Deleting Friends...

I delete friends that are out for more than a week and do not respond to a message inquiring if they are ok. I don't mind people updating their status frequently, if that is what they like to do.

I do expect the same consideration and encouragement as I give, on exercise I want to see "nice job, Way to Burn, Good Going, etc" and on good diary goal days "good job, nice, etc.", but just as important I want to see "holy **** John what were you thinking?" when I blow a goal. Quite frankly it seems like everyone is there for encouragement and support when you succeed, but when you fail no one is there to kick you in the butt and get you back on track and that is when you need the support the most. I am not a "that's ok, tomorrow is a new day" kind of person, that kind of thinking is why your fat *kitten* out of shape body is here in the first place. I am more of a "you don't need to go to bed, you need to go for a walk and burn off some of those bad choices" person. I realize not everyone appreciates having someone tell them they screwed the pooch and need to straighten up, or g@d forbid you tell them "you are a bit light on the calories, eat something", stand back and wait for the lightning bolts to shoot through the monitor. That is how I support, that is what I like from my friends, if they sign on but turn out not to be a good fit, then we separate, no hard feelings, not everyone is meant to be everyone's friend on here, or in person.

Lastly, I delete if they do not have an open diary to their friends. I can not, in good conscience tell someone what a wonderful job they are doing by being under their calorie goals if I can not see what they are eating. Eating a cube of cheese a day is under most peoples calorie goals, it is not "Good Job" material. I know some folks say "My Diary is my business and no one else's", so be it, those people are not my friends. This is a fitness site, the goal is to become healthier (well for most anyway) and not, necessarily, to be the most popular. In terms some will understand, no one likes a Drill Sergeant; until they realize that what he helped you to become saves your life.

Have a Great Day!

If they're attention *kitten*, if they aren't interactive, if they put up images of themselves that I don't want to see popping up on my work computer, or if they send me gross messages.

They friend me, and still I remind them to read my about me section. They all agree, and what do you know.............the only time they comment me is when I say I'm going to the beach, or something personal............which is cool, I guess, but I'd rather get some, "hey good job working out" or what not. For me personally, I was coming to the realization that they were interested more in my personal life than anything else.

I'm the exact opposite. I do better when I form a connection, and for me, the people that give me generic "wat to go" or "great burn" comments are annoying because you don't really care, you saw an update and posted some filler that is interchangeable with anyone else on your list. It drives me nuts. I want real internet friendships!

I delete because I can. People delete me, because they can. It's really easy...add me and I'll show you

I missed this the first time around...where the frick is my "like" button?!

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If they are gone for an extended period or if they have a habit of disappearing for days at a time.

If they bring drama to my feed. Troubles are inevitable and I'm happy to support through them but if your life is one big drama fest, goodbye.

If they don't 'get it'. If they are eating pure crap and complaining about not losing weight, I don't want to listen to them.

If they are emo, because it makes me want to punch them in the face.

Rarely do I delete (haven't logged on in weeks upon weeks) - I'm typically the one deleted.

For instance, a few weeks back I traveled out of the country - very VERY minimal internet use and told the friendzo's so. Like 15 people deleted me... why? For not logging in and interacting. Two way street - you want interaction, read the g'damn status!

more for me.

I wouldnt be surprised if people started plucking me off their friends list. Im so inactive on MFP....Except the forums....


Ps...the only reason why I havent been as active as others is becausee I access MFP through my Playstation3 and its a bit difficult to figure out.

I delete negative people that are ALWAYS complaining and people with EDs. People talking about binging and purging makes me very uncomfortable.

I keep my friend list pretty tight...I clean it out regularly.

If someone hasn't logged in, in over 10 days (A decent vacation) & wasn't excited enough about it before hand to tell anyone they were going on vacation....

If someone isn't giving me a back and forth interaction/support & encouragement (or friendly harassment).

If someone is not serious about changing their lifestyle & eating habits to get healthy but complain about not losing.

If someone complains about not losing X amount of pounds in X amount of days or they've been on a "plateau" for a WEEK!

Actually, I guess there's a lot of reasons why I delete someone...

Be serious about changing your life for good and interact with me somehow...that's all it takes.

I don't generally delete people...only once I went through and deleted a few that weren't on for a long time. I was a little irritated that 3 or 4 people deleted me and didn't tell me why....I must have annoyed them in some way because I have never missed more than 1 or 2 days (of course it's usually the weekends) of logging in so I can't imagine that is why.