air and stoll through without even a glance in his direction.. I find that sad. More than once he has said he feels like stopping because of it, but his upbriging and gentlemanly nature just won't allow it.
Like it was said, treat others how you want to be treated. (even if they are total stinkerpots)0 -
I like it when strangers hold the door for me, it is a courtesy that I rarely see in young people. I work at a middle school and many, many times go up to the door with my hands full and someone will be right in front of me and then just let the door shut. Don't get me wrong, I am the mother of 3 so I know how to juggle and I can open the door myself but on the rare occasion when a young person does hold the door for me it makes me soooo happy! It makes me have hope for the future. Also just the other day I was walking up to the door with my hands full and a young man(about 12yrs old) inside the lobby saw me and came out just to hold the door for me. It was great! It just shows me that they aren't all completely selfish or oblivious to others around them. There is such a thing as common courtesy but not everyone gets taught this at home:(0
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I always notice men opening the door for me! Always. and it is sooooo nice. Love when guys are gentlemen. I always say thank you and often its a conversation starter.
Sometimes 2 men will have a "door fight" aka both of them standing their trying to be the one who holds the door for me and it makes me smile.0 -
Yesterday, after leaving the gym, I held the door open for a Guy walking into the gym. I said, "hey let me get the door for your buddy." To my surprise, it was a husky, "butch" type lady. She replied: "thank you, you are such a gentleman" Whoa!0
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So she's saying they just let the door go in her face? Sounds like most women I encounter when walking into or out of a business. :noway:
FTR- I hold the door for anyone within a few steps of reaching it. I consider it rude to let it go when they are about to reach it.
Hey, now - I hold doors for guys...and girls if I'm going in or coming out and someone is close by. However, I don't get the door for the men in my family, even if I beat them to the door. It is just the expectation I have of my guys. Again, it goes to manners, and if I allow my guys to be thoughtless of me, I can't expect them to be thoughtful of others.0 -
I find short skirts help. No, really, men will trip over each other running to get a door, grocery bags, etc for a little skin. It's quite amusing, and appreciated. :flowerforyou:
Seriously though, I open doors for everyone too. It's not just a guy thing.0 -
This. Without being asked, my three year old held the door open for me as we were coming back from dinner. It's just the polite thing to do. She also uses please, thank you, you're welcome, bless you, and excuse me more frequently than most adults do...I do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.
It's called manners and the result of good parenting.0 -
While we're on the subject...what makes men do the opposite, be a total jerkoff and not open or hold open the door for a mom carring two kids, one on each hip??
Before you ask does it really happen, the answer is yes on a weekly basis, to me around here...0 -
Courtesy .
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While we're on the subject...what makes men do the opposite, be a total jerkoff and not open or hold open the door for a mom carring two kids, one on each hip??
Before you ask does it really happen, the answer is yes on a weekly basis, to me around here...
There must be a lot of male JERKS in Washington state. Sheesh.0 -
I typically hold the door for anyone just out of common courtesy. I was raised that way and my boys are learning to do the same and usually race each other to see who can hold the door first:)0
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It cultural social training. That's how most men used to be raised here in the U.S.0
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I typically hold the door for anyone just out of common courtesy. I was raised that way and my boys are learning to do the same and usually race each other to see who can hold the door first:)
good job Dad!!!,...mine are the same way,..theres something to be said about being a true gentlemen.0 -
To the men who open the doors when a lady is behind or in front of you.
Why?
What prompts you to open a door for a woman?
My reasoning for asking is simple. I have never been in a situation where there was a man immediately before or behind me where I've actually had to touch the door myself. They always, always, always open the door for me. I'm so used to it I've never noticed it.
However, a coworker of mine has been complaining that she has never met a man in this town who will open the door for her!
So what's the difference? Why are guys ignoring her and tripping over themselves to open doors for me?
It can't be appearance because she dresses better, she's skinnier and she's prettier (not being modest, this is just facts). So it's not as if I'm getting special treatment because of appearance. So what else could it be?
What is this elusive thing that will make you open the door for one woman and ignore the next? Please discuss and enlighten me.
Thank you.
