So at what weight do women actually respond to a guy?
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Same thing happens to me with guys.
You are supposed to run away...they are supposed to chase...it's the natural order of the universe...0 -
In my experience weight isn't so much an issue as it is a) looking like you care about your overall appearance (which is more a matter of grooming and hygiene than it is fitness) and b) choosing the right girls. One of the hardest things that makes it difficult to approach women is that women don't "wear" their personalities like guys do. With guys you can usually tell a few things about his hobbies and interests by how he's dressed, because it's common for us to wear t-shirts that advertise our favorite sports, movies, bands, tv shows, whatever. Not so much with girls. Stick to approaching girls who, on some level, follow that same mentality. I find that if you can approach a girl and find a common topic of conversation right off the bat which you are knowledgeable and passionate about, the rest sort of just takes care of itself. So before you approach a girl, look her over to see if there's something about the way she's dressed that could give you some insight as to her hobbies and interests so that you can find a common ground of conversation to bring up before the initial approach. It completely eliminates awkwardness.0
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You're walking up to the wrong girls.
^^^This. I've never done that to anyone because it's just rude.0 -
Look, lets be honest here, although the person who walked away without acknowledging you is completely rude, yes, looks matter for first impressions. They matter for women, they matter for men, i'm sure you are not approaching people you find physically unattractive. I would also find it a little creepy if a random guy I know nothing about came up to me.
You've had good advice about getting to know people first so they can judge you on your personality and vice versa, but you don't want to do that because you think if you get to know eachother you will be friend zoned.
So you don't want people to be able to judge you on your personality before knowing if they are interested or not, and you are not worried about what their personality is like either, so you are the one who is making it neccesary for both parties to judge on first impressions (yes, looks).
You've had heaps of good advice here, and shot it all down, if you want a girlfriend, take some of the advice and do something about it instead of being all woe is me for 10 more pages.0 -
You need to have confidence.
It's hard, I know..I struggle with it a lot.
But strong confidence will go a long ways.
this is true - and also the person who said you are approaching the wrong girls is also right.0 -
I think you're handsome. If I walked away it wouldn't be based on your looks.0
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Dude. I was almost 40 pushing 250 or so and had a 20 yr old soccer player come on to me and we dated for a short time. Its about you being you and having confidence.0
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Dude. I was almost 40 pushing 250 or so and had a 20 yr old soccer player come on to me and we dated for a short time. Its about you being you and having confidence.
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I don't know. How much does a huge bank account weigh?0
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Dude. I was almost 40 pushing 250 or so and had a 20 yr old soccer player come on to me and we dated for a short time. Its about you being you and having confidence.
This.
was this the soccer player?
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Maybe it's your personality and not your body/weight. Just a thought.0
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Dude. I was almost 40 pushing 250 or so and had a 20 yr old soccer player come on to me and we dated for a short time. Its about you being you and having confidence.
This.
was this the soccer player?
After all that happened I probably do wish it was her....0 -
this.You're walking up to the wrong girls.0 -
You are so going to the wrong kinda girl. My ex-husband was 5'10" 300 lbs & my last ex-boyfriend was 6'1" 450 lbs & I always say I traded up. I LOVE a big man.:smooched: Everybody is different, some like big some like slim some don't care. Same as guys.0
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Here's the truth...you could be bald,short,.fat..and a 5 on a 1-10,...BUT if you walk into a room like yur a 10! It's a wrap!...confidence is sexy...plain and simple.
and I'll add this I've ALWAYS liked big guys!,..6ft or taller 230lbs.+.!!!.big ol teddy bears!!(I'm 5'3).....just so happens my Hubby is a little guy 5'6! go figure!!!,..ya cant pick who you love!!0 -
I'd date Danny de Vito like there's no tomorrow!
And I'm 5.10!
