Dear Abby, Why aren't don't older chicks try to be hotter?

In some south east countries, women are taught that once they have had children and/or they hit 40 years old, life is "over." She exists solely to look after her husband and children and ignore herself, so to speak. There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking after and taking care of your loved ones but you can't effectively do that if your own health and well-being are ignored. During my stay in India, I saw so many not-that-old-yet women just walking along, shuffling their feet like every second is pure agony. Their hair is stringy and gray and you can tell they are not in good health yet they are not that old ... maybe in their forties. Who wants to live life like that??? I sure don't. Yet, sadly, in those cultures, it is the mindset.

I really don't see anything wrong with his request, assuming that he's looking for a woman that is within a reasonable weight range, dresses decently, has social manners and doesn't find bathing/grooming abhorrent. If he's looking for ONLY a designer label-clad, fake nails, hair, tan, and boobs mini-skirt wearing Goddess with mile-long legs as the only acceptable standard of attractive then yeah, he's probably a douche.

But just saying that he doesn't find himself in the company of what would be normally desired as an attractive woman doesn't make him a putz. Everyone has a certain set of "standards." Now, how reasonable those standards might be are up for argument - he really didn't elaborate.

I love how people will try to be righteous and say "looks don't matter" but ON THE SURFACE they do. Granted, beauty IS in the eye of the beholder so that what one might find attractive someone may not, but still...it's out there.

I don't get offended by guys that don't like me because I'm 15 lb overweight - I'm hurt by it, of course, rejection sucks, but hey, they like what they like. I don't think it make a guy a jerk to say that he's into "fit" chicks, even if he's 20 lb overweight himself! Of course, the irony is NOT lost on me, either, but oh well. You can want what you want. And how's it go? People in hell want ice water...that don't mean they get it.