What makes you unfriend somone?

I just deleted a girl yesterday I felt so very bad for doing so but her post were so disturbing to me. Then I made the mistake of going through her friends list and became even more disturbed by the amount of sick girls on this site. It makes me so sad, but I can't have it on my feed and not say something.

I guess I've been fortunate that I haven't had any friends like this so far. Also, I liked your comment about "ACTIVE, weird and/or creepy"! That's why I just smile and say thank you when my daughter says I'm weird.

When people say loose not lose lol!!!

FROM ANOTHER POSTER:
Personally, if someone has not logged on in 4 or 5 days I go to their profile and see if there is a "vacation" or "hospital issue" or anything that explains why they may not be online, if there is nothing there then I click the 'ol Remove Friend button. I am certainly not perfect, and don't expect others to be, but if you can't be here for me when I need you (which is why we are friends on this site) then all you have done is proven I don't need you as a friend here. That may sound a bit cold, but I am here to get **** done and I refuse to be held back, or even associate with someone who is not dedicated to the same ending result: Being Healthier.

I truly do not know how I can be supportive of you, in this healthy journey, if you choose to have your Diary closed. I cannot speak for anyone else, I look to see if you have hit your goals, and to ensure you are not starving yourself; as so many seem to try to do these days. I really cannot, in good conscious, tell you “Good Job” or offer any other congratulatory remarks when you have only netted 200 calories for the day. It is your life, and you choose to do what you choose to do, I am not trying to tell anyone how to live there life. I am saying that I want to be able to support, encourage, and comment on my friends here at MFP and that with a closed Diary I simply do not feel that I can honestly do so. With that being the case, if you choose to keep your diary private then we need to part as friends. I have no hard feelings and hope that you do not either, and I wish you nothing but success in your endeavor.

After reading this thread it is proof that people are different, we have different goals, methods, and expectations from our friends. I do not think that unfriending someone is a big deal, chances are you did not know the person before you befriended them, and in the process of getting to know them you decided that you did not appreciate their methodology; we do it in real life all the time.

Have a Great Weekend :-)
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FROM ME:
Totally agree with you. And this is not a place where the more friends you have, you win. No, I don't do that on Facebook either or in real life. I've learned through the months that I need to keep the most positive, dedicated and most similar to my issues rather than they type of people who have huge crisis, you are there for them and then they are never there for you. It's too lopsided as it would be in real life as well.

If they like Nickelback.

ha! love this

I frankly think it's stupid how many people are THAT nosey that they need their friends to have their diaries open. Mine is closed, even to my friends, because rather than being held accountable, I found that I was more likely to be dishonest with myself on how much I actually ate to try to look good. So I closed it because now no one is there to say what a "****ty" job I did that day because I went over by 50 cals. No thanks, mind your business. If I want it open, I will open it. If you don't want friends that have it closed, I'm probably better off anyway.

When people say loose not lose lol!!!

WIN!!!!!!!!!!

High five!!!!

i recently unfriended someone because i realized she was pro-ana. she admits to having an eating disorder. her last update was "do you ever just go to bed to avoid eating?" ok...that was it. not to mention ALL her friends are the same way. their profile pics show images of protruding bones, hollowed out stomachs, that sort of thing.

i had no idea MFP allowed people like this. or perhaps they are flying under the radar. it's scary knowing people like that are out there. they need professional help. it truly saddens me that people have such distorted images of their bodies or that they strive to look so thin.

Endless negativity.

a good reason to unfriend a person in real life too!

nothing

I think it's very rude when I send pics of my junk, and they don't respond in kind. That's grounds for immediate deletion.

but i never got any pictures :sad: