So at what weight do women actually respond to a guy?

willwillywilson
willwillywilson Posts: 229
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So when I was 290 the last girl I approached before starting my weight loss back up literally turned around on walked away without acknowledging me. At 245 I guess things have improved in the sense they'll talk to me for 30 seconds until they come up with an excuse to get away but still. So guys who have lost weight or to all the women out there, when does it actually get better? I mean do I need to be a fitness model or something because that's probably a bit out of reach.
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  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    You need to have confidence.

    It's hard, I know..I struggle with it a lot.

    But strong confidence will go a long ways.
  • angelicarubi
    angelicarubi Posts: 148 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.

    ^^^^^
  • ladyfox1979
    ladyfox1979 Posts: 405 Member
    Do you bathe everyday? Cuz women like men who bathe.:tongue:
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    You need to have confidence.

    It's hard, I know..I struggle with it a lot.

    But strong confidence will go a long ways.

    Confidence is it. Just like with women, men have to have confidence. And I'm not talking the fake "Lookit me, lookit me crap." I'm talking real self confidence. We know the difference just like you (men) do.
  • zombiesama
    zombiesama Posts: 755 Member
    for me 220, I am 5'8" if that helps any.
  • LesleeBeAlive
    LesleeBeAlive Posts: 504
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.
  • bethybug51
    bethybug51 Posts: 1
    In my personal opinion, there is no weight where things get better. It's the so-called "women" that have their standards higher than they should be. You're just approaching the wrong women.

    It'll get better, they're just shallow.
  • lkplibra
    lkplibra Posts: 147 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.

    ^^^^^^ Agreed!
  • n0ob
    n0ob Posts: 2,390 Member
    I started getting approached by women (and hot women) during my weight loss in college after I hit about 225 and mid teens % body fat.

    Really is pathetic that you get treated SO differently. My biggest thing that I noticed was waitresses/customer service being MUCH nice to me.

    Hell, I ate more when I was fat (thus ordered more/paid more on the bill) you should have been nice to me then...
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.

    This!
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    Do you bathe everyday? Cuz women like men who bathe.:tongue:

    And this!
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    I agree that this has far more to do with confidence and charisma than weight. I know guys who are significantly overweight who get more @$$ than a toilet seat, and other well-build guys who can't get the time of day from most women. I'd also agree that you might be approaching the wrong women.
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.
    This.

    My husband is 6'2", 230 lbs. He's got a bit of chunk in his tummy trunk, but he's still a dead sexy beast.


    Oh, and I approached him.
  • treineck
    treineck Posts: 103 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.
    this was the perfect answer ^^^^
  • WickedGarden
    WickedGarden Posts: 944 Member
    some women are shallow, some are not.

    Really what turns women on is confidence, not arrogance (there is a fine line between the two). Be friendly, have a sense of humor, sociable.

    if you have a hot body and are a douche, you will still be lonely.
  • _AllieCat_
    _AllieCat_ Posts: 515 Member
    You need to have confidence.

    It's hard, I know..I struggle with it a lot.

    But strong confidence will go a long ways.

    You're right ^
    It has everything to do with how you carry yourself and speak to women. Most of us don't mind extra weight, entertain our minds and we will give you a chance. We are a lot less superficial than men think we are. The good ones, at least.
  • VorJoshigan
    VorJoshigan Posts: 1,106 Member
    It's (mostly) not your weight, it's (mostly) you.

    The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more comfortable they will be with you.
  • enigmachik
    enigmachik Posts: 150
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.

    This.

    It's not a matter of getting down to a certain weight. It's a matter of finding a woman who will love you inside and out. I promise you, we're out there. Keep looking. if you're rejected, chalk it up to them not being the right one for you and move on. Never give up!!
  • ILoveTheBrowns
    ILoveTheBrowns Posts: 661 Member
    well ima t 185 so its obviously below 185
  • bananapancakebella
    bananapancakebella Posts: 178
    Seriously the wrong girls. It is simply rude to ignore a person like that. Expect girls to treat you like a human being, even if they say no to a date. Also there is no weight when girls start paying attention. Weight shouldn't matter that much. At what weight do you start paying attention to women? I hope you don't have an answer to that.
  • Angie_Fritts
    Angie_Fritts Posts: 263 Member
    Yep you are walking up to the wrong girls. And ,I also agree with the confindence thing. Confident men are sexy!
  • Skinny_minny_mo
    Skinny_minny_mo Posts: 1,272 Member
    i think its great that you are going to chat to girls - for most men its a numbers game.

    be yourself, be funny, be confident (as others have said).

    i've only ever had ONE guy who was overweight come and chat to me. he was the waiter at a restaurant i went to and asked for my number. and you know what, i gave it to him. nothing sparked but we are still good friends :)

    keep on trying mr!
  • Ninjarider85
    Ninjarider85 Posts: 20
    man i agree with the ladies on here, ur going up to the wrong girls, i was 250lbs last month and still had girls flirting with me, now im down to 228 and i do seem to get noticed even more but im very confident in myself, theres plenty of women out there, just gotta know which ones are worth talking to and which ones are stuck up snobs that only want someone has a six pack and money
  • Skinny_minny_mo
    Skinny_minny_mo Posts: 1,272 Member
    well ima t 185 so its obviously below 185

    lol :)
  • heatherloveslifting
    heatherloveslifting Posts: 1,428 Member
    Really is pathetic that you get treated SO differently. My biggest thing that I noticed was waitresses/customer service being MUCH nice to me.

    Men do this too. I get doors opened for me constantly now. It's sad to think about.

    After the disclaimer that I'm married and therefore don't count, personality is EVERYTHING. And I know some guys that I think are smoking hot at 6'1" and around 235-270ish.
  • treineck
    treineck Posts: 103 Member
    well ima t 185 so its obviously below 185
    and you must be walking up to the wrong girls also
  • girlykate143
    girlykate143 Posts: 220 Member
    my answer got lost in the ether. . .
    I would totally talk to you if you were funny or quirky or had a shaved head. But, knowing how tall you are might help to understand what 245 looks like. I can't really tell how much a guy weighs.
    Maybe your question should be: How confident do I have to be before a woman will spend more than 30 seconds talking to me.
  • lydia_the_tattooed_lady
    lydia_the_tattooed_lady Posts: 324 Member
    I have never judged a guy by weight. I've gone for all sizes, heights, races, hair color, eye color....it's really just a personality thing for me.
  • Goddessmaker1
    Goddessmaker1 Posts: 114 Member
    It's mad funny but not funny to see a guy go through this. I think about this all the time because the type of guys that come at me think I must be a easy fat **** or will hold them down or something money wise..I'm much to fly to even entertain but it still pisses me off.

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