Why are people on these forums so mean?

I completely agree with original post. Who are you to judge someone? Just do your thing and move along. Peace and God bless

But God judges everyone, and I'm just trying to be more like him :[

If that were true, you would have capitalized "him".

In the case of people with Eating Disorders - There is nothing this site can do for them other than give them a way of making things worse by enabling them with a calorie tracker. The sooner they realize that the road to recovery won't begin until they either a) seek professional help or b) hit rock bottom somehow, the better. Until then they had better stay off here because it will only make things worse for them. As for the ones who have no desire to recover or "aren't ready for recovery," they are not welcome here. This site promotes health and fitness. If your goals do not lie in health and fitness, get lost. You are not welcome. And we're not afraid to make it known that these people are not welcome here with how they promote unhealthy lifestyles.

Regarding the actual topic of your question, try answering the same question over. And over. And over. And over. And over. All from people who have no clue what the difference between a dumbbell and a barbell is but think they're ready to tackle a home DVD fitness program that is clearly marked as being FOR ADVANCED USERS ONLY just because they started some fad diet a while ago and although they saw results the weight came right back.

The fact of the matter is that pretty much anyone after spending 3 or so months on the forums and seeing the exact same questions posted over and over and over again all by people with unrealistic goals and unrealistic timeframes who are willing to do anything and everything EXCEPT for bust their butt in the gym to get there will get fed up with it.

If you're here to get fit and healthy and you're willing to work for it and conduct research into things, great. I'll help you however I can. But if you are going to make excuses for yourself, or try to tackle something that is CLEARLY beyond your level making you liable to injure yourself severely, or are just going to dive into another fad program, I'm not going to be the one to support you. I'm going to be the one guy in the thread who, instead of going "YAY!" calls you out on it and points out the problems with your little plan. And if you think I'm being mean because I'm trying to make sure you get on track towards a REALISTIC goal within a REALISTIC timeframe by adopting healthy lifestyle choices and making sure you're following an exercise regimen that is above all, SAFE, and won't wreck your knees or back, then fine! I'm mean. Deal with it. It happens after a while of the same things over. And over. And over. And over.

They're called keyboard cowards - people that let their true colors show only when there's no risk of them having to actually face the consequences of their actions/opinions/thoughts. I mostly ignore them because they're primarily looking for attention in the form of controversy and by giving them any attention at all you're validating their cowardly ways.

Kinda like people who skip all their workouts and eat whatever they want and tell themselves over and over that they dont care and there are no real consequences to their actions and inactions as long as they are spending time on a fitness website saying good job to people and procrastinating doing anything because they are too busy on the internet looking at fun fitness quotes and the statuses of people actually working out! Cause they are primarily looking for attention in the form of everlasting support for a struggle they arent progressing with (or even giving 25% effort) and by not telling them that they are doing it wrong, we are totally validating their stubborn rejection of change.

Did I strike a nerve? Seems like the response of someone who's being defensive... considering I've lost over 60 lbs this year.

Something else to consider is that a lot of times, it's the people who aren't quite as active on the forum saying that the long-time members or people who post more are being mean.

People who don't post as much don't see as much about what's going on. They don't know the history or back stories or what might have happened in a thread that just got deleted. It would be like tuning into the end of Back to the Future and wondering why that mean old George McFly just punched that poor guy Biff in the face.

They're called keyboard cowards - people that let their true colors show only when there's no risk of them having to actually face the consequences of their actions/opinions/thoughts. I mostly ignore them because they're primarily looking for attention in the form of controversy and by giving them any attention at all you're validating their cowardly ways.

Kinda like people who skip all their workouts and eat whatever they want and tell themselves over and over that they dont care and there are no real consequences to their actions and inactions as long as they are spending time on a fitness website saying good job to people and procrastinating doing anything because they are too busy on the internet looking at fun fitness quotes and the statuses of people actually working out! Cause they are primarily looking for attention in the form of everlasting support for a struggle they arent progressing with (or even giving 25% effort) and by not telling them that they are doing it wrong, we are totally validating their stubborn rejection of change.

Did I strike a nerve? Seems like the response of someone who's being defensive... considering I've lost over 60 lbs this year.

nah uh - just throwing a separate option out into the universe - different kinds of interactions appeal to different kinds of people - so this one was sent out to the people that havent been represented by opinions yet in this thread :drinker: congrats on sixty!

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I Still think searching the forum for 'mean people' is kinda weird ha ha :laugh: Please note my laughing smiley. It's meant with humour not big nasty meanness x

I Still think searching the forum for 'mean people' is kinda weird ha ha :laugh: Please note my laughing smiley. It's meant with humour not big nasty meanness x

Damned if I start a new thread....damned if I search for "mean posters"

And I keep wanting to tell you that I think you look great.....you have a great shape and Im jealous.

I did not say you were weird! Not at all. And yes I see your point about the searching thing. I'll shut up now and do something productive like go to work. Urgh. Your kinda cool actually, I'm sure you'll fit in here very well :-))

I completely agree with original post. Who are you to judge someone? Just do your thing and move along. Peace and God bless

But God judges everyone, and I'm just trying to be more like him :[

If that were true, you would have capitalized "him".

Your powers of observation are astounding.

Yes, now go tell my boss I deserve a raise for using these powers to her benefit!

i guarantee god doesn't have a gender, sorry to disappoint

I did not say you were weird! Not at all. And yes I see your point about the searching thing. I'll shut up now and do something productive like go to work. Urgh. Your kinda cool actually, I'm sure you'll fit in here very well :-))

HA! Well thank you

And I completely agree with lallalooly up there. If you dont have anything nice to say, then dont say anything at all.

They're called keyboard cowards - people that let their true colors show only when there's no risk of them having to actually face the consequences of their actions/opinions/thoughts. I mostly ignore them because they're primarily looking for attention in the form of controversy and by giving them any attention at all you're validating their cowardly ways.

Kinda like people who skip all their workouts and eat whatever they want and tell themselves over and over that they dont care and there are no real consequences to their actions and inactions as long as they are spending time on a fitness website saying good job to people and procrastinating doing anything because they are too busy on the internet looking at fun fitness quotes and the statuses of people actually working out! Cause they are primarily looking for attention in the form of everlasting support for a struggle they arent progressing with (or even giving 25% effort) and by not telling them that they are doing it wrong, we are totally validating their stubborn rejection of change.

Sounds like a perfect reason to criticize people. Well done.

Bump *evil laugh*

Forgiven for your awesome toile ticker.

Hmm. This one smells like recent bumpage.

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