*shrugs* It's simple, was raised to be that way. Be polite and courteous to everyone and as a man go out of your way to show respect to a woman.0 -
To the men who open the doors when a lady is behind or in front of you.
Why?
What prompts you to open a door for a woman?
My reasoning for asking is simple. I have never been in a situation where there was a man immediately before or behind me where I've actually had to touch the door myself. They always, always, always open the door for me. I'm so used to it I've never noticed it.
However, a coworker of mine has been complaining that she has never met a man in this town who will open the door for her!
So what's the difference? Why are guys ignoring her and tripping over themselves to open doors for me?
It can't be appearance because she dresses better, she's skinnier and she's prettier (not being modest, this is just facts). So it's not as if I'm getting special treatment because of appearance. So what else could it be?
What is this elusive thing that will make you open the door for one woman and ignore the next? Please discuss and enlighten me. Thank you.
*shrugs* It's simple, was raised to be that way. Be polite and courteous to everyone and as a man go out of your way to show respect to a woman.
Whoop!0 -
To the men who open the doors when a lady is behind or in front of you.
Why?
What prompts you to open a door for a woman?
My reasoning for asking is simple. I have never been in a situation where there was a man immediately before or behind me where I've actually had to touch the door myself. They always, always, always open the door for me. I'm so used to it I've never noticed it.
However, a coworker of mine has been complaining that she has never met a man in this town who will open the door for her!
So what's the difference? Why are guys ignoring her and tripping over themselves to open doors for me?
It can't be appearance because she dresses better, she's skinnier and she's prettier (not being modest, this is just facts). So it's not as if I'm getting special treatment because of appearance. So what else could it be?
What is this elusive thing that will make you open the door for one woman and ignore the next? Please discuss and enlighten me. Thank you.
what does your friend look like 0.o
if she looks like a man then men might not open the door for her.0 -
It is the way I was brought up and I am happy to say my child already demonstrates this type of common courtesy. I am sure I have encountered some attractive women that felt my action was the result of their looks, but they are mistaken. I open and hold doors for both women & men, young & old. I especially hold doors for the elderly.0
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From a young age my grandma would always have me open the door for her, she'd just stand there if she got there first. Just became second nature.0
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From a young age my grandma would always have me open the door for her, she'd just stand there if she got there first. Just became second nature.
Love that!0 -
I'm a woman and I hold the door for everyone if they're right behind me. It's pretty rude to shut a door in someone's face.0
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I'm about as interested in women I open the door for as I am the elderly I stand up for on a bus or in a waiting room. Women ought not take it personally. It's usually a matter of courtesy, not of wanting to bone.0
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Most men in the UK tend to have very good manners so will open doors or give up a seat for you. Having said that, a guy recently pushed me out of the way to get on a bus first so he could get a seat - Charming!0
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As a matter of practice, I do hold the door open for all people. It's just the way I was raised.
But I've always been perplexed by the issue. Women want to be equal to men in every way, right? At least that's what I get from the women's rights groups and mainstream media. And I generally agre with this philosophy. The only exceptions I can think of are situations where the physical differences between a man and woman would make a serious difference such as a firefighter having to carry someone down a ladder from a burning building. And of course there are some women who can do this.
So why is door holding an issue at all? Either you want to be equal and can open the door yourself and stand on the bus or you want to be treated as lesser and need the door held open and the seat on the bus. I'm not trying to be sexists; I just don't ge the double standard that seems to be going on. Can anyone explain this too me?0 -
Most men do it to look at a ladies back side!0
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I raise my boys with the same manners and chivalrous behavior that was always taught in the south. And yes, they wll be in deep trouble if they don't behave like gentlemen toward a lady. However, they are also taught to be respectful to everyone, until given a good reason not to. Like yes maam, no maam, that also goes for sirs. Opening doors for everyone. Opening car doors for women. Always letting the woman be first, you know, the "ladies first" rule. It's all mainly common courtesy and respect. I was always taught, to get respect you have to give it, or you could get my daddy's belt. But one rule I can't teach my boys, that I had to learn growing up, was children are seen and not heard, so you only speak when spoken to. I think that is degrading for kids.0
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