It's not about the weight but about your personality. Actually I know a big guy who dates a lot. He's always surrounded by girls. He's a firecracker!0 -
So I've determined a lot of women on this site are OK with big guys but all the ones I meet in real life aren't. And as I've said a milllllllion times walking up to a woman takes confidence. Maybe you ladies would agree more if you didn't get approached so much, I dunno. That's the biggest problem I think. You're "job" as far as meeting men is so incredibly easy. It pretty much totally consists of shooting down guys until you decide one has enough of whatever it is you're looking for. It's a real shame.0
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Maybe you ladies would agree more if you didn't get approached so much, I dunno. That's the biggest problem I think. You're "job" as far as meeting men is so incredibly easy. It pretty much totally consists of shooting down guys until you decide one has enough of whatever it is you're looking for. It's a real shame.
False.0 -
So I've determined a lot of women on this site are OK with big guys but all the ones I meet in real life aren't. And as I've said a milllllllion times walking up to a woman takes confidence. Maybe you ladies would agree more if you didn't get approached so much, I dunno. That's the biggest problem I think. You're "job" as far as meeting men is so incredibly easy. It pretty much totally consists of shooting down guys until you decide one has enough of whatever it is you're looking for. It's a real shame.
Absolutely not true! The reverse can be said too0 -
lmao. he is spot on. Deny it all you like, he is completely correct.Maybe you ladies would agree more if you didn't get approached so much, I dunno. That's the biggest problem I think. You're "job" as far as meeting men is so incredibly easy. It pretty much totally consists of shooting down guys until you decide one has enough of whatever it is you're looking for. It's a real shame.
False.
You could go to any nightlife venue in the world and have your pic of most of the men there with almost no effort...if that was your desire.0 -
So I've determined a lot of women on this site are OK with big guys but all the ones I meet in real life aren't. And as I've said a milllllllion times walking up to a woman takes confidence. Maybe you ladies would agree more if you didn't get approached so much, I dunno. That's the biggest problem I think. You're "job" as far as meeting men is so incredibly easy. It pretty much totally consists of shooting down guys until you decide one has enough of whatever it is you're looking for. It's a real shame.
Have you tried the online dating route? Just fire off as many messages as you can to the women you find interesting, I'm sure you're bound to get a reply! Like others have said in earlier pages, maybe you're approaching the wrong kind of women? I think at least online, you can read and get a feel of the person before going for it. And getting shot down online is a lot better than in person. :laugh:0 -
lmao. he is spot on. Deny it all you like, he is completely correct.
No, no, no! Not all women do this!!!0 -
Maybe you ladies would agree more if you didn't get approached so much, I dunno. That's the biggest problem I think. You're "job" as far as meeting men is so incredibly easy. It pretty much totally consists of shooting down guys until you decide one has enough of whatever it is you're looking for. It's a real shame.
False.
Completely false0 -
the same weight you would expect a women to be.0
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Confidence is a very important factor. You should also be mindful in the type of woman you are approaching; some can be shallow, mean or even shy.0
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the same weight you would expect a women to be.
I'd expect most women would weight less than me LOL. I mean i'm 245.0 -
Some girls can be very shallow as well as some guys! Those that don't look past your size and see you for the great person that you are..well then they aren't worth talking to in my book!0
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I don't know about everyone who is saying "approaching the wrong girls"... maybe, but how are you approaching them? If you come off as overly creepy/aggressive/weird, no girl wants that... so unless you are just being genuine, laidback and friendly I wouldn't necessarily assume it's just because of your weight. Again, I don't know how you're approaching them, just saying that might factor in to what sort of response you get as well (rather than just saying "oh something is wrong with the girl").0
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You need to have confidence.
It's hard, I know..I struggle with it a lot.
But strong confidence will go a long ways.
Yes!! Regardless of weight confidence is always good! That's how my husband got my attention and he is a big guy
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Everyone has the right to their own preferences. Calling some women shallow for not being attracted to this particular person is ridiculous.
As for OP, if you are approaching women who aren't interested in you, they won't become interested if you lose weight. Suck it up and try again.0
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